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In Part Two of this deeply personal conversation, Gen continues to unpack the emotional and psychological weight of her marriage to Sam. She revisits the choice to marry him—what influenced it, what she ignored, and what it’s like to relive those decisions in hindsight.

Gen also opens up about her personal journey through therapy, what led her to become a therapist herself, and the lasting imprint Sam’s behavior left on her long after the relationship ended.

This episode is raw, reflective, and at times, difficult. Gen doesn’t shy away from sharing both the healthy and unhealthy ways she coped, offering a nuanced look at what healing can actually look like.

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“I didn’t feel emotionally safe anymore.”

In this episode, Gen opens up about when things actually started feeling off, what made her say yes in the first place, and how she ignored the red flags.

A woman-to-woman conversation on boundaries, alignment, and what happens when the vibe changes after “I do.”

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Money talks. And in this episode, Sam and Gen talk back.

In this conversation, the formerly married pair unpack who actually carried the financial weight in their marriage—and what that even means. Was it 50/50? What about the planning, the execution, the stress? They dive into how gender roles, cultural expectations, and unspoken assumptions all shaped their approach to money as a couple.

Topics include:

– Why 50/50 isn’t always fair

– Who thought they were leading financially (and who actually was)

– How culture shaped their beliefs about money

– The mental load of financial planning

– What they'd do differently now

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The debate continues...

In this follow-up episode, Sam and Gen are joined once again by guest hosts Timo and Valeria to dig even deeper into the emotional dynamics that shaped their past relationship. Picking up right where they left off, the group explores how emotional responsibility was—or wasn’t—shared, how it felt at the time, and what each person has come to realize in hindsight.

Expect candid reflections, some surprising admissions, and moments that blur the line between healing and hilarity.

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Sam and Gen, like you've never seen them before...

In this podcast episode, hosts Sam and Gen welcome guest hosts Timo and Valeria for a lively debate about who was more of an emotional "pillar" in their marriage. The former couple delves into the emotional dynamics of their past relationship, exploring key pillars of emotional intelligence such as self-awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation. Both Sam and Gen provide candid reflections on their own experiences.

As you'll see, Sam and Gen have strongly differing opinions on emotional support in relationships, which they unpack in even greater detail in Pt. 2 (released in June 2025).

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In the second round of our "Who Carried The Relationship?" series, Sam and Gen continue their deep dive into the spiritual aspects of their relationship. Together with Joel, our hosts delve deeper into the complexities of spiritual leadership and discuss the burden of spiritual expectations, the impact of addiction, and the challenges of merging lives with differing spiritual priorities.

Guest host Joel Witton helps Sam and Gen uncover the role of community, brutal transparency, and consistent spiritual practices in sustaining a relationship.

01:26 Living Together and Addiction Struggles

02:36 Spiritual Leadership and Equally Yoked

05:38 The Breaking Point and Confession

06:59 Reflecting on Spiritual Efforts

15:59 Advice for Their Younger Selves

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Exciting news! We're starting a new series called "Who Carried The Relationship?" In this batch of episodes, Sam and Gen will vote on, then debate, who they believe did a better job in their marriage at leading in various areas (finances, emotional intelligence, spirituality, and more).In today's episode, Sam and Gen discuss the significance of a spiritual connection in relationships, highlighting how shared spirituality can form a robust foundation and exploring various interpretations of spirituality beyond conventional religious practices.Sam and Gen examine the necessity of aligning faith and relationships. They discuss how differing spiritual beliefs can affect marriage dynamics and share personal anecdotes reflecting the influence of their shared Christian faith on their marriage, both positively and negatively.Our guest host Joel, who has known Gen since high school, opens up a debate on whether spiritual responsibilities should be equally shared.Sam and Gen also talk through some of the distinctions between religion and spirituality, and offer advice on supporting a partner’s spiritual growth. Please support the show by subscribing!☎️ Have a question you’d like Sam and Gen to answer? DM us on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/samandgengotdivorced/Please support the show by subscribing!👨 Follow Joel:https://www.instagram.com/cornercounsellor/https://www.facebook.com/genevieve.alao.5/👀 Follow Gen:https://www.instagram.com/cornercounsellor/https://www.facebook.com/genevieve.alao.5/👋🏾 Follow Sam:https://www.instagram.com/samueltheconnector/https://www.linkedin.com/in/sr3ms/👩🏿‍🤝‍👨🏾Follow The Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/samandgengotdivorced/https://tiktok.com/@samandgengotdivorced

In the second part of this discussion, Sam, Jeff and Gen uncover how everyday nuisances like stray socks can escalate into bigger issues if ignored. You'll also hear more of Sam's personal story of working through addiction and its effect on his marriage.

Sam and Gen go deep on how unresolved minor issues might snowball into major obstacles, and why intimacy is helpful for enduring such challenges. Together with Jeff , the trio delve into strategies for conflict resolution, emphasizing open communication and shared responsibilities and displaying how both vulnerability and humor can be healing forces that help to rebuild intimacy after conflicts.

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