In this episode of Positive Solutions 4 Life, Peggy Meyer challenges one of the most common (but misleading) pieces of advice: “Fake it till you make it.”

You’ll discover why faking it doesn’t lead to true confidence or success — and how it can actually keep you stuck. Peggy shares 5 practical mindset shifts you can make today to stop pretending and start becoming the confident, capable, and successful person you’re meant to be.

Whether you’re in sales, leadership, network marketing, entrepreneurship, or just trying to grow in your personal life, this episode is packed with actionable insights to help you build confidence and success from the inside out.

✅ Why faking it creates insecurity, not confidence ✅ How to “act as if” by modeling the behavior of successful people ✅ Why copying success is not cheating — it’s smart ✅ How posture, energy, and voice shape your success before you speak ✅ Why your identity must align with your desired outcomes ✅ How small, consistent shifts lead to lasting transformation

✨ 1️⃣ Faking It Creates Insecurity, Not Confidence Confidence comes from competence and aligned action, not pretending. “Act as if” means aligning your behavior today with the person you want to become.

✨ 2️⃣ Success Leaves Clues: Modeling Is Not Cheating Modeling successful behaviors shortens your learning curve. Copying in life and business isn’t cheating — it’s strategic and wise.

✨ 3️⃣ Your Energy, Posture, and Voice Matter More Than You Realize People feel your energy before they hear your words. Lead yourself first with confidence, posture, and presence.

✨ 4️⃣ Faking It Keeps You Tied to the Wrong Identity Shift your identity to match your future success. Speak and act like the person you’re becoming, not the person you’ve been.

✨ 5️⃣ Small, Consistent Shifts Lead to Real Transformation Success is built on habits, not hacks. Model successful people’s behaviors in your money, mindset, health, and habits.

Identify one area where you’ve been faking it — confidence, leadership, posture, saving money, etc. Ask yourself: “How would the most successful version of me show up right now?” Then go model someone who’s already there. Learn. Adapt. Apply. Stop faking. Start becoming.

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In this empowering episode of Positive Solutions 4 Life, Peggy Meyer sits down with Mel Ferguson, a self-leadership coach, speaker, and mentor, to explore what it truly means to lead yourself from the inside out. Mel shares her powerful journey from being a teenage mom of four to experiencing a medical wake-up call that forced her to re-evaluate how she was living. Like many, she had spent years putting everyone else's needs first—until she realized the cost to her health, identity, and well-being.

Mel now helps others shift from burnout and overgiving to conscious leadership of their own lives—starting with self-awareness, emotional intelligence, healthy boundaries, and redefining rest. This conversation will help you reflect on how you show up for yourself and empower you to make intentional changes.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Self-leadership begins with awareness and choice: How are you leading yourself today?

• Rest is essential, not a reward. Define what rest looks like for you—and give yourself permission to take it.

• Boundaries are self-respect in action. Start small, build clarity and confidence over time.

• Learn to regularly check in with your emotions and needs using tools like non-violent communication.

• Align your rest, work, and play in a way that works for your season of life—these aren't separate, but interconnected.

🛠️ Tools & Practices Shared:

• Developing emotional intelligence and practicing non-violent communication

• Using self-reflection questions: What do I feel? What do I need?

• Starting with one small boundary and celebrating progress

• Creating a “rest list” personalized to your lifestyle (e.g., walks, baths, nature, music, movement)

• Understanding how your self-leadership affects your family, teams, and impact

🌿 Final Reflection: "Leadership starts with you. When you lead yourself with care, intention, and self-respect, your life—and the lives of those around you—transform."

📲 Connect with Mel Ferguson: 🌐 Website: melanieferguson.co.uk 📸 Instagram: @meljferguson 💼 LinkedIn: Mel Ferguson on LinkedIn

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