In this first When Shift Hits the Fan minisode, we step into a real coaching conversation with Pam, a volunteer leader in her church who oversees the children’s program. She’s wrestling with the tension between her vision of fun and love for the kids—and another leader whose serious, rigid style seems to be draining the joy out of the experience.

It’s a classic moment where expectations and “rulebooks” don’t match, and the question becomes: How do you stay centered in love when someone else’s choices don’t align with yours?

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why our “rulebooks” (the way we think things should be) often create more stress than the circumstance itself
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• How your thoughts and feelings influence your experience—but never directly control someone else’s
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• The difference between stewardship and control, and how to lead with grace without being jerked around by others’ actions
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• A simple “ladder thought” practice to generate genuine love, even in moments of frustration
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👉 This episode is short, real, and packed with practical insight you can use in any leadership role—whether you’re guiding a team, serving in your community, or parenting at home.

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

📝 Episode Show Notes:

📍 In this episode, Chase and Carly open up a conversation about travel, home, and the “optional” desires we often push to the side. Using real stories (like red-eye flights and dream vacations) as a springboard, they reveal how these discretionary desires are actually invitations into expansion—not indulgence.

You’ll learn how to recognize when your focus has slipped into lack, why the same words can carry completely different energy, and how to shift from contraction into flow. Whether your dream is a ski pass, a trip abroad, or simply more space at home, this episode will help you step into the joy of pure want without the weight of “I can’t.”

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “optional” desires like travel and home design matter more than you think
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• The spectrum from deficit → baseline → expansion, and how to move toward growth
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• How the same sentence can point either left (lack) or right (expansion)
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• Practical ways to notice the energetic shift when you talk about what you want
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• The subtle invitations to contract—and how to reframe them as invitations to expand
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🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com

📍 In this episode, Chase and Carly introduce the Shift Sifter—a simple but powerful tool to help you separate what you truly want from the “shoulds” you’ve inherited from family, culture, and programming. You’ll learn how to use words, phrases, and values that light you up as a compass for living the life you were actually meant to live.

This is more than affirmations—it’s about generating real emotion, rewiring old defaults, and fearlessly expanding into miracles by aligning with your authentic desires.

💡 What You’ll Hear:

• Why “shoulds” reveal inherited programming, not true desires
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• How to identify your past “hows” that keep shaping your choices
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• The Shift Sifter process to clarify what really matters to you
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• Why words and phrases that light you up are more powerful than generic affirmations
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• Practical examples of creating your own custom words and emotional anchors
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• How this process applies to your home, travel, and lifestyle design
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• The role of Step 4—Fearlessly Expand—in accessing more miracles
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• An invitation to try the Shift Sifter and start creating your personal vocabulary of expansion

🔗 Links & Resources:

Join the dojo with a free trial → https://www.theshift5.com/offers/uzXUCznH

Follow The Shift 5 on Instagram → @the.shift.5

Questions or support → team@theshift5.com