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We explore the crucial difference between conflict avoidance and avoidant attachment, examining how avoiding small issues creates bigger problems in long-term relationships. The person who avoids conflict actually controls the relationship dynamic, creating a pressure cooker where ten skipped conversations eventually lead to one explosive confrontation.

• Conflict avoidance is different from avoidant attachment, though they're often confused
• Avoiding issues in long-term relationships causes problems to grow larger over time
• The conflict-avoidant person paradoxically controls the relationship by setting its pace
• Trust requires truth plus timeliness plus completeness—avoidance breaks timeliness
• When we think we're "letting things go," our biology often holds onto tension anyway
• Secure attachment approaches conflict directly with clear communication
• Conflict avoidance can lead to ending valuable relationships when seeing others' pain becomes unbearable

Stay curious and stay uncomfortable.

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We need to recognize ourselves as the human animals we are, understanding that our meat suit houses all our psychological components and significantly impacts what we consider "self." The way stress shapes our bodies and behaviors can explain everything from lacking motivation to experiencing unexplained pain.

• Our biology is the most incredible machine ever created, far superior to any human invention
• Modern society conditions us to ignore physical discomfort through top-down regulation from the prefrontal cortex
• Chronic stress creates hidden tension in our bodies that manifests as pain, emotional problems, and focus issues
• Our bodies are tensegrity structures that need varied, constant movement to maintain health
• Emotions begin as physiological sensations before cognitive awareness
• The lack of species-expected stimuli in modern environments causes our biological systems to short-circuit
• Walking provides both physical movement and creates visual signals that help regulate stress responses
• ADHD often results from being conditioned at home due to stress rather than at school
• Like any animal, humans need touch, play, food, water, sleep, and social connection
• Satisfying these basic animal needs can resolve seemingly complex psychological problems

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The difference between commerce and capitalism might seem like a semantic distinction, but understanding this gap illuminates how our entire economic system functions today. Commerce—the simple exchange of goods based on mutual needs—has existed in all human societies since time immemorial. It's relational, built on trust and reciprocity. But capitalism? That's something else entirely.

In this deep dive, we trace capitalism's evolution from feudal Europe through the first multinational corporations to today's tech monopolies. The story begins with the rise of merchant classes who threatened landed elites, and the subsequent creation of corporate charters that married private capital with state violence. The Dutch and British East India Companies—with their own militaries, courts, and prisons—represent the first true capitalistic enterprises, extracting wealth globally while distributing risk through public stock offerings.

This historical development fundamentally transformed human values. Worth became determined not by usefulness but by exchange value. Time became money. Work became wage labor. The abstraction of wealth from tangible goods to returns on investment created our modern financial system where billionaires claim to assume risk while actually transferring it to workers and consumers.

From ExxonMobil's resource extraction backed by military force to Amazon's 30% marketplace cut while enjoying massive tax breaks, the mechanisms have evolved but the underlying structure remains. Delaware's corporate secrecy laws hide the modern version of those early public charters from scrutiny, while our legal system obligates companies to maximize quarterly profits regardless of human or environmental costs.

Understanding this history challenges us to reimagine what trade could look like without domination. How might we increase reciprocal commerce in our communities while resisting exploitative capitalism? Join this conversation about one of the most misunderstood but influential systems shaping our world today, and discover practical ways to support alternatives that benefit everyone, not just those at the top.

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