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We explore the crucial difference between conflict avoidance and avoidant attachment, examining how avoiding small issues creates bigger problems in long-term relationships. The person who avoids conflict actually controls the relationship dynamic, creating a pressure cooker where ten skipped conversations eventually lead to one explosive confrontation.

• Conflict avoidance is different from avoidant attachment, though they're often confused
• Avoiding issues in long-term relationships causes problems to grow larger over time
• The conflict-avoidant person paradoxically controls the relationship by setting its pace
• Trust requires truth plus timeliness plus completeness—avoidance breaks timeliness
• When we think we're "letting things go," our biology often holds onto tension anyway
• Secure attachment approaches conflict directly with clear communication
• Conflict avoidance can lead to ending valuable relationships when seeing others' pain becomes unbearable

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We need to recognize ourselves as the human animals we are, understanding that our meat suit houses all our psychological components and significantly impacts what we consider "self." The way stress shapes our bodies and behaviors can explain everything from lacking motivation to experiencing unexplained pain.

• Our biology is the most incredible machine ever created, far superior to any human invention
• Modern society conditions us to ignore physical discomfort through top-down regulation from the prefrontal cortex
• Chronic stress creates hidden tension in our bodies that manifests as pain, emotional problems, and focus issues
• Our bodies are tensegrity structures that need varied, constant movement to maintain health
• Emotions begin as physiological sensations before cognitive awareness
• The lack of species-expected stimuli in modern environments causes our biological systems to short-circuit
• Walking provides both physical movement and creates visual signals that help regulate stress responses
• ADHD often results from being conditioned at home due to stress rather than at school
• Like any animal, humans need touch, play, food, water, sleep, and social connection
• Satisfying these basic animal needs can resolve seemingly complex psychological problems

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The difference between commerce and capitalism might seem like a semantic distinction, but understanding this gap illuminates how our entire economic system functions today. Commerce—the simple exchange of goods based on mutual needs—has existed in all human societies since time immemorial. It's relational, built on trust and reciprocity. But capitalism? That's something else entirely.

In this deep dive, we trace capitalism's evolution from feudal Europe through the first multinational corporations to today's tech monopolies. The story begins with the rise of merchant classes who threatened landed elites, and the subsequent creation of corporate charters that married private capital with state violence. The Dutch and British East India Companies—with their own militaries, courts, and prisons—represent the first true capitalistic enterprises, extracting wealth globally while distributing risk through public stock offerings.

This historical development fundamentally transformed human values. Worth became determined not by usefulness but by exchange value. Time became money. Work became wage labor. The abstraction of wealth from tangible goods to returns on investment created our modern financial system where billionaires claim to assume risk while actually transferring it to workers and consumers.

From ExxonMobil's resource extraction backed by military force to Amazon's 30% marketplace cut while enjoying massive tax breaks, the mechanisms have evolved but the underlying structure remains. Delaware's corporate secrecy laws hide the modern version of those early public charters from scrutiny, while our legal system obligates companies to maximize quarterly profits regardless of human or environmental costs.

Understanding this history challenges us to reimagine what trade could look like without domination. How might we increase reciprocal commerce in our communities while resisting exploitative capitalism? Join this conversation about one of the most misunderstood but influential systems shaping our world today, and discover practical ways to support alternatives that benefit everyone, not just those at the top.

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The golden era of capitalism from the 1950s to 1970s wasn't brought to you by capitalism but by communism and government regulation. During post-WWII America, the government implemented socialist policies that created unprecedented prosperity while simultaneously demonizing communism abroad.

• Government contracts forced corporations like Boeing, General Dynamics, and Lockheed to build specific products with extensive oversight
• Social services including the GI Bill, Federal Housing Administration, Highway Interstate Act, Medicare and Medicaid were created during this era
• Top marginal tax rate was 91% from 1946-1963, funding social spending and development
• Employment Act of 1946 legally committed Washington to pursue maximum employment
• When USSR collapsed in the 1980s, deregulation followed, creating massive inequality
• Capitalism only wore a human face because it feared losing its head to communism

Citations:

1. Knaack, Robert. _Post-World War II Bombers: 1945–1973_. USAF History Office, 1988.

2. Markusen, Ann. _The Rise of the Gunbelt_. Oxford Univ. Press, 1991.

3. NASA Marshall Space Flight Center. _Saturn Illustrated Chronology_. NASA SP-4012, 1974.

4. Sapolsky, Harvey. _The Polaris System Development_. Harvard Univ. Press, 1972.

5. U.S. GAO. _F‑111 Aircraft Staff Study_. February 1973.

6. Pedlow, Gregory & Welzenbach, Donald. _The CIA and the U‑2 Program, 1954–1974_. CIA, 1998.

7. Robarge, David. _Archangel: CIA’s Supersonic A‑12 Reconnaissance Aircraft_. CIA, 2012.

8. Francillon, René. _Lockheed Aircraft Since 1913_. Naval Institute Press, 1979.

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America has been functioning as a fascist country for years, but we're only now seeing the Nazi salutes and hearing direct Nazi quotes in Congress. The real issue isn't just the obvious villains, but the entire political system controlled by trillion-dollar investment firms that fund both parties while the public fights over social issues.

• Texas Representative Keith Self quoted Nazi propagandist Joseph Goebbels during a congressional session
• Politicians from both parties serve the same financial interests while maintaining the illusion of opposition
• The same corporate donors fund both Republicans and Democrats to different degrees
• BlackRock controls $10 trillion in assets, dwarfing even billionaires like Elon Musk
• Politicians enter office middle-class and leave as multimillionaires through insider trading
• Democrats are morally compromised by claiming higher ground while enabling similar systems of oppression
• America needs revolution, not reform, as the issues that truly matter don't change regardless of who's in office

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PS. The video of Rep Self seemed to imply but did not actually show the representatives support of the quote. He simply stated "I think this is what we are here to talk about." In my opinion this doesn't necessarily mean he supports the quote. He was just the one who read it and i couldn't find any record of what he was saying just before the video. So Representative Self may or may not support the Goebbels quote.

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Provocative victims are people who trigger others and then claim to be bullied when faced with pushback, representing a pattern rooted in privilege and trauma responses. This behavioral pattern extends from personal interactions to public figures, requiring clear recognition to effectively navigate without becoming emotionally entangled.

• Provocative victims display aggressive behavior then immediately claim victimhood when others respond
• White privilege often enables this behavior pattern by providing social safety to be confrontational
• Many provocative victims grew up with narcissistic caregivers, distorting their understanding of appropriate behavior
• Public figures like Elon Musk and Donald Trump demonstrate this pattern on larger scales
• Understanding the psychological roots helps us respond strategically rather than reactively
• Narcissistic tendencies provide frameworks but create blind spots about how behavior impacts others
• Naming this pattern ("provocative victim") gives us tools to handle these interactions more effectively

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Let me introduce you to a fantastic and powerful short hand way to evaluate the heartwarming good news presented to us in the media as Americans. The Orphan crushing machine! Nearly every heartwarming positive piece of news in this country ignores the terrible circumstances that created the need for the heartwarming story.

1 in 3 Go fund me accounts is for someones medical expenses. That is an orphan crushing machine. Every day people have raised over 650 Million dollars on Go fund me alone for peoples medical payments. The orphan is the people being saved by the goodness of strangers. While ignoring the problem created by the greed of the richest people in history manipulating healthcare until healthcare itself has become the machine that crushes orphans.

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What does it take for a Navy SEAL to transform into a licensed clinical social worker? Join us as we uncover the extraordinary life of Tom LeGrave, who shares his compelling journey from military service to helping others navigate the complexities of young adulthood.

At the heart of our conversation, we focus on the age group of 18 to 24, a time when self-regulation and resilience are crucial. Tom’s personal struggles provide a powerful backdrop as we discuss the profound impact of chronic stress and the difference a resilient role model can make during these pivotal years.

Rites of passage—what role do they play in defining our journey from dependence to independence? We explore this intriguing topic with Tom, delving into the cultural perceptions of these transitions and their psychological impact. Often misunderstood, the stigma surrounding science and therapy is another key discussion point. We also highlight those life-changing “aha” moments when individuals realize their own capacities and potential, emphasizing the importance of personal discovery and the art of letting go for growth and self-discovery.

Have you ever considered the power of personal reflection in seeking growth? With Tom LeGrave, we discuss how being just one step ahead can make a significant difference in helping others. Through Tom’s candid recounting of a personal relapse after decades of sobriety, we explore the importance of authenticity, vulnerability, and understanding our implicit memories. As we wrap up, we find a beacon of hope even in the darkest times, encouraging listeners to pursue sources of inspiration and motivation, nurturing a sense of optimism every day.

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