You're carrying something profound that feels invisible to everyone else. The kind of pain that doesn't fit society's automatic compassion categories - so you end up shouldering it completely alone.

What if the problem isn't that your pain is less valid? What if it's that AuDHD experiences don't translate into the emotional performances others recognize as worthy of support?

When your autistic brain processes internally while your ADHD brain craves connection, you're caught between competing needs for space and understanding.

In this episode:

• Why betrayal hits different when your brain assumes loyalty is permanent
• The exhaustion of translating unnamed experiences for recognition
• How "looking fine" becomes a barrier to getting what you need
• Building support systems when your pain doesn't have scripts

Your unnamed experiences are real and profound. You're not alone in carrying what society doesn't recognize.

Connect With Adria:

• Full show notes at AuDHDSparks.com
• @audhdsparks
• AuDHD Coaching with Adria

Someone asks you to work an event, attend a party, give feedback on something. You feel this pressure to decide right there - but your brain literally can't.

Sound familiar? Welcome to the AuDHD processing paradox.

Your ADHD side instantly reads their urgency. Your Autistic side needs time to process your own feelings. You're caught between their impatience and your genuine need for time.

In this episode:

• Scripts for buying processing time without making it weird
• The tattoo consultation story that changed everything
• When you're "behind" on your own emotions (wedding day, divorce grief)
• How to work backwards when interoception or alexithymia means you can't track feelings in real time

Your brain isn't slow - it's thorough. It’s time to stop apologizing for needing what we need.

Connect With Adria:

• Full show notes at AuDHDSparks.com
• @audhdsparks
• AuDHD Coaching with Adria

You stare at your computer tabs with a completely blank brain. The "simple" phone call feels impossible. (Everyone else just picks up the phone - what's wrong with you?)

Nothing's wrong with you.

Your brain is seeing all the hidden executive function steps that others don't even notice. You're not managing one neurodivergent brain - you're mediating between two operating systems that sometimes want different things.

In this episode:

• The envelope that sat on my desk for months (and what it actually required)
• How to design breadcrumb systems instead of forcing willpower
• The shift that changes everything: making tasks easier for your brain

This isn't making excuses - this is making systems.

Connect With Adria:

• Full show notes at AuDHDSparks.com
• @audhdsparks
• AuDHD Coaching with Adria