In this transformative episode of the Infiniti Podcast, Chaya Abelsky and Jay McNaught sit down with Dr. Richard Boyatzis—renowned organizational psychologist and co-author of The Science of Change, the recent breakthrough book now referred to as the bible for coaches. With clarity and warmth, Dr. Boyatzis explores affinity—the emotional bond and human resonance that underpin sustainable behavioral change.

Drawing from his groundbreaking Intentional Change Theory (ICT), Dr. Boyatzis explains how Positive Emotional Attractors (PEAs)—such as compassion, hope, and purpose—activate the parasympathetic nervous system, creating the space needed for learning, openness, and growth. Chaya and Jay dive into what this means for coaches, leaders, and anyone seeking to help others evolve—whether in organizations, classrooms, families, or communities.

💡 Key Takeaways for Leaders & Coaches:

1. Affinity is the starting point – Deep human connection is the gateway to real change, and it’s foundational—not optional.

2. The PEA effect – Neuroscience confirms that when people experience hope and empathy, they access their best thinking and strongest motivation.

3. Lead with resonance – Resonant leaders inspire change by being attuned, authentic, and anchored in vision and care.

4. Shift from fixing to becoming – Coaching is most powerful when it’s about helping people grow into their ideal selves—not merely solving immediate problems.

5. Backed by science, driven by heart – The Science of Change offers a compelling research-backed roadmap to lead transformation with humanity at its core.

In this moving episode of Affinity for INFIITy, Becky Rothstein opens up about her journey through healing, growth, and alignment. With warmth and clarity, Becky shares how she has learned to trust the process, remain present in the moment, and embrace the infinite possibilities that emerge when we live in alignment with our values and purpose.

Becky discusses her passion for holding space for others and the deep listening required to help people reconnect with their truest selves. She speaks about grief and joy coexisting, about the importance of allowing what is, and about how transformation often begins with slowing down and listening within.

Her story is one of resilience, vision, and gentle power—a powerful reminder that the journey to “becoming” is not linear but deeply worthwhile.

Whether you’re a coach, a seeker, or someone navigating your own transitions, this conversation invites you to breathe deeper, show up more fully, and trust that you are exactly where you’re meant to be.

In this insightful episode, Paul Boehnke, author of Think Well: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life, shares his journey from classical musician to transformational life coach. Paul discusses how years of inner criticism and self-doubt as a musician led him to explore personal growth and the power of mindset.

He dives into the mechanics of self-talk, emphasizing that the way we think determines the way we feel and ultimately the way we act. Paul describes how most people are unaware of the subconscious scripts running their lives, often rooted in limiting beliefs formed during childhood. He offers practical tools for identifying and replacing those thoughts with empowering alternatives.

The conversation explores the intersection of spirituality and mindset, with Paul describing moments of deep presence and inner peace that resemble the feeling of “infinity”—a recurring theme in the podcast. He encourages listeners to pause, reflect, and cultivate awareness as the first step toward meaningful transformation.

Paul’s warm, grounded approach and clear insights offer a refreshing take on how small shifts in thinking can create lasting impact. His message: change is possible for anyone willing to become conscious of their inner world.