Imagine finding a secret perk to divorce that transforms everything about how you see yourself, your life, and your future. That's exactly what this episode uncovers – the extraordinary gift that divorce offers women: the ability to have the best of both worlds.

Most divorced women struggle with guilt for focusing on themselves, feeling trapped between societal expectations of motherhood and their own unfulfilled desires for personal growth. Through years of coaching women through divorce recovery, I've discovered that this painful transition actually creates a unique opportunity to balance two critical roles – being fully present as a mother while also honoring yourself as an individual woman with dreams, desires, and needs.

This balance isn't just possible; it's necessary. When you become the best version of yourself by reconnecting with your intuition, setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and learning self-love, you simultaneously become the best parent for your children. You model wholeness rather than self-abandonment. You create safety through self-trust rather than people-pleasing. You demonstrate what it means to live with integrity and authenticity.

Breaking free from the socialized idea that marriage and motherhood represent a woman's highest purpose isn't easy. Many women completely lose themselves in these roles, forgetting they exist as individuals outside of caring for others. Divorce disrupts this pattern, creating space to rediscover yourself while still being the mother you want to be – perhaps an even better one because you're no longer depleted, resentful, or disconnected from your own needs.

Ready to embrace this powerful perspective shift and start experiencing the best of both worlds? Listen now to discover the four key ways to become your best self after divorce, and join the community of women who are rewriting their divorce stories from ones of failure to stories of liberation, growth, and wholeness.

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The darkness of divorce creates the space for our rebirth as we learn to reject society's harmful narratives and embrace our authentic transformation. Darkness gets a bad rep, especially during divorce, but what if it's actually the birthplace of transformation? Drawing inspiration from Lyz Lenz's book "This American Ex-Wife," in this episode of Becoming You Again, I’ll explore how darkness and light function during a woman's divorce journey.

Society bombards women with what I call "false light" – harmful narratives that make women the bad-guy when it comes to divorce. These deceptive guideposts, like artificial coastal lighting that confuses us, leading women away from their authentic self toward figurative death – living as shells of themselves in marriages where growth has stagnated.

True darkness is where you decide for yourself what your divorce means. It's where you reconnect with your inner wisdom, align your brain, body, and intuition, and discover the resilience that was always within you. Like twilight with its beautiful gradient of colors, your divorce darkness contains unexpected beauty that leads to the genuine light waiting on the other side: joy, peace, self-trust, and the power of living authentically.

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Grief is an inevitable part of divorce, but the shame and judgment that often accompany it? Those are completely optional. In this episode, I explore why so many of us pile unnecessary suffering onto our natural grief during divorce—whether it's shame about past behaviors, feeling we weren't "enough," or guilt about hurting others, especially our children.

Drawing on the Buddhist story of the two arrows, I explain how when we layer shame and judgment onto grief, we actually block the very healing process we're trying to move through. The solution isn't to avoid grief, but to approach it with self-compassion instead of criticism.

I share a practical three-step self-compassion practice that you can use whenever that mean inner voice starts berating you about your divorce. This isn't about giving yourself a free pass—it's about creating the emotional safety needed to actually feel and process your grief without the additional burden of shame.

As someone who's walked this path, I know firsthand how religion, family expectations, and our own perfectionism can make divorce feel not just painful but shameful. But I also know the liberation that comes when we drop that second arrow and simply allow ourselves to grieve with kindness. Your healing doesn't require suffering—it requires feeling, with compassion, exactly as you are.

Ready to get off the emotional rollercoaster of divorce? Download my free guide "What to Expect During Divorce" through the link in the show notes and start feeling more grounded today.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep223

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

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Divorce creates the perfect breeding ground for resentment - that heavy, persistent feeling that can linger for years after your marriage ends. But what if you could finally set down that emotional burden?

This episode dives deep into understanding what really fuels your post-divorce resentment. Through practical exercises and thoughtful guidance, you'll learn to identify the specific ways the resentment was created in the first place.

The transformation begins with awareness. By recognizing exactly what you're holding onto and why, you create space to process these emotions completely. I walk you through a step-by-step writing exercise to help you name your resentments without judgment, identify the expectations and then I offer concrete techniques to process through the resentment and release it with intention.

As a bonus, are you ready to free yourself from unnecessary emotional baggage? Download my free guide to managing the emotional rollercoaster of divorce through the link in the description to accelerate your healing journey.

For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep222

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

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Divorce guilt is one of the heaviest burdens mothers carry, particularly when it comes to our children. We're bombarded with messages about "staying together for the kids," research on divorce's negative impacts, and cultural narratives that paint divorced families as inherently damaged. But what if we've been looking at this all wrong?

In this episode, I challenge the notion that divorce harms children by offering four powerful ways divorce can actually benefit your kids. One of the profound gifts that I’ll cover is your children get access to the best version of you - a woman who honors her needs, maintains healthy boundaries, and models self-respect rather than self-abandonment. When you reconnect to your authentic self after divorce, you demonstrate for your children what healthy adulthood actually looks like.

Ready to release the burden of divorce guilt and embrace the positive impact your choices can have on your children? Listen now, and discover how reframing your divorce story can free both you and your children to create healthier, more authentic lives.

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep221

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

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Struggling to feel grounded after your divorce? The path forward begins with something surprisingly simple: being present.

When we're caught in the cycle of regret about the past or anxiety about the future, genuine healing remains out of reach. In this episode I’ll share a powerful yet straightforward technique that can transform how you navigate post-divorce emotions. The 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise engages all five senses to anchor you firmly in the present moment—the only place where true healing occurs.

What makes this approach so valuable is its simplicity and accessibility. You can practice it anywhere: during a stressful meeting, while managing chaotic family moments, or when those painful divorce memories resurface unexpectedly. By doing this practice you're actively realigning your nervous system and creating space for healing.

This episode goes beyond just teaching a technique—it reframes how we understand emotional regulation after divorce. The goal isn't to achieve perfect calm at all times but to develop greater capacity to navigate life's challenges without being controlled by habitual fight-flight-freeze responses. When we can ground ourselves in the present, we gain the ability to make conscious choices about who we want to be and how we want to show up in our post-divorce lives.

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep220

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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What happens when the future you've always planned for suddenly disappears? After divorce, many women find themselves trapped in a pit of despair, believing their chance at happiness vanished along with their marriage. But what if this challenging transition actually offers an unexpected gift – the freedom to design a future that truly resonates with who you are?

In this episode I’ll explore how society's prescribed notions of family, happiness, and success have shaped our expectations. Those perfect retirement scenes in medication commercials? The idyllic nuclear family portrayed in media? These aren't universal truths – they're social constructs that have evolved (and continue to evolve) throughout human history. You'll discover how challenging these inherited beliefs creates space for authentic growth and self-discovery.

The episode offers practical guidance for creating a new vision that aligns with your values and current reality. Through targeted questions – about your guiding principles, bold dreams, and how you'll view this chapter in hindsight – you'll learn to craft a future outlook that serves and inspires you. Because if we're going to "make up" our futures anyway (as we all do), why not create visions that genuinely support who we are and who we're becoming?

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep219

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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When the emotional waves of divorce hit unexpectedly, leaving you wondering if you've somehow failed at healing, know this: you're experiencing grief in its most natural form. Grief during divorce isn't a linear journey with neat stages and timelines—it's an unpredictable rollercoaster that can send you soaring one day and plummeting the next.

The profound disconnect between what you thought your life would be and what it has become creates the perfect conditions for grief to emerge. Yet unlike the grief that follows death, divorce grief often hides in plain sight, unacknowledged by both ourselves and society. You might hear that you have no right to feel sad if you initiated the divorce, or that you should feel only relief if your marriage was difficult. These judgments only compound the pain.

What you're feeling is valid. Every time you feel like you've finally found solid ground, only to be blindsided by sadness while shopping at Target or driving to work, you're not moving backward in your healing—you're moving through it exactly as you need to. There's no "right way" to grieve the end of a marriage.

Understanding the predictable triggers that launch you back onto this emotional rollercoaster gives you power. Knowing what situations commonly spark these feelings—and having practical tools ready to support yourself through them—transforms your experience from overwhelming to manageable.

To help you navigate this challenging terrain with more confidence, I've created a free guide; What To Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce. This guide explains the science behind your experiences, identifies the five most common scenarios that set off emotional responses, and provides concrete tools to help you find your footing faster. Available as both a PDF and audio recording, it's my free gift to you. Download it today through the link in the below, and remember: your healing journey is uniquely yours, and you're doing it exactly right.

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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For more information and full show notes go to:
https://www.karinnelsoncoaching.com/post/ep218

To download your FREE GUIDE: "What to Expect When Divorcing: The Ultimate Guide to Dealing with the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce" click here.

To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.

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