Kristen peels back the glossy layers of the personal development world and gets radically honest about what real growth looks and feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always pretty—and it’s definitely not linear.

If you've ever thought, “Why am I still dealing with this?” or felt stuck in self-help shame spirals, this conversation is your permission slip to ditch the unrealistic timelines and redefine what growth really means.

Kristen dives into:

• Why consuming personal development content isn’t the same as doing the work
• The danger of turning personal growth into a self-shaming tool
• What it means to turn in your “victim card” and reclaim radical responsibility
• How to spot when you're stuck in a pattern vs. truly evolving
• The nature-inspired reminder that nothing in life grows endlessly—and that’s okay

Plus, she shares a heartfelt personal reflection about fulfillment, redefining success, and how breaking her own patterns led to unexpected transformation.

Whether you’re working on your mindset, relationships, business, or just trying to become the best version of yourself—this episode will meet you where you are.

• Growth is not a straight line—expect spirals, setbacks, and seasons.
• Awareness without action is a trap. Real change requires implementation.
• Stop treating yourself like a never-ending project to fix.
• True growth happens when you love yourself through the process—not once you “arrive.”
• Fulfillment metrics matter more than performance metrics.

00:58 – Welcome back + the truth about "growth drama"

02:52 – Consuming vs. integrating personal development

04:50 – Turning in your victim card and owning your agency

07:34 – The shadow side of self-help culture

12:23 – When personal growth turns into self-shaming

19:24 – What nature teaches us about healthy growth patterns

23:52 – Revisiting old wounds from a new level of awareness

27:46 – How Kristen manages her own defaults around hustle

30:19 – Why fulfillment > achievement

33:21 – A new lens for your lifelong journey

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In this powerful solo episode, Kristen dives deep into one of the most essential traits for success and fulfillment—emotional resilience. Far from being a vague buzzword, Kristen unpacks what resilience truly means, why it matters, and—most importantly—how you can measure and grow it.

She introduces the Six Pillars of Emotional Resilience, a framework designed to help you navigate discomfort, manage stress, bounce back from setbacks, and lead with more courage and clarity in all areas of life—from business to relationships.

Whether you're a business owner, a growth-minded human, or someone who just feels emotionally exhausted from trying to hold it all together, this episode offers the clarity, validation, and practical tools you've been searching for.

• Why personal growth often feels subjective—and how to make it measurable
• The difference between “feeling goals” and outcome goals
• How emotional pain registers just like physical pain—and what that means for your nervous system
• The 6 measurable pillars of emotional resilience and how they apply to your life
• How to shorten your recovery time after setbacks, stop spiraling in shame, and actually take aligned action
• The surprising power of asking for support and why hyper-independence might be silently burning you out

1. Stress Adaptability – Staying emotionally regulated in real-time
2. Cognitive Flexibility – Reframing rigid thinking and embracing nuance
3. Emotional Recovery Time – Bouncing back from emotional setbacks faster
4. Self-Trust & Confidence – Trusting your decisions without needing external validation
5. Growth Actionability – Taking aligned, consistent action even when it’s hard
6. Social Support Utilization – Letting others in and asking for help without shame

“If we don’t have the tools to handle discomfort, we will always retreat to comfort—end of story.”

“Some of you are creating aspirational action plans, betting on a perfect day that doesn’t exist. You need a dumpster day plan.”

“We are not meant to do life in isolation. Sometimes, giving someone three minutes of your time can be life-changing.”

0:00 – Introduction: What is resilience, really?

2:00 – “Feelings goals” vs. outcome goals

8:30 – Why discomfort feels like danger to your brain

14:00 – Pillar 1: Stress adaptability

19:15 – Pillar 2: Cognitive flexibility

25:30 – Pillar 3: Emotional recovery time

31:30 – Pillar 4: Self-trust and confidence

35:00 – Pillar 5: Growth actionability

40:00 – Pillar 6: Social support utilization

49:00 – Real client wins and emotional resilience growth metrics

53:00 – Final encouragement: Be someone who offers three minutes

If this episode hit home, send a three-minute message to someone you care about. Let them know they're not a burden and that you’re available to listen. Want to measure your own resilience? Head to the Sondera Membership and take the Emotional Resilience Index: And REMINDER: Kristen is back in the coaching seat! Starting November, we’re offering a new membership tier called the Sondera Signature Membership and it includes LIVE weekly coaching with Kristen. If you’ve ever wanted direct guidance beyond the strategy—this is your moment.

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In this deeply personal and insight-packed solo episode, Kristen shares a powerful reflection on what she calls “dumpster decisions”—those all-or-nothing moves we make when we’re on the brink of burnout or buried in overwhelm. Drawing from her own journey of business pivots, personal healing, and rediscovery, Kristen opens up about how she threw away more than she needed to, only to later return and reclaim what still sparked joy.

She walks listeners through the difference between rage cleaning your life and intentionally evaluating what still serves your evolving self. Along the way, she delivers relatable stories, thoughtful metaphors (hello, Marie Kondo and Harry Potter’s phoenix!), and a massive announcement that longtime listeners will love.

Spoiler alert: She's officially back in the weekly coaching chair—and you’re invited.

• What “dumpster decisions” are and why we make them during burnout
• How Kristen’s business and personal life were shaped by burnout recovery
• The importance of honoring your evolution without shame
• How your nervous system holds the key to better habits, performance, and joy
• The birth of Sondera, Kristen’s newest company helping people regulate, realign, and rise
• A sneak peek into the tools, coaching, and transformation waiting inside her new membership
• The full-circle moment: Kristen’s return to live weekly coaching (and how you can join!)

• Burnout doesn’t always mean burning everything down.
• Regulating your nervous system is the missing link between knowing what to do and actually doing it.
• Sometimes, the things you walked away from still belong with you—you just needed space to see it.
• Sustainable success is rooted in self-awareness, alignment, and nervous system integration.

Kristen is back in the coaching seat! Starting November, we’re offering a new membership tier called the Sondera Signature Membership and it includes LIVE weekly coaching with Kristen. If you’ve ever wanted direct guidance beyond the strategy—this is your moment.

Join before November 1st to lock in the special pricing: Sondera Signature Membership

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00:00 – Welcome + a teaser about a big reveal

02:00 – Rage cleaning, burnout, and personal “dumpster decisions”

06:30 – The Marie Kondo method for life clarity

11:00 – When everything you built no longer fits

14:00 – The myth of business vs. life separation

20:00 – The real gap: strategy vs. nervous system regulation

27:00 – The story behind Sonder Era and what it helps people do

34:00 – A return to coaching & why Kristen is more lit up than ever

39:00 – Final encouragements + how to join before November 1st