• 157. The Narcissist Will Use You to Woo: How Manipulators Borrow Your Goodness to Get What They Want
    Dec 5 2025

    Hey, Survivor!

    In today’s episode, we uncover a tactic every survivor of narcissistic abuse needs to understand:

    The narcissist will use you to woo.

    Using your name… your reputation… your kindness… your credibility… even your faith language, scripture, or values — narcissists will borrow any part of your goodness to soften their manipulation and influence others. This is called borrowed credibility, and it’s rooted in coercive control.

    I share a real story from the murder trial involving fake emails, spiritual guilt language, and reputation abuse — and we explore why survivors often miss this pattern until long after the relationship ends. We’ll dig into the psychology behind this deception and L.E.A.N. into healing.

    This is a validating, grounding, empowering episode for anyone who has ever been used, misrepresented, or manipulated by someone they trusted.

    You were the good one. You were the credible one. And the fact they borrowed your light shows how bright you shine.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    14 min
  • 156. Choosing Peace. Giving Thanks.
    Nov 28 2025

    Hey, Survivor!

    In this short Thanksgiving episode, I’m sharing a heartfelt message of gratitude for you — the one doing the hard healing work every single day. Whether your week is calm, complicated, or emotionally charged, this episode gives you three grounding tips for a peaceful holiday, especially if you’re navigating family dynamics, trauma memories, or feelings that surface this time of year.

    Inside the episode, you’ll learn:

    • How to protect your peace when old triggers or stressful people show up
    • Why boundaries are a form of self-love (not selfishness)
    • One simple grounding practice you can use in the car, at the table, or in the bathroom for a quick reset
    • How gratitude supports trauma recovery without avoiding your real feelings
    • A short, heartfelt message to remind you that you are worthy, growing, and not alone

    Whether you’re spending this holiday week with others or keeping it quiet and cozy this year, this episode is your reminder that you deserve gentleness, rest, and joy — exactly as you are.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    6 min
  • 155. How Well Did You Really Know the Narcissist? What Distance, Deception, and Community Reveal
    Nov 21 2025

    Hey, Survivor! Struggling with guilt, self-blaming and shaming for not seeing the narcissist for who and what they are? In this episode, I’m talking about why it’s hard to really know narcissistic and toxic individuals, the power of proximity, healthy relationships and healing. You can uphold truth, release guilt and shame, and gain clarity, after narcissistic abuse. Your community matters!

    If you, or someone you know, need clarity after the chaos, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    16 min
  • 154. Why Narcissists Always Play the Victim And How Survivors Break Free From the Script
    Nov 14 2025

    Hey, Survivor! Tired of the narcissist playing victim, after causing chaos, confusion and harm? In this episode, I’m talking about DARVO, bad acting, why this gut punch is especially hurtful, and how to overcome it. You can reclaim your power after this narcissistic abuse tactic and heal. Your truth and peace matter!

    If you, or someone you know, need validation and empowerment, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    19 min
  • 153. When Justice is Finally Served: Healing After a Narcissist's Conviction
    Nov 7 2025

    Hey, Survivor! What happens when justice is served, and the narcissist is finally held accountable? In this episode, I’m sharing the murder trial verdict, and various emotions that survivors can experience when truth is validated and consequences are coming. You can reclaim your health in the midst of the chaos and drama that the narcissistic or toxic individual in your life creates . Your truth and healing matter!

    If you, or someone you know, need healing help after justice, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    16 min
  • 152. Anything to Avoid Accountability: The Narcissist's Playbook
    Oct 31 2025

    Hey, Survivor! Have you ever been used by the narcissist to avoid consequences? In this episode, I’m sharing about the latest hearing in the murder trial. I’ll talk about the defense’s strategy, the prosecutor’s insights, and how you can recognize narcissistic manipulation tactics disguised as mental illness, physical ailments, victimhood or rationalizations. You can prioritize your health and well-being by staying grounded in reality and speaking your truth - even when it’s hard and it hurts. Your courage matters!

    If you, or someone you know, have been used to avoid accountability, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    16 min
  • 151. Your Body Wants to Heal: Why Nutrition and Movement Are Trauma Recovery Tools
    Oct 24 2025

    Hey, Survivor! How do you reclaim your body and brain, after trauma? In this episode, I’ll talk about a trauma healing and wellness workshop that I led for an awesome group of survivors. I’ll share why a holistic approach to healing is important, especially whole food nutrition and exercise that’s fun for you. Healing doesn’t begin when the narcissistic or toxic person who hurt you reaps what they’ve sown. Your healing starts with YOU!

    If you, or someone you know, want to tap into the power of meals and movement for healing, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    9 min
  • 150. How to Protect Your Peace When Toxic Systems and Narcissistic Leaders Gaslight & Re-Traumatize You
    Oct 17 2025

    Hey, Survivor! How do you self-regulate, when facing gaslighting, manipulation, and other toxic behaviors? In this episode, I’ll talk about body-based regulation when systems, institutions, and people you thought you could trust turn against you. I’ll share about the second round of hearings for 1 of the 4 school administrators who failed to protect students from a former teacher’s misconduct. You can’t control the narcissist or their tactics; but you can control how you care for your nervous system and your truth. Your health and well-being matter!

    If you, or someone you know, are experiencing narcissistic abuse by toxic systems and leaders, this episode is for you.

    Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

    💚Lesley

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    24 min