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How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen

A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
Written by: Joanna Faber, Julie King
Length: 10 hrs and 8 mins
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Publisher's Summary

A must-have resource for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of the international best-seller The Boston Globe dubbed "The Parenting Bible".

For over 35 years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele's daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk's powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven.

Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents and a broad variety of professionals. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and fly-on-the-wall discussions from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the young kids in your life.

What do you do with a little kid who...won't brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized according to common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential emergency first-aid manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.

This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

©2017 Joanna Faber and Julie King (P)2017 Simon & Schuster

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Extremely helpful!

I started using many of these strategies while listening to the book. I immediately started noticing a difference in not only my children's behaviors, but the relationship I had with them. My children are almost 2, and 3 years old. A lot of the time I listen to the book while they were in the car with me. My older son would laugh at some of the stories. Sometimes, he would remind me of strategies I should be using when his little brother was acting up. I highly recommend this book.

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Love the book

I do not write reviews at all but I was very touched by the book. It goes deep insights how little human brain works what they want from parents. I truly believe that kids are doing what they do. Not to make anyone unhappy or upset. Since there is less for them talk for Themselves they are doing what they can to express them. I wish my parents had this knowledge too. This book should be part of parenting journey.

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A repeat-listen over and over and over and over..

It takes a lot of patience and practice doing the suggestions from this book, after all that's how habits are formed so that'sno problem at all. Be prepared to do your homework! When I forget, I just go back and get reminded again and again til it sticks. And when a habit does stick, you'd wish you have learned the skill sooner. An excellent resource for a parent running out of ideas how to get along with their kid/s while keeping boundaries and everyone's sanity in check. This book is as human as it could get.

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Incredible

Many great tactics to help parents be more understand and open minded towards their children. This book will definitely help strengthen a relationship between child and guardian.

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Excellent book

I am a grandmother who will be caring for my grandson for 2 days a week when my daughter returns to work. Although I am 64 and have raised 2 children of my own, taught school, was a high school guidance counselor, I was wondering if I was up to the task. It is comforting to know that I have this resource as I venture into this "old" but new role!!

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Excellent Book!!!

I have listened to a couple parenting books and I enjoyed this one the most, by far. It was very well written. The parenting tools actually work and there are so many concrete examples and stories from other parents which makes it such a great read. I would absolutely recommend it everyone. I will be listening to it again.

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Great book just lacking a recap

Very good book with great practical information just wish it had a recap at the end of the book

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excellent book, great tips!

I've used many of the tips in this book with great success on my own two children!

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Very insightful

#Audible1 This book has been a great read! It has given me some excellent tips to try with my 2 year old son! Great real life perspectives.

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Hands on guide to NOT loosing your mind

A well written hands on guide with lots of real life examples from parents.This book will not make you a perfect parent,but it will not shame you for screwing up. Raising kids is hard, but finding right ways to deal with your child is important for everyones sake. Learn tips and tricks from this book that might make your (and your kids) life a lot easier.

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  • 2017-08-25

Interesting, practical, useful.

Thank you for writing this! I recommend to any parent. Was extremely helpful. Already seen improvements and got me thinking about it scientifically again instead if just flabbergasted parent.

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  • Brittany Vickers
  • 2017-05-05

Changed my life

This book completely changed my perspective about how I should talk to my children. It radically changed what I say to my children. I have both the print and audio editions and really enjoyed listening to it so the parental voices became someone else's besides my own.

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  • Anonymous
  • 2017-07-10

I want to be just like the authors

These authors emphasize the importance of remembering what it's like to be a kid. Big takeaways for me were to acknowledge feelings, describe what I see, be playful, give choices, and describe their wish fantasies. I've used these tools--now my daughter is hopping into her pajamas and likes to be carried to bed upside down. Really resonated with me and made me re-think how I talk to my daughter. Thanks!

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  • Gustavo Romo
  • 2017-03-21

It works

Just by starting to acknowledge feelings there is a noticeable progress. I am happy the authors noticed the previous book was neglecting children in the age range.

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  • SweatyStallion
  • 2017-12-01

Loved the book! Not so much some narration parts.

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The person who narrates "Sarah" uses mutliple upward inflections in the wrong places and emphasizes parts of speech that shouldn't need it. It becomes so annoying that I began skipping her stories altogether. This is still a great listen/read and I would still recommend it to any parents with a toddler.

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  • The Wang Family
  • 2017-06-05

Must read for parents of small kids!

Would you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

I loved this book. My only regret is that I didn't read it earlier. My daughter is 5 and I learned a lot still.

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  • Becky Fischer
  • 2017-04-09

Love All the How to Talk Books

There were so many times when this book anticipated my "Yeah, but..." thoughts and doubts. Well written, fun to listen to, and lots of tools to practice using with my 3 boys all 7 and under.

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  • Cellery
  • 2019-07-23

The message is great but the narration and writing style cringey

I love the message of this book and the way it is telling you to communicate etc, that is spot on and helpful

However the way this book is written is so cringey.
Constantly hearing “and the group replied back “
“And then the group”
“Insert a bunch of replies that sound so made up and straight out of a 80s sitcom over and over”


It just makes it SO hard to listen too. I hate it, I’ve stopped listening about 3 hours in.

The narrator voice also compounds this problem, I’m sorry to say.


Coming from listening to Laura Markhams audiobook really highlighted how hard this is to listen to or read.

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  • Sam
  • 2017-10-06

Wish every parent in the world could read this

I think a solution to world peace is if every parent could read and try to follow this book. Seriously. The skills taught in this book could be applied for a life time. Sometimes I feel like the book were a perfect parent speaking to me pointing out ways I could improve on my own life, learning with my toddler.

I've read the famous How to Talk book by her mother, but this is still an excellent read specifically targeted towards younger children's challenges.

What I love most is how practical it is, even acknowledging that kids do turn parents crazy sometimes and how to deal with those tough times!

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  • Marion Bartlett
  • 2017-09-29

Amazing!

I purchased the audio and paperback version of this book. I have read several parenting books and this is the best and most helpful one by far! I loved all the tools, scenarios, and stories. Even after only reading the first chapter our family life changed. We had known for a while that what we were doing wasn't working, but we didn't know what to do instead. I am so thankful for how empowering this book is for me as a mom! Our home life is completely transformed! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!!!!

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  • Andreea Toma
  • 2019-10-11

great book

I love the stories and the tools.
Some of them are very funny.
I recommend it warmly