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Wanna arm wrestle? I'd probably win. I was recently diagnosed 100% manly. I know. You're probably like, 'Obvi Rob.' Well, I wasn't so sure. Luckily, the internet never let's me down.

On today's episode, Rob quizzes Matt and Mike to find out how manly they are. And, because we believe ALL men must meet a certain level of manliness to remain in the manliness club, we've provided the link to our quiz here. Quiz it and tell us how manly you are.

Keywords

therapy, manliness, masculinity, leadership, manly movies, asking for help, sense of style, societal expectations, manliness quiz, self-acceptance, individuality

Takeaways

• The concept of masculinity is explored through a manliness quiz and discussions about personal preferences. Masculinity is subjective and can vary depending on the individual and the situation.
• Personal preferences and hobbies do not define one's masculinity.
• Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
• There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to personal style.
• Gender stereotypes and societal expectations should not dictate one's choices and preferences. Masculinity is a concept that is often defined by societal expectations and stereotypes.
• Quizzes and labels can limit our understanding of ourselves and others.
• It is important to be confident in one's true self and not conform to societal norms.
• Self-acceptance and embracing individuality are key to personal growth and happiness.

Sound Bites

• "You guys are both gonna come out as 100% manliness"
• "One of you got 75% manly. And the other one got 100% manly."
• "You're always willing to take risks and nothing seems to scare you. And like a real man, you approach your problems and obstacles directly."
• "I'm confident in my masculinity, even if I barely rate 60% masculine."

Chapters

00:49
Vacation Plans and Work Commitments

05:49
Navigating Therapy Experiences

12:16
Exploring the Concept of Manliness

21:04
Embracing Vulnerability and Asking for Help

23:14
The Joy of Pets: Cats vs. Dogs

25:04
Discovering New Hobbies and Interests

32:21
Subjectivity of Alcoholic Beverage Preferences

36:17
Exploring the Concept of Masculinity

41:55
The Results: 75% Manly vs. 100% Manly

51:45
The Fun of Quizzes and Competing

53:12
Questioning the Definition of Masculinity

56:55
The Desire for Acceptance and Belonging

59:24
Embracing Authenticity and Rejecting Societal Norms

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Come on now, space-cyborg! You're not so bad! In fact, I dare say you might even be a real stand-up guy. Probably doing better than you think. And we'll talk about that today on The Manspace.

Matt, Mike, and Rob explore how we beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to unrealistic standards that usually do us no good. We'll talk about self-compassion and will say it in the most cheesy, unsettling of ways. So, pull up a chair. Be nice to yourself. Listen to The Manspace.

Keywords

self-demanding behavior, beating oneself up, nice guy syndrome, internal struggle, negative self-talk, self-compassion, grace, unconditional love, external criticism, projection, defense mechanism, self-doubt, acceptance, kindness, limitations, comparative language, integrity

Takeaways

• Self-demanding behavior and beating oneself up can be overlapping and interconnected.
• Self-compassion and grace are important in counteracting negative self-talk and high self-demands.
• External criticism can confirm and amplify negative self-perception.
• Projection of buried grievances onto others is a defense mechanism.
• Understanding and addressing these patterns can lead to healthier self-perception and relationships. Avoid self-blame and negative self-talk when facing challenges or setbacks.
• Practice self-compassion by accepting and acknowledging your struggles.
• Talk to yourself with kindness and understanding, as you would to a good friend.
• Recognize your limitations and focus on your strengths.
• Avoid comparing yourself to others and prioritize your own values and beliefs.
• Maintain integrity by aligning your actions with your personal values.

Sound Bites

• "That self-demanding part of myself pushes me to go over the top and over function for them too."
• "Treating myself like a human being and being kind to myself feels really calming."
• "I hate when clients say stuff like, 'I know, I suck at everything.' Don't do that, man."
• "The markers we have that we are doing a good job... They're not usually quantifiable."
• "What's the limits of self-compassion? What's the limits of self-care? There has to be limits."

Chapters

00:00
Navigating the Internal Struggle: Self-Criticism and Mental Health

09:53
The 'Nice Guy' Syndrome: Impact of Societal Standards

20:56
Navigating Self-Compassion and Integrity

28:17
The Struggle with Negative Self-Talk

43:25
Balancing Inner Dialogue and Recognizing Limitations

01:03:08
Aligning Actions with Core Values

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Shhhh. The Manspace is on. On today's episode, we record dead air for you to *not* listen to.
Fine. Not really. But we DO talk about it. I know what you're thinking. "Hey Rob, didn't you guys just barely talk about silence?" Yes, Spaceman, we did. But before, we talked about knowing the times it's good to be quiet in relationships and conversations. This time, it's more using silence as a meditative state. We talk about why it's helpful and how to make it a more deliberate focus. So gather your friends around and tell them to shut up. Then sit in silence. Then turn on the episode and learn why that was good for you.

Keywords

silence, solitude, audible silence, emotional silence, thought silence, responsibility silence, nature, intentional silence, men, fear, discomfort, alone time, benefits, concentration, creativity, self-awareness, learning, productivity, calm, restorative power, meaning, value, present moment, personal values, joy, relaxation,

Takeaways

• There may be a biological and evolutionary need for silence and solitude.
• Being deliberate and intentional in silence can help manage our thoughts and emotions.
• Spending time in nature can enhance the benefits of silence.
• Finding time for silence in our busy lives can be a challenge, but it is important for our well-being. Men often fear and feel uncomfortable taking time for themselves and embracing silence and solitude.
• Wives are often supportive of their husbands needing alone time and would encourage it.
• The fear of silence leads to filling every moment with noise and distractions.
• Silence and solitude have numerous benefits, including increased concentration, creativity, self-awareness, learning, productivity, and a sense of calm.
• Shift your focus from constantly striving for more to finding meaning and value in the present moment.
• Prioritize activities that align with your personal values and bring joy and relaxation.
• Incorporate solitude and silence into your daily life, such as by getting up early or avoiding distractions.
• Be deliberate and intentional in creating meaningful experiences.

Sound Bites

• "Silence is a source of great strength"
• "Matt yesterday almost picked up a hooker"
• "Silence for silence sake is probably meaningless"
• "How do I actually get the most out of the time that I'm in now?"
• "I don't value making more money. I value spending time doing the things I want to do."

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