Do you feel like you're the only one trying?
Are you always the one who reaches out, starts the hard talks, and keeps the marriage going?
Does it feel like your wife just shuts down, pulls away, or avoids connection?

This is called the pursuer-distancer dynamic, and it’s common in struggling marriages. One person chases. The other runs. And both feel stuck.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ Why one-sided effort creates stress and silence
✅ How the pursuer-distancer pattern starts and keeps going
✅ Why your wife pulls away when you try harder
✅ How to stop chasing without becoming cold
✅ What it means to lead with calm instead of anxiety
✅ Real steps to build peace, power, and connection

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Always bring things up and get shut down
🔹 Feel like she’s pulling away more each day
🔹 Want closeness but don’t want to feel needy
🔹 Are tired of feeling like the only one trying
🔹 Want to stop reacting and start leading yourself

You Will Walk Away With:
✔️ A clear understanding of the pattern you’re stuck in
✔️ Tools to stop chasing and start grounding
✔️ Steps to speak with strength, not pressure
✔️ A way to break the cycle without guilt or resentment
✔️ More peace — even if she doesn’t change right away

📍 Need help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com for coaching that helps you build emotional strength, stop chasing, and feel calm even when your marriage feels distant. Book a free 30-minute consultation now.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

You want to feel close.
You want to speak your needs.
But every time you try, it backfires.

Maybe she pulls away.
Maybe you shut down.
Maybe you explode or say nothing at all.

In this episode of The Secure Husband Podcast, Bruce explains why you keep losing your voice — and how the wounded boy inside you might be in charge of your marriage.

What You’ll Learn:
✅ Why expressing needs isn’t the problem — your tone is
✅ How your inner boy learned to hide, hint, and hope
✅ What clear, calm, adult communication sounds like
✅ Why your delivery matters more than your words
✅ How to speak needs without losing peace or power

This Is for You If You:
🔹 Struggle to say what you want without feeling weak
🔹 Feel shut down, ignored, or like she never responds
🔹 Are tired of sulking, hinting, or guilt-tripping
🔹 Want to stop feeling needy and start leading with strength

Here’s What You’ll Walk Away With:
✔️ Tools to notice old patterns that keep you stuck
✔️ Simple steps to stop speaking from fear
✔️ Real examples of what secure communication looks like
✔️ A plan to take back your calm, your strength, and your voice

📍 Want help with this?
Visit SecureHusband.com for coaching that shows you how to speak clearly, lead with calm, and stop tying your worth to your wife’s reactions. Book a free 30-minute consultation today.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom
#marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment

All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.

You’ve been doing the work.
You’re reading.
You’re journaling.
You’re trying to stay calm.

But deep down… you still feel stuck.
You still feel alone.
You still feel like nothing is changing.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast explains why.
It’s something called hidden resistance — and it may be blocking your healing.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
✅ What hidden resistance really is
✅ How it hides in your thoughts and actions
✅ Why it gets stronger when you’re close to breakthrough
✅ How to spot the signs in your daily life
✅ The 6 clear steps to move through it with strength and peace

This Is for You If:
🔹 You feel like you’re doing the work but still stuck
🔹 You keep consuming content but avoid real emotions
🔹 You feel like healing might cost you your marriage
🔹 You want to lead your life with truth, not fear

What You’ll Walk Away With:
✔️ Clarity on what’s really holding you back
✔️ Steps to face fear without shutting down
✔️ Tools to lead yourself with honesty and calm
✔️ A plan to stop overthinking and start acting
✔️ Real examples from men who broke through resistance

Need help moving forward?
Visit SecureHusband.com to book a free 30-minute coaching call.
You’ll get clear direction and support built for men who are tired of guessing and ready to grow.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

#deadbedroom
#marriage
#sexlessmarriage
#MarriageHelp
#SaveYourMarriage
#SecureHusband
#MarriageAdvice
#RelationshipHealing
#SelfWorth
#InnerChildHealing
#MensMentalHealth
#SelfLoveJourney
#EmotionalHealing
#OvercomeRejection
#HealthyMasculinity
#MarriageCoaching
#StopPeoplePleasing
#SelfGrowth
#attachmenttheory
#attachmentstyles
#anxiousattachment
#preoccupiedattachment
#attachment
#avoidantattachment

All content is for informational purposes only and does not provide medical or psychological diagnosis or treatment. Always consult your physician before starting any treatment or therapy. This includes all content on this site, email, blogs, podcasts, social media, and events. Nothing shared constitutes medical or legal advice. Use of this information is at your own risk.