Do you find yourself plotting out how you're going to respond to someone even while they're still talking to you?

We all do this.

And it never works well. Not for any of us.

Upleveling our listening skills is one of the most important upgrades we can make for our relationships. Today's episode is rich with ideas of where to focus during a conversation in order to create an experience that fosters intimacy and connection for both parties.

We discuss:

• 1:20 I'm defensive and I jump to conclusions in conversations with my partner. How do I stop?
• 3:22 How to focus on our 2 internal listening resources
• 4:28 Tips for listening deeply
• 9:02 Surfacing universal human needs
• 14:12 How "right" and "wrong" block our ability to listen from our heart
• 15:58 Unlearning domination programming
• 22:11 The price of disowning anger

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In this week's mini-episode, we delve into the needs that can be met when our family steps up to contribute to our lives in meaningful, important ways, and the loneliness and grief that can occur when they are no longer willing to help.

We discover:

• 2:53 My brother-in-law doesn't want to help me anymore and my feelings are hurt
• 7:30 A script for checking things out
• 11:27 Ways to honor freedom and choice

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Thank you for tuning in. Remember to subscribe so you get notified when I publish an episode weekly.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• What's Your Listening Style: Take the Quiz!
• Have a Question? Join us live
• Want to Work with Me? Read More Here.
• IG: @dryvetteerasmus
• TikTok: @dr.yvetteerasmus
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvetteerasmus/

Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent, and enforcing rules is not coercion.

In this week's episode, we unpack a professor's desire to limit coercion and violence in her classroom and her desire to create a tight container that supports and respects participant sharing.

We consider:

• 2:52 Can mandatory attendance be in line with nonviolence?
• 10:52 How can I create a tight container nonviolently?
• 11:46 Having good boundaries is not the same as being violent.

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Thank you for tuning in. Remember to subscribe so you get notified when I publish an episode weekly.

Here are more ways to connect with me:

• What's Your Listening Style: Take the Quiz!
• Have a Question? Join us live
• Want to Work with Me? Read More Here.
• IG: @dryvetteerasmus
• TikTok: @dr.yvetteerasmus
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvetteerasmus/