Continuing our conversation inspired by the book, "What Can I Do About Me? by Ryhll Crowshaw, we discuss self-care. Self-care is just another word for boundaries, but what does it take to really be able to care for ourselves? Join me in this episode where we get to the heart of why we do or do not care for ourselves.

We're talking boundaries again. Ryhll Crowshaw released the 2nd edition of her book, "What Can I Do About Me?" and we discuss the new additions. Ryhll added addendums to further her story 11+ years after the first publishing. Boundaries are one of the most confusing and critical parts of recovery work. We explore the nuances of boundaries, including the difficulties and fruits of setting healthy boundaries.

The B-word! Boundaries! Has such a word ever had so many connotations around it?

In this episode we explore Rhyll Croshaw's book, "What Can I Do About Me?" and her perspectives about boundaries. I share my own personal exploration of boundaries and offer real life examples. I also offer validation for the difficulties and fears that come up with placing healthy boundaries. You're going to want to be sure to listen.

Link to the book: https://a.co/d/93IMqrI

In this episode, I'm discussing the book written by Rhyll Anne Croshaw called "What Can I Do About Me?" She offers important insights about the shame we experience as betrayed partners. I share parts of my story and how shame played a significant role in the trauma of betrayal. The courage to share one story at a time can begin to dispel the shame surrounding betrayal from sex addiction.

This episode is the last one of the series exploring Dr. Kevin Skinner's Book, Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal. I offer my perspective on the concept of Self-Compassion.

Betrayal Trauma affects our very connection to ourselves and self-compassion can be challenging at best to practice. I look at the barriers to self-compassion that Dr. Skinner's identifies as well as ways to implement it, which includes gentle observation.

In this episode we explore what safety means in self and the relationship. We acknowledge that sensing safety is biologically wired into our nervous systems. We also answer the question, "What happens if my partner doesn't offer safety for the relationship?"

I offer my insights to the definition of safety while studying Dr. Kevin Skinner's book, Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal.

Discovery and Disclosure

I offer my take on Disclosures and Discoveries in the book, Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Kevin Skinner. We consider forced disclosure, or discovery, and full disclosures and compare the impacts, noting the severity of physical pain when facing D-day, however it happens. Additionally, we investigate the benefits of Full Therapeutic Disclosures. In this complex topic, I offer my opinion and perspective on certain aspects of disclosures that Dr. Skinner illustrates.

In this first podcast episode, we explore the book, Treating Trauma from Sexual Betrayal: The Essential Tools for Healing by Dr. Kevin Skinner. We dive into the effects of betrayal trauma, why gaslighting and blame compound trauma and finally, the fight and anger response that is so common after betrayal. Join me as I share personal insight and review these important topics.