Marriage Psychology

Psychologists often paint a picture of human mating as visceral, instinctual. But that's not the whole story. In courtship and display, sexual competition and rivalry, we are also guided by what Glenn Geher and Scott Barry Kaufman call Mating Intelligence - a range of mental abilities that have evolved to help us find the right partner. Mating Intelligence is at work in our efforts to form, maintain, and end relationships. It guides us in flirtation, foreplay, copulation, finding and choosing a mate, and many other behaviors.

Here’s what you need to manage and let go of, so you can finally feel in control of your BPD relationship. Are you starting to feel exhausted from living with your spouse, who suffers from BPD? Do you constantly tiptoe around them to avoid blowups or unnecessary drama? Have you tried to convince them to get treatments, but they refused to get help?

Many times infidelity is the death of a relationship - but an affair doesn't have to mean the end. Realistic ways of coping with pain, restoring self-esteem, and rebuilding trust and intimacy are available for the first time on audio in this guide by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring. Dr. Spring is one of the few clinical psychologists in the US who specializes in infidelity. She offers original and proven strategies to those seeking guidance, sympathy, and solutions, laying to rest blame and recrimination and focusing instead on recovery.

Is ADHD creating roadblocks in your relationship? This book, from best-selling publisher LearnWell and author Robert Bell, is your guide to overcoming frustration and fostering a fulfilling connection with your partner. This audiobook provides a step-by-step blueprint to improve your relationship without sacrificing your well-being. With wisdom, empathy, and practical tools, you can overcome ADHD-related obstacles and reignite the love and connection in your partnership.

Ever wondered why your partner needs constant reassurance… or why they seem to have such demanding needs? Maybe it's your own mind you want to get under the hood of… Why is it that you need reassurance in love, no matter how much you tell yourself you shouldn’t? The patterns we see recurring in our relationships are formed early on, and many of us move through life without ever figuring out where they come from…But if you’re doing this, you’re doing yourself a disservice. Personal growth and fulfillment is only possible when you understand who you are and why you act how you do.

Dr. Woititz, in her first, breakthrough book addresses the spouses of alcoholics who feel overwhelmed and desperate in their marriages. Her focus is to show that the boundaries of isolationism and depression that living with an alcoholic brings does not necessarily mean one cannot eventually find piece of mind - whether or not the alcoholic continues drinking. Marriage on the Rocks can show you the coping skills you deserve to have when alcoholism impacts your life.

Maurice Benard has been blessed with family, fame, and a successful career. For 25 years, he has played one of the most well-known characters on daytime television: General Hospital’s Michael "Sonny" Corinthos, Jr. In his life outside the screen, he is a loving husband and the father of four. But his path has not been without hardship. When he was only 20, Maurice was diagnosed with bipolar disorder.

Loving the lovable parts of your partner is easy. He's funny, charming, smart, successful, and kind. He's perfect. Except for when he is not. Like when he is late. Or short-tempered. Or impatient. Or lazy. Or he has just loaded the dishwasher incorrectly (again). Maybe he suddenly feels like the most frustrating person on the planet. Or maybe you're simply not feeling heard or seen. Or loved enough. Tremendous empowerment and liberation come from loving someone - and being loved - for who we really are.

Are you constantly feeling emotionally tortured by someone you used to love? Do you see no point in trying to get out because your abusive partner has taken control of your life? Abuse survivor turned domestic violence advocate, Marjorie Lise, knows this all too well. In her audiobook, she talks about how she was able to successfully stop suffering in silence and finally escape her abusive partner whom she had stayed with for an entire decade, with the hope that her experience will inspire you to take back control of your life, too.

What the latest science tells us about the brain's reward systems, love, and sex - and how to prevent an affair from destroying your life. How can I prevent an affair from destroying my life? Whether I am the cheater or the be­trayed partner, how can I survive, even thrive, in the wake of an affair? Infidelity provides key insights to find your true sexual and romantic potential and advocates honesty, trust, and integrity - the fundamentals of love.

If you’re single, this book will give you clarity and the confidence to choose a better partner. If you’re in a relationship, it will help you to work out if you should stay or go. Either way, this book will empower you to take charge of your relationship destiny.

Although all marriages have their ups and down, there is nothing normal about feeling belittled and unwanted by your partner most of the time. You may already be realizing there is something abnormal going on. Maybe, you've noticed your partner constantly guilts and shames you into certain behaviors or seen how different your friends' marriages are.

Do you find yourself needing constant reassurance to feel secure in your relationships? Do worries about your partner’s feelings dominate your thoughts? If so, you’re not alone. An anxious attachment style affects 20% of people, often stemming from early experiences of inconsistency, loss, or separation. It’s not your fault—but it doesn’t have to define you. With the right tools, you can break free from the fear of abandonment and build healthier, more secure relationships.

In fairy tales, lasting love just happens. But in real life, healthy habits are what build happiness over the long haul. Happy Together, written by positive psychology experts and husband-and-wife team Suzann Pileggi Pawelski and James O. Pawelski, is the first book on using the principles of positive psychology to create thriving romantic relationships. Combining extensive scientific research and real-life examples, this book will help you find and feed the good in yourself and your partner.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your My Library section along with the audio.

Ever wonder why your self-control, rationality, and compassion seem to go out the window when dealing with your partner? Couples therapist and psychiatrist Steven Stosny explains it all in this revelatory book about the divide between our adult and our toddler brains. Too often, conflict in our intimate relationships reactivates our least-regulated "toddler" side, bringing out an instinctive desire to assert our own way and make everything a zero-sum game. Dr. Stosny shows the way toward overcoming these destructive impulses.

Do you crave intimacy but feel overwhelmed when someone gets too close? Are you torn between wanting love and protecting your independence? Do you withdraw when emotions rise, leaving you feeling misunderstood or emotionally drained? Or are you in a relationship with someone who struggles to open up, commit, or show affection? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and the good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way. Avoidant attachment is more common than you think, and while it may feel like an unchangeable part of who you are, it doesn’t have to be your destiny.

Multiple affairs, compulsive pornography, prostitutes, and voyeurism - no matter their “drug” of choice, men who act out sexually leave their partners reeling in fear, rage, shame, and isolation. But there is hope. Best-selling author Claudia Black’s revised edition of her classic work Deceived offers women in relationships plagued by sexual betrayal the validation and guidance to create a new path of clarity, direction, and confidence.

Before: Jen Waite has met the partner of her dreams. A handsome, loving man who becomes part of her family, evolving into her husband, her best friend, and the father of her infant daughter. After: A disturbing email sparks suspicion, leading to an investigation of who this man really is and what was really happening in their marriage. In alternating before and after chapters, Waite obsessively analyzes her relationship, trying to find a single moment form the past five years that isn't part of the long con of lies and manipulation.

This extraordinary book presents scenarios of one family's therapy experience and explains what underlies each encounter. You will discover the general patterns that are common to all families - stress, polarization and escalation, scapegoating, triangulation, blaming, and the diffusion of identity - and you will gain a vivid understanding of the intriguing field of family therapy.

Peter Fraenkel presents a practical, creative, integrative approach that combines action- and insight-oriented techniques to help last-chance couples manage conflict, modulate intense negative emotions, address power struggles, develop mutual compassion, and restore emotional intimacy and pleasurable connection. Special attention is paid to developing a collaborative therapeutic alliance when partners have little motivation for therapy or faith that it can be effective. Through engaging in "nonbinding experiments in possibility," partners can then better evaluate whether to "stay or go."