Navigating Fear and Anxiety: Practical Steps for Growth and Resilience

SUMMARY

In this episode, John and coaching colleague James discuss how fear can be used as useful feedback rather than a stop sign. They explore lingering pandemic-related anxieties, physical manifestations of stress, and common fears such as failure or societal pressures. Together, they offer practical techniques for reframing fear into usable energy and taking small, safe steps towards a supportive environment. Additionally, they emphasise the importance of action, even small ones, to overcome fear and progress in personal growth and self-actualisation. They also touch on the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive people and environments. Both coaches share their personal experiences and offer support for listeners dealing with similar fears, providing valuable insights into how to transform fear into a force for personal development and success.

You can reach out to John from the info below, and if you would like to connect with James, you can email him at jameskilgarriff@gmail.com

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Fear as Feedback

00:07 Navigating Pandemic-Induced Fears

01:53 Personal Experiences with Fear and Anxiety

05:46 The Evolutionary Perspective on Fear

11:57 Reframing Fear: From Nerves to Excitement

16:07 The Importance of Embracing Change

21:36 Overcoming the Fear of Failure

22:21 Overcoming Failure and Self-Doubt

23:50 The Importance of Feedback

26:18 Surrounding Yourself with Supportive People

30:52 Managing Fear and Stress

32:01 Taking Action to Overcome Fear

36:24 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Mastering Negotiation: From Hostage Tactics to Everyday Deals with Susan Ibitz

SUMMARY

In this episode of Present Influence, host John Ball interviews Susan Ibitz, an expert in international hostage negotiation, interrogation, and behavioural analysis, about applying real hostage negotiation strategies to everyday situations. Susan shares practical tactics for establishing instant rapport, navigating irrational behaviour, and negotiating without scripts. She discusses the balance of warmth and assertiveness in communication and the importance of understanding both your own and others' irrational behaviours. The episode also highlights the value of strategic negotiation in various contexts, from personal relationships to high-stakes business deals, and encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves to find their true tribe.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Hostage Negotiation Techniques

01:51 Meet Susan Ibitz: Hostage Negotiator and Behavioural Analyst

02:24 The Importance of Authenticity and Finding Your Tribe

03:25 Susan's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Success

08:53 Communication Techniques for Building Rapport

13:21 Understanding and Managing Irrational Behaviour

32:46 Reflecting on Fashion Choices

34:01 The Challenges of Public Speaking

35:07 Introverts vs. Extroverts in Public Speaking

40:57 Finding Your Happy Place

42:46 The Importance of Negotiation

52:48 Overcoming Obstacles for Personal Growth

01:01:08 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Building Genuine Credibility: Avoiding the Pitfalls of Manufactured Status

SUMMARY

In this episode of 'Present Influence,' host John Ball discusses the difference between genuine credibility and manufactured status for speakers, coaches, and expert business owners. He warns against the allure of fake status symbols like rented Lamborghinis and pay-to-play magazine features, emphasising the importance of authenticity and ethical authority. John shares a three-point credibility test to help listeners audit their own credibility signals, ensuring they are earned, relevant, and verifiable. He also highlights the role of passion, honesty, and real-life testimonials in building sustainable influence. The episode ends with a challenge to audit and share a credibility marker you're proud of.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: The Real Threat to Your Credibility

01:10 Understanding Credibility: Ethos and Authority

02:08 The Pitfalls of Manufactured Status

03:00 Ethics and Manipulation in Influence

06:19 The Power of Authentic Stories

08:26 The Three-Point Credibility Test

11:59 Building Genuine Credibility

17:56 Conclusion: Your Challenge for the Week

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Mastering Technical Talks: Joel Benge's Guide to Message Therapy

SUMMARY

In this episode of Present Influence, host John Ball speaks with Joel Benge, author of 'Be A Nerd that Talks Good,' and creator of the Message Therapy framework. Joel shares his technique for transforming technical presentations into memorable and impactful stories. Drawing from experiences at Nickelodeon, NASA, and the Department of Homeland Security, Joel discusses how to connect with any audience by striking a balance between logic, emotion, and credibility. Listeners will learn how to strip out jargon, build trust, and convey powerful messages, making even the most complex ideas stick. Joel also outlines his unique framework and tools like the Message Deck, which help speakers develop and structure their messages effectively. Tune in to discover how to make your technical talks unforgettable.

For Joel's prompt cards, book or more information, visit nerdthattalksgood.com

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Making Technical Talks Memorable

00:14 Meet Joel Benge: From Nickelodeon to NASA

01:45 Joel's Journey: From IT Geek to Communication Expert

03:55 The Power of Simplifying Technical Communication

05:47 Joel's Message Therapy: Helping Nerds Talk Good

15:58 The Framework: Head, Heart, and Gut

24:07 Building Connections: The Importance of Vulnerability

28:28 Crafting Effective Presentations: Objectives and Outcomes

35:35 Tools and Resources: Cards, Books, and More

41:16 Conclusion: The Impact of Clear Messaging

This episode was created in partnership with Podmatch, the best podcast guest-matching service, helping expert guests find the ideal podcasts to guest on. Head there now to book your next guest appearance: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/presentinfluence #podmatch

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Most speakers sabotage themselves before they even get on stage.

Some wing it. Others over-hype themselves. Many cling to lucky charms or last-minute cramming. The result? Nerves, shaky delivery, and lost connection with the audience.

In this solo episode, John shares a practical pre-game system you can actually use to get stage-ready without superstition or overthinking.

You’ll learn how to:

• Reset your mindset in two minutes with Stoic reframing, box breathing, and a simple nerves-to-excitement shift.
• Prepare your body and voice with easy warm-ups (that won’t make you look ridiculous backstage).
• Prime your message by locking in your opening, closing, and key beats — without cramming.
• Avoid common pre-game mistakes that drain your energy or ramp up nerves.

Whether you’re about to step on stage, record a podcast, or present to your team, these tools will help you show up calm, confident, and connected.

👉 Next time: John speaks with Joel Benge about Message Mastery and why tech leaders need to “talk good” (his words, not mine).

👉 Coming soon: A solo deep dive on the ethics of influence and the tricky line between genuine credibility and manufactured status.

🎥 For behind-the-scenes extras and visuals, subscribe to the YouTube channel: Present Influence

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Pre-Game Preparation

01:03 Personal Story: Overcoming Stage Fright

02:37 Mental Preparation Techniques

03:30 Breathing Exercises for Calmness

06:34 Vocal Warm-Ups and Physical Preparation

09:41 Effective Rehearsal Strategies

16:45 Common Pre-Game Mistakes to Avoid

21:05 Final Tips and Conclusion

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Most presenters polish slides and still feel the room slip away. In this conversation with Rebecca Williams, co-author of Presenting Presenting: The Art of Public Speaking and How to Do It Better, we delve into why performance blocks connection and how to address it quickly. You’ll learn Rebecca’s First Five Formula to open any talk, how to reframe nerves into excitement, and why you should build your talk off the laptop and on the wall before you ever touch slides.

We cover connecting with your audience first, storytelling that lands, and the mindset shift from “make me look good” to service. We also get practical for analytical presenters in tech, science, and blockchain who rely on data and jargon. If you speak at work, on stage, or on video, this will help you open stronger, deliver with heart, and be remembered.

What you’ll learn

• The First Five Formula to hook any audience in minutes
• How to lead with a question and read the room
• A repeatable prep process using paper, Sharpie, and structure
• Reframing nerves into excitement so delivery feels natural
• Why emotion drives persuasion and “robot talks” fail
• How to stop over-performing and start connecting
• Dressing and presence choices that support your message
• Fixing common corporate communication traps

About Rebecca

Rebecca Williams is a communication coach and co-author of Presenting: The Art of Public Speaking and How to Do It Better. She helps leaders and technical teams present with clarity, story, and genuine connection.

Grab Rebecca’s book

Search Amazon for “ Presenting presenting the Art of Public Speaking and How to Do It Better. Rebecca Williams” or visit https://rebecca-williams.com/book/

If this helped, subscribe for weekly tools on influence, storytelling, and professional speaking. Share it with one person who presents often.

Created in association with #podmatch the best podcast guest & host matching service.

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

SUMMARY

Most of us spend our lives trying to blend in; at work, in friendships, even on stage. But the harder we chase acceptance, the more invisible we become.

In this episode, I share my own story of being pushed out of the very communities I once belonged to, and how that rejection became the catalyst for finding my voice. You’ll learn why “not fitting in” is often the beginning of true influence, how to turn outsider energy into credibility, and why your quirks might be your greatest professional asset.

🔥 What you’ll take away:

• The psychology behind belonging and exclusion
• Why hiding your truth erodes influence (and how to stop)
• How to reframe rejection as the start of credibility
• Practical steps to turn difference into magnetic presence

This isn’t about theory. It’s about lived experience, raw stories, and a roadmap for anyone who’s ever felt like they didn’t belong.

Do you want to hear the story that made me feel so vulnerable on stage? https://youtu.be/MRR9K9HvnRE

👉 Listen in and discover why not fitting in might just be your unfair advantage.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction: Embracing the Outsider Advantage

01:02 Personal Story: The Pain of Not Fitting In

02:52 Questioning Beliefs: A Turning Point

04:49 The Power of Authenticity

08:31 Navigating Relationships and Acceptance

12:49 The Importance of Vulnerability

20:18 Conclusion: Your Uniqueness as Leverage

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.

Leaders don’t fail because they lack ideas — they fail because they can’t communicate them.

In this episode, I sit down with Lucille Ossai, award-winning communications trainer and author of Influence and Thrive. From Lagos Business School to global boardrooms, Lucille has helped leaders transform how they connect, persuade, and inspire.

We unpack her 3 rules of effective communication and why mastering writing is often the fastest way to expand your influence.

🔑 In this conversation:

• How Lucille stumbled into communication after starting as a stay-at-home mum
• The surprising power of writing in an AI-driven world
• The 3 rules that instantly make you clearer and more credible
• Why communication is the #1 skill that drives leadership impact

📖 Learn more about Lucille:

Book: Influence and Thrive → https://amzn.eu/d/5h8mZDO

Website: www.lucilleossai.com

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lucilleossaicommunicationspro

✨ If you’ve ever felt your voice isn’t being heard, this episode will give you the tools to change that.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Powerful Communication

00:14 Lucille Ossai's Journey to Communication Expertise

01:29 The Importance of Communication Skills

03:19 Benefits of Effective Communication

05:19 Implementing Effective Communication

09:09 Three Rules of Effective Communication

12:56 Influence Through Communication

15:50 Overcoming Communication Challenges

24:50 The Power of Writing in Communication

26:22 A Nervous Start and Building Skills

26:45 The Importance of Writing in Business

27:57 Reading to Improve Writing

29:10 Blogging as a Tool for Improvement

30:46 The Role of AI in Writing

37:50 Effective Leadership Communication

41:56 Optimism for Future Business Leaders

45:39 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Visit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient.

For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email john@presentinfluence.com or find me on LinkedIn

You can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluence

Thanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.