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Ever catch yourself spinning stories about what your partner expects from you? That mental treadmill of overthinking could be sabotaging your relationship without you even realizing it.

In this raw, unfiltered conversation, we dive deep into how societal expectations create relationship baggage that weighs us down. We share personal examples of how traditional concepts like "wifely duties" continue to influence even the most self-aware among us. Dr. Jenny opens up about her struggle with feeling obligated to fulfill certain roles to be "worthy" of love, while James challenges these outdated paradigms with refreshing honesty.

The most liberating relationship truth we explore? Your partner chooses to be with you—they don't need to be. When both people approach a relationship as independent individuals who choose each other daily rather than dependent entities fulfilling obligatory roles, everything transforms. We discuss how this simple perspective shift eliminates the pressure to "earn" love through duties or obligations and instead cultivates authentic connection.

We also tackle the uncomfortable reality of shadow work—it's not "a spa day" as we colorfully put it. Examining your own baggage requires courage and accountability. When you notice yourself creating scenarios about what your partner expects, we provide practical guidance on how to pause, question these assumptions, and communicate honestly instead of spiraling into overthinking.

Whether you're in a relationship struggling with old paradigms or single and wondering how to approach partnership differently, this episode offers both the tough love and practical wisdom to break free from relationship overthinking. Listen now, and discover what becomes possible when you stop creating stories and start embracing the freedom of choice in your relationships.

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