In this In Practice Episode, Dr. Cottone and I talk about rivalries in sports and how sometimes they get more serious than intended. We connect our favorite rivalries to the concepts of Tribalism, to unpack how it shows up in sports fandom.

Guest:
John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice and clinical assistant professor of psychiatry within the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University. His research—on psychotherapy outcome, executive functioning and the neurological correlates of schizophrenia—has been published in acclaimed peer-reviewed journals, including Archives of General Psychiatry, Psychotherapy, and Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion. He has a youtube channel called MindCube 3D. He has contributed to Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and is the author of several books included: Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth and Z-score: How a Statistic Used in Psychology Will Revolutionize Baseball.

To learn more about Dr. Cottone, please visit:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-cube
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcuWgaynspx77K4vavXIRfw
mindcube3d@gmail.com

Timestamps:
4:00 – Idea – Adopting Stories of Teams You Root Foor
6:40 – Rivalries – Yankees and Mets
8:00 – Rivalries – Georgia and Alabama
9:30 – Idea – Big Brother Little Brother (Family Dynamics Play Out in Rivalries)
11:20 – Concept – Bringing Personal Attributes to Tribes/Teams
12:40 – Tribal Mentality – Wake Forest at Louisville
16:20 – Research - Blue Eyes/Brown Eyes Experiment (Elliott, 1986)
17:45 – Heated Games – Georgia and LSU
19:30 – Idea – Connecting Rivalries to Politics
21:00 – Rivalries – Rangers and Islanders
16:00 – Connection Mentality – Tribalism can lead to connecting with people
27:00 – Concept – Dissonance within a Tribe
29:00 – Research - More Than a Game: Football Fans and
Marriage Equality (Harrison, 2016)
33:00 – Concept – Prioritizing Truth vs. Aligning with a Tribe
33:30 – Concept – Seeing Different Perspectives
35:00 – Concept – Reductionism in Tribalism
35:45 – Best Rivalries – Michigan v. Ohio State
35:45 – Best Rivalries – Celtics v. Lakers
36:50 – Best Rivalries – Alabama v. Auburn
35:45 – Best Rivalries – Cavaliers v. Warriors

Special thanks to musical artists:
Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/
G Mills: https://gmills.bandcamp.com/

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Benny Voncken highlights his personal experience using stoicism to live a present, exploring his true nature. He unpacks key ideas of Stoicism to help people life a grounded life of virtue, using emotions to inform reason, and find more joy (eudemonia) in daily life.

Guest:
Benny Voncken is the co-founder of Via Stoica and the Via Stoica Podcast. He and his team offer Stoic life coaching, corporate training, motivational speaking, and workshops. Our mission is to help people live better lives through the creation and application of a philosophy of Life, mainly based on Stoicism. Benny is from the Netherlands and has lived abroad for over 15 years. After teaching for almost 12 years, he focused on Stoicism and coaching to improve my life and to help as many people discover who they are and find their path and purpose in life.
You can find Benny on

To learn more about Benny, please visit:
https://viastoica.com/
https://es.linkedin.com/in/bennyvoncken

3:00 – Personal Story – How Did Benny Find Stoicism
5:00 – Research – Misunderstood Stoicism: The negative Association Between Stoic Ideology and well-Being (Karl et al., 2022)
5:50 – Stoicism Principles – Outcome: To Reach Eudemonia
6:30 – Stoicism Principles – Live in Accordance with Nature
5:50 – Stoicism Principles – 4 Cardinal Virtues (Wisdom, Justice, Courage, Temperance)
7:20 – Stoicism Principles – Guide By Reason, Live in Positive Emotions
8:30 – Stoicism Principles – Reflecting on Impulsive Emotions
9:45 – Concept – Reflecting on Emotions is Key to Using Reason
12:30 – Past Episode – Episode 17: Consent and Becoming an Adult with Sarah Casper
13:30 – Example – Rain and Perspective Taking within Stoicism
14:45 – History – Timeline of Stoicism
15:20 – Concept – Dichotomy of Control
16:45 – Concept – Dealing with Setbacks
22:20 – Concept – Living in Accordance with Nature
26:00 – Student Strategies – Explore Your Philosophy for Life (What are you supposed to do?)
28:55 – Student Strategies – Exploring Your Nature (Listening to Internals and Externals)
33:30 – Parent Strategies – “We have one mouth and two ears, so we should listen more and speak less.” (Xeno)
34:40 – Parent Strategies – Listen to a child, without absorbing all their feelings
36:20 – Research - Prediction error determines how memories are organized in the brain (Kennedy et al., 2024)
39:10 – Stoicism Practice – Journaling
46:00 – Personal Practice – Journaling. Getting Things on Paper. Poetry.

Special thanks to musical artists:
Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/
Jinsang: https://jinsangbeats.bandcamp.com/

To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit:
present-mind.org/podcast

Dr. Muller shares his professional experience on the power of relationships. He highlights how relationships are important as a foundation for personal growth. Strategies for parents and young adults are shared to build positive relationships.

Guest:
Robert T. Muller, Ph.D. completed his postdoctoral fellowship at Harvard, was on faculty at the University of Massachusetts, and is currently a professor at York University in Toronto. Dr. Muller is a fellow and member of several scientific societies, and is the 2024 recipient of the Pierre Janet Award for his scholarship on trauma. His most recent psychotherapy book, "Trauma & the Struggle to Open Up" was given the 2019 Written Media Award, for the year's best written work on trauma. And his award-winning bestseller, "Trauma & the Avoidant Client" has been translated widely. As lead investigator on several multi-site programs to treat interpersonal trauma, Dr. Muller has lectured internationally. He founded an online magazine, "The Trauma & Mental Health Report," that is now visited by over 100,000 readers a year. With over 30 years in the field, he practices in Toronto.

To learn more about Dr. Muller, please visit:
https://psychotherapytoronto.ca/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-trauma
https://www.youtube.com/user/thetraumareport

To learn more about Trauma Practice for Healthy Communities
https://traumapractice.org/

4:00 – Personal Story – How Dr. Muller Became Interested in Shame Research
10:23 – Concept – What’s Important About a Therapeutic Relationship
11:00 – Common Factors for Good Therapy – Therapeutic Relationship, Readiness for Change, Hopefulness
20:30 – Concepts – Relationships as a Source of Healing and Pain
26:00 – Concepts – Therapeutic Space is a Ground to Explore Interpersonal Dynamics
28:00 – Ways of Coping – Avoidance and Trauma
30:00 – Ways of Coping – Humor to Avoid Emotions
33:40 – Idea – Compass of Shame (Dr. Donald L. Nathanson)
35:30 – Student Strategies to Explore Intense Feelings – Journaling
39:50 – Ways of Coping – Oversharing, Dissociating
41:00 – College Resources – Most College Counseling Centers are Free
42:00 – Free Resources - Trauma Practice for Healthy Communities
44:00 – Free Resources – Trauma Informed Yoga
45:50 – Concept – There are a Lot of Ways to Bring About Healing
47:15 – Personal Strategies – Hanging with Granddaughter, Music, Cooking (Hungarian Food)
50:30 – Parent Strategies to Support Child Traumatic Experiences – Reacting with Support and Empathy
58:30 – Therapist Strategy – Trauma Work Can’t be done Alone (Be Part of a Process Group)

Special thanks to musical artists:
Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/
Joseph Jacobs: https://josephjacobsmusic.bandcamp.com/music

To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit:
present-mind.org/podcast