In a world where it feels easier than ever to tear each other down, what would it look like if we became women who intentionally build bridges instead of burning them? In this episode, Pastor Lisa walks through the topics of connection, honor, forgiveness, and the holy work of reconciliation. This one will stretch you, bless you, and remind you of the power you carry as a builder in God's kingdom.

This episode dives into the heart of what it means to be a bridge builder, a woman committed to connection, honor, and intentional growth. Pastor Lisa brings real, practical, sometimes hilarious, and incredibly convicting truth about the ways we build up or tear down the relationships God has entrusted to us.

From the dangers of gossip and complaining to the beauty of forgiveness and wise building, this conversation invites us into a higher standard: becoming women who reconcile, redeem, and restore.

You'll feel encouraged, challenged, and empowered to examine your own bridges and commit to building what lasts.

00:28 — The purpose of a bridge: connecting what's been separated. Pastor Lisa shares why God calls us to be "bridge builders" in the Women of Arise.

01:52 — How complaining, gossip, dishonor, and speaking death burn the very bridges we're called to build.

03:36 — Entering her 50s, Pastor Lisa reflects on the value of connection... and who's going to wipe her later in life!

05:44 — Learning not to burn bridges even after mistakes; choosing not to unfollow people just because we disagree.

07:10 — "No one can hurt me unless I allow them."

08:39 — Becoming wise builders who leave room for reconciliation. The story of keeping the porch light on for Bekah.

11:21 — Matthew 7:24-27: Jesus' teaching on the wise and foolish builders and our ability to build well.

14:00 — Being faithful with what God has given now. Not neglecting blessings simply because they don't look like what we want.

16:30 — Ways we burn bridges: dishonor, disrespect, and the power of valuing others. John Bevere's Influence on Understanding Honor.

19:27 — Gossip and slander: Proverbs 16:28. Gossip separates close friends and destroys bridges.

24:22 — Unforgiveness and bitterness: bitterness builds walls, not bridges.

25:30 — Pride and self-righteousness: how long will we wait to cross the bridge?

26:10 — Division and offense: the enemy doesn't have to destroy the church if he can divide it.

27:57 — Neglect and apathy: ignoring your husband's needs weakens the bridge of your marriage.

30:02 — Complaining and cynicism: Numbers 12. Complaining keeps us wandering when God calls us forward.

36:24 — Five ways to build bridges:

1. Speak life (Ephesians 4:29)

2. Choose forgiveness (Colossians 3:13)

3. Listen with love (James 1:19)

4. Practice gratitude

5. Be a peacemaker

40:18 — Bridges are built intentionally - Matthew 5:9.
41:24 — The ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18–19).

44:04 — Closing prayer and blessing.
Plus: a reminder about the February 2026 Arise Conference.

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What does it mean to pour it all out for God truly? In this powerful episode, Pastor Lisa Kai takes us through her personal journey of obedience, sacrifice, and legacy, reminding every woman that our seasons, struggles, and stories all serve a divine purpose.

In this moving message, Pastor Lisa Kai delivers a word that will challenge and inspire you to pour it all out — in your faith, your business, and your legacy. From the story of the alabaster woman to the humble beginnings of Arise Ministry, Lisa shares her personal revelations about obedience, perseverance, and identity in Christ.

If you've ever questioned your calling or hesitated to step into what God placed inside of you, this episode will remind you that you were never meant to play small. It's time to give your best, lead with love, and build something that will outlive you.

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00:26 – Pastor Lisa opens with gratitude, thanking the women who said yes to both salvation and their God-given purpose.

02:10 – The prayer that changed everything: Lisa recalls asking God for true friends.

03:22 – Seasons come and go, but how we use them is on us.

03:43 – Pouring it all out becomes the central message of the day.

05:33 – The story of the woman with the alabaster jar (Mark 14:3–9) and the challenge to pour it all out for Jesus.

08:00 – Whether called Mary, a sinner, or unknown, she was remembered for her devotion. What will you be remembered for?

10:42 – Leaving a legacy for her kids and the church.
11:43 – Rededicating her life to Jesus, daily.
13:16 – The early Arise days: when Pastor Mike gave everything to build the church. 16:49 – Pouring out looks different in every season.

17:42 – Celebrating 15 years of Arise Ministry, Arise Conference will take place November 19–20 at the Blaisdell.

19:08 – How overthinking can stop your calling. Move before fear talks you out of it. 22:47 – The alabaster woman didn't hesitate; she just did it.
24:39 – How marriage and business reflect each other: both must be Christ-centered. 32:04 – Overcoming insecurities and comparison in leadership.

36:42 – Birthing what God gave you, even when fear tries to hold you back. (Galatians 1:10) 38:26 – Never stop giving God the glory.
43:44 – Build something that will outlast you. (Mark 14:9)
46:25 – Arise is a legacy movement (Proverbs 13:22).

48:07 – Pastor Lisa closes in prayer and reflection.

This episode of the I AM HER Podcast, Pastor Lisa and Bekah dive into a powerful and freeing conversation on forgiveness. They talk openly about why it can be so difficult, why it is essential, and how it has the ability to transform every part of your life. Through personal stories, biblical wisdom, and honest reflections, they explore the pride, the pain, and the process of truly letting go.

Forgiveness is not just about others, it is about you. It is about releasing offense, breaking free from the weight of bitterness, and stepping into the kind of joy and peace that only God can bring. Whether you are facing the challenge of forgiving those closest to you, carrying deep hurts that feel impossible to release, or simply needing to forgive yourself, this conversation will encourage you to take that first step toward healing.

Tune in and discover how forgiveness has the power to renew your mind, heal your heart, and set you free to live with freedom, joy, and peace.