Samek covers a “Welcoming Fear” retreat, a cliff-jump release, and practical self-care that reduced neediness by self-attuning. Harry shares a “Garden of Eden” insight, clean boundary setting while sobbing, and using TRE to feel safer and see a core solar-plexus management pattern. Together they compare safety vs. pleasure framing, misattunement triggers, and asking directly for support.

Timestamps

• 00:21 Welcoming Fear and regulation

• 03:11 Post-jump shaking; group support

• 04:39 Airport self-care: humming, touch

• 12:30 Misattunement trigger; self-attunement

• 16:50 “Garden of Eden” insight

• 21:40 Sobbing at dinner; clear boundaries

• 24:50 Solar plexus checking pattern

• 39:16 TRE coaching takeaways

• 1:00:52 Asking for cuddles; permission

Harry and Samek share what they learned from running the first Attunement Residency. Harry explores processing shame by bringing it in, and the role of agreements and culture in creating safety. Samek discusses self-referential triggers, building culture through clear guidelines, and leaving with empowerment and confidence. Together they reflect on culture design, group intelligence, and the experience of unconditional love.

Timestamps

• 00:59 retreat context and structure

• 05:40 Harry on shame and hiding

• 09:40 Samek on triggers as self-referential

• 12:33 no gossip and culture of play

• 18:13 culture design and clear guidelines

• 30:42 authentic agreements and authority

• 36:14 group intelligence and shared insights

• 43:37 Samek on empowerment and self-responsibility

• 49:23 intelligence, imposter syndrome, and compliments

Harry names a new stance toward money, uses a daily gratitude practice, and tests anger coaching while holding clear boundaries and leadership in community conflict. Samek shares a depressive swing, childhood echoes surfaced by caregiving and the film Didi, and what he’s learning from a friend’s devoted, deliberate care. Together they touch on community living, empowerment, and speaking truth without over-filtering.

Timestamps:

• 00:29 Taking his place, liking money

• 01:31 Gratitude practice and work drive

• 04:52 Anger coaching experiment and guilt

• 17:43 Bad meeting, boundaries, leadership

• 21:21 Samek’s depression and inner critic

• 26:59 Didi, shaking, childhood echoes

• 40:02 Loving care takes time

Samek shares the experience of hitting a wall whenever he reaches for something he wants, how it connects to early trauma, and what it’s like to navigate that block in community. Harry explores embracing masculine energy, working with guilt, and the edges of authenticity in dating and relationships. Together they look at boundaries, saying no, and how rejection and love show up in both directions.

Timestamps:

• 00:43 Hitting a wall when wanting

• 03:30 Childhood trauma and fear of death

• 12:16 Learning through community patterns

• 17:25 Sweetness, empowerment, and masculine energy

• 23:16 Flirting, triggers, and authenticity

• 29:26 Who am I without money

• 38:26 Shame, fear, and the wall of guilt

• 47:12 Bullshit, wants, and the wall again

• 56:39 Avoiding no and finding boundaries

Description:
Harry explores a recurring pattern of abandonment, protectors, and confusion, and how it connects to his wants and intimacy. Samek shares his current focus on rest, bullet journaling, and trusting authentic timing. Together they discuss dating, working with the inner critic, the balance of masculine and feminine energy, and processing a recent rupture in their friendship.

Timestamp

• 00:24 Abandonment wound and protector cycle

• 09:01 Fully owning wants in relationships

• 10:41 Rest and bullet journaling in Guatemala

• 22:02 Dating experiments and staying in the heart

• 33:55 Using feminine energy to meet the inner critic

• 42:30 Letting go of agendas and trusting timing

• 48:34 Processing betrayal and repairing friendship

Samek explores how treating boxing as a sacred want turned it into presence, creativity, and a way to heal old trauma. Harry reflects on how deeper empowerment brings both freedom and grief—especially when “maybe later” lingers instead of a clean yes or no. Together they unpack the pain and beauty of honoring wants, owning a no, and letting go of old patterns.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Feeling our no

01:00 – Dao of boxing as presence and healing

06:50 – The grief hidden in empowerment

17:30 – Maybe later: the most painful pattern

32:00 – Owning a clean no vs. stringing along

38:00 – Treating every want as sacred

44:00 – Clarity, boundaries, and real power

52:00 – Fear of being real with some friends

Harry shares how a last-minute decision to attend a kink retreat opened up a deeper experience of asking for what he wants—and receiving it. He explores the grief underneath old strategies for getting love, and the safety of a culture built on attuned consent. Samek reflects on how grief softened his system and made space for stillness, intimacy, and effortless coaching. Together, they explore what happens when there’s no strategy left but truth.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Harry’s week: Earthdance, leaving a crush, and joining a kink retreat
09:00 – What real consent feels like and why it builds trust
14:00 – Samek on grief, coaching, and letting the moment lead
22:00 – Grief as integration and remembering through presence
34:00 – The beauty and heartbreak of not being each other
38:00 – Parenting your own shame and longing
41:00 – When obligation and missing someone coexist
42:50 – Closing + Attunement Residency plug

Samek learns to say “ouch” instead of saving others and rebels less against his own wants. Harry shares about quitting summer camp, letting go of a dream identity, and the surreal transformation that followed. Together they explore the pain of self-sacrifice, the clarity in expressing hurt, and the quiet relief of surrendering to what’s real.

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro: crushes, quitting jobs, and this week’s experiment

00:52 – Saying ouch and letting love in

21:17 – Harry leaves summer camp and lets a dream identity die

34:23 – Samek quits a “perfect” job that wasn’t his life

51:03 – Sharing openly with a crush and an old flame