A few weeks ago, Tamar came across an instagram post in which a woman sent a Venmo request to the woman who had an affair with her husband. In the memo, she explained that since this woman played a role in her divorce, the other woman should at least contribute to it financially. She hashtagged the memo with "homewrecker"

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This got Tamar thinking about accountability and who is actually responsible for the end of a marriage. Spoiler alert: it's not the woman who didn't take vows.

In this episode, Tamar:

• Breaks down the misogyny behind the concept of the homewrecker and why we need to stop using the word
• Looks at how the idea of "girl code" stays with women throughout their lives
• Focuses on the importance of holding men, and men alone, accountable for the actions of men
• Differentiates between being responsible for causing pain and being responsible for the status of a marriage.

Share your thought on this episode on Instagram or email Tamar at tamar@nbdivorcecoaching.com. Happy listening!

I am so excited to welcome Joelle Perez to the podcast to discuss mediation and why it's such a great option for people looking to end their marriages.

Joelle Perez is a compassionate and experienced divorce mediation attorney who serves as a neutral third party, helping clients reach mutually agreeable settlements with dignity and respect. Her mediation style is rooted in creating a safe, supportive environment that prioritizes the emotional and financial well-being of both spouses—and their children.

Having personally navigated divorce mediation, Joelle brings a unique and deeply empathetic perspective to her work. She understands firsthand the emotional challenges her clients face, which allows her to approach each case with sensitivity, insight, and a genuine commitment to helping families transition with care.

Joelle is the founder of Peacemaker Divorce Mediation, a practice dedicated to guiding clients through the divorce process in a cooperative, amicable, and cost-effective way. Her mission is to help individuals move forward with clarity, control, and compassion.

In addition to her private practice, Joelle is a leader in the field of divorce mediation. She is the Past President of the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, the former Chair of the Council’s Nominating Committee, and former Co-Chair of its Education Committee. She also serves as Program Manager for the Long Island Collaborative Divorce Professionals, working to advance collaborative approaches to family law.

On this week's installment of the New Beginning's podcast, Tamar welcomes Nanette Murphy to talk about Netflix's new show, Four Seasons.

A remake of a 1981 film of the same name, Four Seasons follows three couples in their 50s, all best friends since college, through one year of their lives -- as one of them decides he's ready to end his marriage and start a new chapter.

Tamar is thrilled to be joined by Nanette Murphy to unpack these characters and their stories.

Nanette Murphy is a dedicated Divorce and Life Reinvention Coach for women over 40, who understands the unique challenges that come with navigating life after divorce. Having experienced her own journey of healing and growth after a 25-year marriage, she has spent the last decade transforming her pain into purpose. Her mission is to empower women to prepare for the divorce process, gain essential knowledge, and ultimately thrive in their new lives. Nanette walks alongside her clients, offering support, guidance, and a compassionate ear as they heal, grow, and rediscover their true selves.

You can find Nanette at her website livelifenowwithpurpose.com.

As always you can find Tamar on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoaching or on her website http://nbdivorcecoaching.com.