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  • Can Couples Heal After Cheating? Where Therapy Gets It Wrong with Rebecca Stone

    Can Couples Heal After Cheating? Where Therapy Gets It Wrong with Rebecca Stone
    Jun 24 2025
    After infidelity, is healing even possible? In this episode, Alayna Joy sits down with somatic and couples therapist Rebecca Stone to explore betrayal trauma, what causes people to cheat, and how couples can move forward after an affair. This week’s full extended cut (normally for Patreon members-only) is free for everyone. To get ALL the other extended cuts, join here: patreon.com/alaynajoy Connect with Rebecca: Website: affairrecoverycoach.com Group Practice: brooklynsomatictherapy.com https://www.instagram.com/affairrecoverycoach/ Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 4 min
  • Are We All Traumatized? A Conversation with Bhupie Dulay & Abby Chow

    Are We All Traumatized? A Conversation with Bhupie Dulay & Abby Chow
    Jun 17 2025
    In this inspiring conversation, Alayna sits down with Abby and Bhupie—therapists and co-creators of Prospect Counselling + Training—to unpack the big, messy questions around trauma and healing. Are we all traumatized? What does healing actually look like, beyond the therapy room? And how do we unlearn harmful beliefs about what healing “should” be? Whether you're in therapy, offering therapy, or dreaming of new models for care and community, this episode is for you. Check out Prospect Counselling + Training : https://www.prospectcounselling.ca/ https://www.instagram.com/reflectingonjustice/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/prospectcounselling/?hl=en Email : connect@prospectcounselling.ca Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 13 min
  • What Is Kink? Understanding BDSM with Stefani Goerlich

    What Is Kink? Understanding BDSM with Stefani Goerlich
    Jun 11 2025
    Sex therapist and author Stefani Goerlich joins us to break down the basics: What is kink? What is BDSM? How do you know if you’re “vanilla”—and is that a bad thing? We talk red flags, green flags, and what to keep in mind if you're just starting to explore. Whether you're curious, cautious, or ready to dive in, this episode is your judgment-free guide to kink! FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy Connect with Stefani: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/ https://www.instagram.com/boundtogethercounseling/?hl=en Get Her Books: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/books-by-stefani Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 4 min
  • Coming Out Late with Robin Douglass

    Coming Out Late with Robin Douglass
    May 27 2025
    Check out Dossier Perfumes: https://dossier.co/ #dossier #dossierperfumes @dossierperfumes “It’s better late than never—because it’s never too late.” – Robin Douglass In this heartfelt conversation, Alayna is joined by Robin Douglass, an educator and coach who helps people come out later in life. Together, they explore what it means to question your identity as an adult, how to move forward without regret, and what to actually DO once you realize you yourself are a “late bloomer". It’s a tender, empowering reminder that your truth is still yours—no matter when you find it. This one’s for anyone figuring it out a little later. 💛 Connect with Robin: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Gx7Yk9ZofJZWGzUZGDGgU Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/late.blooming.lesbian/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 5 min
  • Couple’s Therapist Reveals Secret to Healthy Conflict

    Couple’s Therapist Reveals Secret to Healthy Conflict
    May 20 2025
    Why do even the best relationships get stuck in cycles of conflict? FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy In this episode, Alayna is joined by compassion-focused therapist and educator Michelle Becker to explore what really happens when we're triggered in relationships—and how we can bring more mindfulness, kindness, and connection into the moments that test us most. From the science of the threat-defense system (a.k.a. fight, flight, freeze) to the emotional skills we wish we learned in school, Michelle shares clear, compassionate tools to help you move from reaction to repair. Whether you're struggling to set boundaries, communicate clearly, or just want to argue better, this conversation is for you. And don’t miss Michelle’s unexpected answer to how much conflict is too much—it might just change how you think about your relationship. Check out her book Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection Well Connected Relationships podcast https://wisecompassion.com/ Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    49 min
  • Dating with Insecure Attachment: From Anxious to Avoidant with Heidi Priebe

    Dating with Insecure Attachment: From Anxious to Avoidant with Heidi Priebe
    May 13 2025
    Ever wonder why you get super anxious—or totally shut down—in relationships? FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy In this episode, Alayna is joined by writer, speaker, and attachment theory expert Heidi Priebe for a deep dive into the world of attachment styles: what they are, where they come from, and how they quietly (or not so quietly) shape the way we show up in relationship. Together, they break down the basics of attachment theory in a way that’s actually relatable, and explore how to use this knowledge to build more secure, flexible, and connected relationships. Connect with Heidi here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeidiPriebe1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h et 7 min
  • Therapy in the Age of TikTok with Gabriel Ray-Contreras

    Therapy in the Age of TikTok with Gabriel Ray-Contreras
    May 6 2025
    FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy In this episode, we’re unpacking how therapy has changed in the age of TikTok, and what all the online advice is really doing to our understanding of mental health. Alayna is joined by Gabriel Ray-Contreras, who is a former medical doctor turned counsellor, educator, and podcaster. Together they explore how trauma is talked about, the rise of “Insta-therapy,” and how to know when it’s time to question the advice you’re seeing on your feed. Some questions covered: Is TikTok helping or hurting our understanding of mental health? What’s the difference between a trauma response and a trauma disorder? How do we know if a therapist is the right fit, or potentially doing harm? What does it mean to be a trauma informed counsellor? Listen to Therapy After Hours here: https://open.spotify.com/show/4wEjGRb96j4PIfOXBmAcms?si=ecc371cbbf32481c&nd=1&dlsi=d01b73ef81714b01 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    49 min
  • The Masc Shortage Is a Myth—and Other Queer Sexuality Lies with Eva Bloom

    The Masc Shortage Is a Myth—and Other Queer Sexuality Lies with Eva Bloom
    Apr 29 2025
    This week on Sleeping Around Alayna is joined by Eva Bloom, an award-winning non-binary sex educator and queer joy enthusiast. Whether you're just coming into your queerness or exploring intimacy for the first time, this episode is for everyone who’s ever wondered: Where do I even begin? Some Questions Covered: What does it mean to be a “late bloomer”? What often gets missed about pleasure anatomy? How do I build confidence to have real conversations about desire and pleasure? What’s missing from traditional sex education and how do we do it better for queer and trans folks? Why do dating apps fail queer users, and how can we actually find queer community offline? 👀 Extended cut available now on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/MissFenderr Eva Bloom (they/them) is an award-winning non-binary, queer sexuality educator and community facilitator. They help late bloomers foster confidence, queer joy, and have amazing sex. They facilitate a virtual club for Late Bloomers called the F*ck Comphet Support Club, which meets monthly to connect on all things sapphic and late bloomer experiences, and a Discord. You can find them at @whatmsybodydoing on Instagram and Tik Tok. Links for folks! https://www.patreon.com/FckComphetSupportClub https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/ evabloom.ca Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    44 min