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  • E986 When Retirement Feels Like a Breakup | Tactical Living Podcast

    E986 When Retirement Feels Like a Breakup | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 25 2025
    You turned in your gear. You walked out the door. But why does it feel like something died? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore why retirement from law enforcement (Amazon Affiliate) or fire service often feels like heartbreak—and what it takes to rebuild a new identity, purpose, and sense of belonging on the other side. 🔎 Episode Overview: Retirement is supposed to be a reward. But for many first responders, it feels more like grief. After years of adrenaline, structure, and camaraderie, stepping away from the job can bring unexpected waves of loss, confusion, and emotional disconnection. This episode takes a raw look at the emotional side of retirement—why it hurts, what no one prepares you for, and how to rewire your mindset to build a future that’s full of meaning, even after the badge. 🧠 5 Signs Retirement Feels Like a Breakup You Feel Like You Lost a Part of Yourself Example: Without the badge, you’re unsure who you are or where you fit. Impact: Identity crisis and emotional numbness. You Miss the Team More Than the Work Example: You’re fine without the job—but lonely without the locker room. Impact: Loss of connection and brotherhood. You Struggle With Boredom or Lack of Structure Example: Days feel long, empty, or directionless. Impact: Can lead to depression, anxiety, or regret. You Downplay the Emotions Because It “Should Be a Good Thing” Example: Everyone celebrates—but inside, you're grieving. Impact: Suppresses real feelings and delays healing. You Compare Yourself to Who You Used to Be Example: You feel like your best days are behind you. Impact: Prevents growth and steals joy from the present. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Rebuild Identity and Purpose After Retirement Acknowledge the Grief Without Shame You didn’t just leave a job—you left a lifestyle, a tribe, a purpose. Let yourself mourn it. Redefine Purpose on Your Terms What mission excites you now? It doesn't need a uniform to matter. Reconnect With the Human Behind the Badge Explore hobbies, relationships, or passions that were put on hold during the job. Create New Community With People Who “Get It” Join veteran responder groups, volunteer, or mentor. Brotherhood doesn’t retire—you just have to find it again. Celebrate the Chapter That Was—Then Turn the Page Honor your career, but don’t stay stuck in it. You’ve still got more to give—and more to live. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Retirement isn’t the end—it’s a new beginning. But like any breakup, healing starts with honesty. You’re allowed to miss it. You’re allowed to rebuild. And you’re allowed to thrive beyond the badge. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to navigate the emotional aftermath of retirement and start writing the next powerful chapter of your life. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    10 min
  • E985 The Emotional Toll of Missing Holidays in Uniform | Tactical Living Podcast

    E985 The Emotional Toll of Missing Holidays in Uniform | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 23 2025
    You signed up to serve. But no one warned you how much it would hurt to miss the moments that matter most. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the hidden emotional cost of working holidays year after year (Amazon Affiliate)—and how it slowly chips away at connection, tradition, and even self-worth. 🔎 Episode Overview: Missing a holiday shift here and there is expected. But when you're always on duty while your family celebrates without you, the emotional fallout goes deeper than most people realize. This episode dives into how working holidays affects long-term family connection, your own memories and rituals, and how the absence can quietly turn into resentment—from you, your spouse, or your kids. You’ll learn how to make peace with the role, honor what you're sacrificing, and rebuild meaningful traditions—on or off the calendar. 🧠 5 Emotional Realities of Missing Holidays for Years You Feel Disconnected From Family Traditions Example: You forget what your own holiday routines even looked like. Impact: Creates emotional distance and a sense of being left out of your own life. Your Kids Associate the Holidays With Your Absence Example: “Daddy’s always gone on Christmas.” Impact: Shapes childhood memories with feelings of loss or confusion. Your Spouse Feels Like They’re Doing It All Alone Example: Planning, decorating, cooking, parenting—without you. Impact: Builds quiet resentment and emotional fatigue. You Start to Numb Out or Dread the Season Entirely Example: Holidays no longer excite you—they make you feel bitter or detached. Impact: Prevents joy, connection, and meaningful reflection. You Avoid Talking About How Much It Actually Hurts Example: “It’s just part of the job,” becomes a coping phrase. Impact: Buries pain instead of processing it, deepening long-term emotional strain. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reclaim Meaning—Even When You’re Working Create “Alternate Holidays” on Your Days Off Make your own traditions on different days. The date isn’t what matters—the connection is. Leave a Presence, Even If You Can’t Be There Letters, videos, gifts, or planned activities can help your family feel seen even in your absence. Be Honest With Your Family About the Sacrifice Let them know how much it matters to you—even if you can’t be home. Make Peace With the Role, But Not at the Cost of Your Emotions Acknowledge the loss. Don’t normalize pain just because it’s routine. Find One Ritual That Grounds You in the Season Even if it’s just a holiday playlist during patrol—something to remind you that this time still matters. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Serving during the holidays is a sacrifice—but it doesn’t mean you're not allowed to feel the weight of it. Your absence doesn’t make you less important. It makes you human—and worthy of finding connection in new, creative ways. 🎙️ Listen now to unpack the long-term emotional effects of working holidays and learn how to honor what you’ve missed without losing what still matters most. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    10 min
  • E984 When Your Spouse and Your Law Enforcement Career Clash | Tactical Living Podcast

    E984 When Your Spouse and Your Law Enforcement Career Clash | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 21 2025
    You’re married to the badge (Amazon Affiliate)—and to each other. But what happens when those two worlds start pulling in opposite directions? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the tension that builds when your law enforcement career starts to conflict with your marriage—and how to protect both without losing either. 🔎 Episode Overview: The long shifts, emotional exhaustion, missed holidays, and unpredictable danger of the job can wear down even the strongest relationship. Over time, what started as pride and support can shift into frustration, resentment, or disconnect. This episode dives into the real-life collisions between duty and domestic life, helping you understand where conflict comes from, how to talk about it without going to war, and what it takes to fight for your marriage while still honoring your mission. 🧠 5 Signs Your Career Is Creating Stress in Your Marriage Your Partner Feels Like They’re Competing With the Job Example: They say, “You’re married to your shift—not to me.” Impact: Leads to emotional withdrawal and communication breakdowns. You Use Work to Avoid Conflict at Home Example: Volunteering for overtime just to escape the tension. Impact: Deepens division and delays healing. Your Spouse Feels Shut Out From Your Emotional World Example: You don’t talk about your stress, but it shows up in your tone and behavior. Impact: Creates emotional walls and confusion for your partner. You’re Always in “Protector Mode” at Home Example: You micromanage routines, control decisions, or react defensively. Impact: Makes your partner feel policed, not partnered. You Both Avoid Talking About the Real Issue Example: Surface-level arguments cover deeper pain—like fear, loneliness, or unmet needs. Impact: Keeps both of you stuck in the same unhealthy loop. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reconnect When the Job and Marriage Are at Odds Name the Conflict Without Blame Start with: “I feel like we’ve been drifting, and I want to fix that—together.” Share the Emotional Cost of the Job—Not Just the Details Your partner doesn’t need the call log—they need you. Be real about what you’re carrying. Create Time That’s Sacred and Screen-Free Even one night a week without phones or talk about work can reset your connection. Let Your Spouse Into Your World Without Making It Their Burden Share just enough for understanding—not so much that it traumatizes or overwhelms. Get Help Before Things Break Down There’s no shame in needing support. Marriage counseling or coaching can be a tactical move—not a last resort. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The job demands a lot—but so does your marriage. You can serve your community and your partner… but not without intention. Connection doesn’t just happen—it has to be protected. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to navigate the clash between duty and devotion—and how to rebuild your relationship before the distance becomes permanent. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    11 min
  • E983 The Lone Wolf Lie: Why You Don’t Have to Fix It Alone | Tactical Living Podcast

    E983 The Lone Wolf Lie: Why You Don’t Have to Fix It Alone | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 18 2025
    “I’ll handle it.” It’s a mindset that feels honorable—but often becomes isolating. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton challenge the myth that you have to solve everything on your own (Amazon Affiliate) —and explore what happens when the “lone wolf” mentality becomes more harmful than heroic. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders are trained to lead, respond quickly, and stay in control. But when that mindset bleeds into personal struggles, relationships, and mental health, it can create emotional isolation, chronic stress, and quiet burnout. This episode dives into the belief that asking for help is weakness, the cultural factors that reinforce it, and the real strength it takes to lean into support—both on the job and at home. 🧠 5 Signs You’ve Fallen Into the Lone Wolf Trap You Rarely Ask for Help—Even When You’re Overwhelmed Example: You take on every task at home or work without delegating. Impact: Leads to burnout and hidden resentment. You Feel Weak or Ashamed When You Can’t Handle Something Alone Example: You avoid therapy or peer support because it feels like failure. Impact: Keeps struggles unaddressed and emotional wounds unhealed. You Hide Your Struggles to Keep Up Appearances Example: You act like everything’s fine—even when it’s not. Impact: Creates emotional disconnection from those who care. You Push Others Away When They Offer Support Example: You shut down or deflect when someone asks if you're okay. Impact: Reinforces the belief that you’re alone in what you’re going through. You Take Pride in “Suffering in Silence” Example: You believe enduring quietly is a badge of honor. Impact: Turns internal struggle into long-term emotional harm. 🛠️ 5 Healthier Alternatives to the Lone Wolf Mentality Reframe Asking for Help as Tactical Strength You’d never shame a teammate for calling backup—apply that same logic to yourself. Build a Circle of Trust Before Crisis Hits Identify peers, mentors, or professionals you can turn to when things get heavy. Practice Vulnerability in Small Doses Start with safe conversations. You don’t have to spill everything—just start opening the door. Use Team-Based Thinking in Your Personal Life Whether it’s parenting, finances, or stress—view your household as a unit, not a one-man show. Acknowledge That True Strength Requires Community Every warrior has a tribe. Find yours and lean into it when it counts most. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Being the strong one doesn’t mean being the only one. You were never meant to do this life—or this job—alone. Let’s rewrite the narrative: Asking for help is not surrender. It’s strategy. 🎙️ Listen now to break the lone wolf mindset and discover the freedom that comes with shared strength, connection, and support. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    11 min
  • E982 Who Are You Without the Badge? | Tactical Living Podcast

    E982 Who Are You Without the Badge? | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 16 2025
    If the job ended tomorrow—who would you be? In this deeply reflective episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the personal identity crisis many first responders face when their sense of self is completely wrapped in the badge… and what it means to start building a life that has purpose (Amazon Affiliate), meaning, and value beyond the uniform. 🔎 Episode Overview: The badge becomes more than a job—it becomes who you are. But promotions, injuries, retirement, or unexpected exits can shake that identity to its core. This episode challenges you to consider: Are you building a life that will still feel whole when the radio goes silent? Whether you're new to the job, nearing retirement, or somewhere in between, this conversation helps you reflect on your true identity—outside of rank, shift, or status—and gives you the tools to start developing it now. 🧠 5 Signs Your Identity Is Too Tied to the Badge You Struggle to Talk About Interests Outside the Job Example: When asked what you enjoy, you default to work stories. Impact: Limits your sense of self beyond your profession. You Feel Aimless or Anxious During Extended Time Off Example: Vacation or injury leave makes you feel disconnected or useless. Impact: Reveals a gap between who you are and what you do. Your Relationships Revolve Around Work Conversations Example: The badge shows up at the dinner table, even when you're home. Impact: Prevents emotional presence and variety in connection. You Can’t Picture Life After Retirement Example: You avoid thinking about what comes next. Impact: Creates fear of the future and delays personal growth. You Feel Lost Without the Uniform Example: Days off feel like you’re “out of place” in your own skin. Impact: Sign of a fractured identity in need of expansion. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reclaim and Rebuild Your Identity Outside the Job Start Exploring Interests That Have Nothing to Do With Work Try a hobby, activity, or passion that reminds you of who you are outside the job. Build Relationships That Aren’t Tied to Your Role Create community that isn’t dependent on the badge—people who love you, not your position. Visualize Who You Want to Be in the Next Chapter What kind of person, partner, or parent do you want to become? Start building that version now. Reflect on Your Core Values—Not Just Your Training Are you loyal, creative, funny, wise, compassionate? Let those qualities lead. Ask Yourself Weekly: What Did I Do This Week That Had Nothing to Do With the Job? Track your progress. Expand your identity—one small step at a time. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The badge is part of your story—not the whole book. When you build a life rooted in who you are instead of what you do, you create lasting strength, resilience, and freedom. 🎙️ Listen now to rediscover your identity beyond the uniform—and start building a future that’s grounded in you. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    10 min
  • E981 Afraid to Ask for Help: The Stigma Around EAP in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast

    E981 Afraid to Ask for Help: The Stigma Around EAP in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 14 2025
    The tools are there. The support is available. But many officers still don’t reach out. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore why so many first responders are afraid to use their Employee Assistance Program (EAP)—and how to shift the culture of silence around seeking help (Amazon Affiliate). 🔎 Episode Overview: Your department says it’s okay to get help. But inside the locker room? It still feels like weakness. The EAP is supposed to be a resource—but for many, it feels like a risk. This episode takes an honest look at the unspoken fear, pride, and stigma that stop officers from getting the mental health support they need—and offers real, actionable steps to change the story, both personally and culturally. 🧠 5 Reasons Officers Avoid Using EAP Benefits Fear of Career Repercussions Example: “Will they flag me? Will this be on my record?” Impact: Keeps officers suffering in silence even when help is within reach. Mistrust in Confidentiality Example: Worrying a supervisor or HR will somehow find out. Impact: Undermines the safety and credibility of the program. Stigma From Peers or the Department Culture Example: “He’s seeing someone? Must be soft.” Impact: Discourages vulnerability and creates emotional isolation. Belief That Help Is for When You’re “Broken” Example: Waiting until a complete breakdown to reach out. Impact: Misses the opportunity for early, effective support. Not Knowing What Services Are Actually Available Example: Unclear communication about what the EAP includes. Impact: Leaves many thinking it’s not worth using—or not made for them. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Shift the Narrative and Use the Support You Deserve Redefine Strength as Proactive, Not Just Reactive Getting help before you’re in crisis is the most tactical move you can make. Talk About It Openly With Trusted Peers Normalize the conversation—one honest discussion can shift the entire culture. Educate Yourself on EAP Confidentiality and Access Ask the right questions. Know your rights. Empower yourself with facts. Use the Benefit for More Than Just a Mental Breakdown EAPs often include legal help, family support, financial planning, and more—leverage all of it. Lead by Example—Even Quietly You don’t have to announce it. But when you model help-seeking behavior, others notice. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters You wouldn’t ignore a backup call in the field—so why ignore one for your mind? The sooner we drop the stigma, the stronger we all become. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to overcome fear around using EAP benefits and take ownership of your mental health—on your terms. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    11 min
  • E980 When Your Kids Don’t Want the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast

    E980 When Your Kids Don’t Want the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 11 2025
    You wore the badge with pride. Maybe your father did too. But what happens when your child decides to take a different path? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the emotional impact of legacy pressure—and how to process it when the next generation doesn’t follow in your professional footsteps. 🔎 Episode Overview: For many first responders, the job isn’t just a career—it’s part of the family identity. There’s pride in the tradition, honor in the lineage, and meaning in passing it down. But what if your son or daughter says, “That’s not for me”? This episode dives into the personal and cultural weight of breaking the badge legacy, how to recognize the subtle ways pressure shows up, and how to shift from expectation to unconditional support—while still honoring your own sacrifice and identity. 🧠 5 Signs You Might Be Struggling With Legacy Disappointment You Feel Hurt or Rejected by Their Career Choices Example: You quietly hoped they’d become a firefighter—but they chose art school. Impact: Internal conflict between pride and perceived dismissal of tradition. You Subtly Drop Hints or Bring It Up Often Example: “You’d be great in uniform,” becomes a regular comment. Impact: Creates emotional distance and pressure without realizing it. You Compare Their Life Path to Your Own Example: You struggle to see value in their profession because it’s not “life or death” work. Impact: Limits emotional connection and mutual respect. You Feel Like the Family Legacy Stops With You Example: You feel grief or regret that your badge story won’t be carried on. Impact: Can stir up feelings of purposelessness or personal failure. You Worry They Won’t Understand Your World Without Living It Example: You fear they won’t “get you” if they never serve. Impact: Undermines emotional intimacy and generational connection. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Let Go of Legacy Pressure and Embrace Their Path Honor Your Legacy Without Needing It Repeated Your sacrifice stands on its own. It doesn’t require replication to be meaningful. Be Curious, Not Controlling Ask your child why they chose their path. Learn from them like you’d want them to learn from you. Celebrate Their Bravery in Choosing Differently It takes courage to step away from family expectation. Recognize that strength. Create New Traditions That Aren’t Tied to the Job Start something that builds connection without relying on the uniform. Let Love Define Legacy, Not Occupation What your child becomes professionally is not a measure of how deeply they love or admire you. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The badge may stop at your generation—but the values behind it—courage, service, discipline, and integrity—can live on in any path your child chooses. Legacy isn’t lost. It’s just evolving. 🎙️ Listen now to process the complex emotions behind legacy pressure and learn how to release expectations in exchange for deeper connection and pride in who your child truly is. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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    12 min
  • E979 The Guilt of Surviving: Unspoken Remorse in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast

    E979 The Guilt of Surviving: Unspoken Remorse in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast
    Jul 9 2025
    Why them and not me? It’s a question that haunts many first responders after tragic calls. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton open up the conversation around survivor’s remorse (Amazon Affiliate)—the silent guilt that creeps in when you walk away from something others didn’t. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders are trained to move on quickly, stay sharp, and carry on. But when someone else doesn’t make it—whether it's a partner, a civilian, or even a stranger—it leaves a mark. That invisible weight of survival is often masked by silence, buried beneath duty, and misunderstood even by those closest to you. This episode explores the emotional aftermath of surviving, how guilt can twist into shame, and what healing actually looks like when you're carrying more than just the memory of the moment. 🧠 5 Signs You Might Be Carrying Survivor’s Guilt You Replay the Incident Over and Over Again Example: You obsess about what you could’ve done differently—even when everyone says you did everything right. Impact: Fuels self-blame and emotional exhaustion. You Avoid Talking About the Call or Event Altogether Example: You go silent or shut down whenever the incident is brought up. Impact: Creates internal buildup of grief with no release. You Struggle to Celebrate Life Events or Promotions Example: You feel like you didn’t “earn” your milestones because someone else didn’t make it. Impact: Undermines self-worth and breeds quiet resentment. You Push Down Emotion to “Stay Strong” for Others Example: You carry everyone else's pain but ignore your own. Impact: Delays healing and increases emotional suppression. You Feel a Persistent Sense of Unearned Luck Example: You were supposed to be there—or were—and still survived. Impact: Creates a disconnect between logic and lingering guilt. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Work Through the Guilt of Survival Name What You’re Feeling Without Judgment Guilt, sadness, confusion, even anger—labeling emotion is the first step to releasing it. Tell the Story to Someone Who Can Hold It Whether it’s a peer, therapist, or mentor—don’t carry it alone. Honor the Person or People Lost in a Way That Heals Create a ritual, a tribute, or an act of service in their memory. Separate Responsibility From Outcome You can do everything right and still lose someone. Survival doesn’t mean failure. Give Yourself Permission to Keep Living Fully You didn’t survive to suffer—you survived to live, love, and serve with even deeper purpose. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Survivor’s remorse is rarely talked about—but it’s painfully real. The guilt of surviving doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. And when that guilt is unpacked with compassion, it can lead to profound strength and transformation. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to acknowledge survivor’s guilt, honor what you’ve been through, and give yourself permission to move forward without forgetting. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: STOPBOX – Buy One, Get One Free 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our Private Facebook Group for First Responders & Families 🎥 Subscribe on YouTube for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit LEOWarriors.com for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → Click here (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: ashliewalton555@gmail.com 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: facebook.com/police.fire.lawenforcement
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