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How to Talk to Anyone

92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
Written by: Leil Lowndes
Narrated by: Joyce Bean, Leil Lowndes
Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
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Publisher's Summary

"You'll not only break the ice, you'll melt it away with your new skills." -Larry King

"The lost art of verbal communication may be revitalized by Leil Lowndes." -Harvey McKay, author of How to Swim with the Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive

What is that magic quality that makes some people instantly loved and respected? Everyone wants to be their friend (or, if single, their lover). In business, they rise swiftly to the top of the corporate ladder. What is their “Midas touch?”

What it boils down to is a more skillful way of dealing with people.

The author has spent her career teaching people how to communicate for success. In her book How to Talk to Anyone, Lowndes offers 92 easy and effective sure-fire success techniques - she takes the listener from first meeting all the way up to sophisticated techniques used by the big winners in life. In this information-packed audiobook you’ll find:

  • 9 ways to make a dynamite first impression
  • 14 ways to master small talk, “big talk,” and body language
  • 14 ways to walk and talk like a VIP or celebrity
  • 6 ways to sound like an insider in any crowd
  • 7 ways to establish deep subliminal rapport with anyone
  • 9 ways to feed someone’s ego (and know when NOT to!)
  • 11 ways to make your phone a powerful communications tool
  • 15 ways to work a party like a politician works a room
  • 7 ways to talk with tigers and not get eaten alive

In her trademark entertaining and straight-shooting style, Leil gives the techniques catchy names so you’ll remember them when you really need them, including: “Rubberneck the Room,” “Be a Copyclass,” “Come Hither Hands,” “Bare Their Hot Button,” “The Great Scorecard in the Sky,” and “Play the Tombstone Game,” for big success in your social life, romance, and business.

How to Talk to Anyone, which is an update of her popular book, Talking the Winner's Way (see the 5-star reviews of the latter) is based on solid research about techniques that work!

By the way, don't confuse How to Talk to Anyone with one of Leil's previous books, How to Talk to Anybody About Anything. This one is completely different!

©2003 Leil Lowndes. (P)2015 Brilliance Audio, all rights reserved.

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Great Insight

As an 25 year old male engineer, socializing can be daunting. My awkwardness is something I don't like about myself and I've always wished I was better at talking to people. This book had a lot of good insight on what to pay attention to, how to react, little tips to go from good to amazing, and it is well organized so that the information isn't lost on you. I now try to focus on a couple tips at a time and try to implement them in my everyday life. I've gotten a lot out of this book and recommend it to anyone trying to tune up and maximize their social skills, especially in the professional environment.

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If you can get past the voice...

...you may pick up some nuggets or maybe not. I couldn't get past the narration.

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Need to trim the fat..

Too much unnecessary information. And with all due respect the narrators voice is mildly annoying. Better off having someone with a more pleasant voice. That being said, the book has some decent content.

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Sexist, dated, and verbose

Yes, many of the phrases and jargon are dated, but the same can be said of an infinite number of books with valid content; this is the least of my contentions. The book suffered greatly from a lack of a solid editor - the book could easily have been cut down to half its length. This would have allowed the tips to have a much greater impact, and hopefully would have also removed the authors blatant sexist bias. Due to how terrifically painful the excessive wording is and the high amounts of obvious disdain for males, this is the only book I have returned.

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Great concepts but super outdated LINGO

This book has amazing concepts that can be applied in so many situations. However I find the slang is super dated and kind of cringe at times.

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a big ego the writer has

big ego about how there book is better everyone let's books, personal stories in the book are lifeless.

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I keep trying to finish this but can’t. I’m going to return it. On to something better.

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Well I Finished It

This audible was hard to finish. Leil has a few good tips and thoughts on engaging people but it's all written so terribly dated in her language. it was difficult to get past the cheesy one liners and explosions of alliteration. It is written and read like a how to book from the 50s. A lot of it comes across really cheesy and the valuable parts get lost. Having said that I did finish it and looked for the nuggets of useful tips.

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Some great, some bad

There were some excellent points made in this book. At the same time there were some that were bad and left me scratching my head. Overall the good points well out weighed the bad ones. Would recommend this book

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Great info

Glad I listened to the book reading it would have been a chore. Packed with great tips.

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  • TheTechDoc
  • 2016-03-04

Too self important

This book has a few good tips, but the author is far too pretentious for me. I expected a book with communication tips (of which there are some), but the book is much more about manipulating people to benefit oneself.

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  • Patrick Detmer
  • 2016-11-14

superficial

92 tricks? Is that really practical to remember? A lot of information in this story was repeated or focused on superficial manipulation of others. I love books on audible but this was a real struggle to finish.

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  • Gudrun
  • 2016-04-29

It could do with some editing

Some of this is very helpful and might change the way you interact with people. But it needs cutting down it seems very longwinded and repetitive in parts. It is also a little dated.

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  • Scott
  • 2016-09-19

Good info, but painful to listen to

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I found some good information in this book, but I would have found it SO MUCH BETTER if the 92 tricks were listed instead of having to listen to this entire book. Part of the problem is that 92 tips and tricks are far too many to remember. There are a lot of good pointers, but there are way too many ideas expressed here. More detailed examples and explanations of fewer tips and tricks would probably be more effective... would make them easier to incorporate into actual interpersonal communications.

But far worse is her old-timey way of writing (and presumably speaking). Most of the reviews are correct... the language she uses is so outdated (I've never heard the word 'golly' so many times in my life), the generalizations are pain (and I am anything but PC), and her constant use of alliteration is cringe-worthy (and I almost always appreciate alliteration). I don't believe 90% of her stories about this friend or that acquaintance. They just sound so stilted. And if it wasn't for a few awkward uses of modern-day terms, I'd think this book was written in Dale Carnegie's day (Amazon says the book was released in 2003). She may be an expert in modern-day communication, but she sounds like she belongs in a 1940s newsreel.

I'm only through #57, and I may try to find the list online to get the rest of them without subjecting myself to more uses of terms like 'big winners' and 'fat cats.' Glad I got it on-sale.

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  • Mr. Barker
  • 2016-10-05

Less about how to talk to anyone and more about playing the game

The book makes some good points, however, it also comes across as very manipulative and insincere. Many of the tactics that are portrayed as bulletproof can easily be seen through. It's more about how to play the "game."

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  • Brad N.
  • 2016-10-30

Can I get my credit back?

This book is corny and after listening to it for 30 mins I was ready to stop but continued on for another 30 mins. Overall get a book from grant cardone. Any book and you'll pick up similar tips but with great presentation

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  • Natalie Fayman
  • 2016-04-03

Hard to take seriously

Sorry, but I have a hard time taking the author seriously when she refers to martial artists having to register their hands as lethal weapons (urban legend), bats having superior eyes that can see in the dark better than we can (they don't, they are just using their ears to navigate with sonar), lovers referring to each other as "my turtledove" (what is this... the 40's???), advising her listeners to answer the phone with a polite but flat voice then wait until they hear who it is on the line before gushing with pretend happiness (who doesn't have Call ID these days?), or making sexist comments about how women don't understand football analogies but can talk about childbirth all day. When she talked about a customer calling her to complain that "one of her tapes had broken", I checked the publication date of the book thinking it would be from the 80's but to my surprise the publication date is actually 2015 with a copyright date of 2003. If that's true and she's still referring to things that have been outdated for decades, I don't know how much of her advice I really want to trust.

The author may be a legit communications expert, but she lost a lot of credibility with me due to her narrow-mindedness, overgeneralization, and outdated references. The two nicest things I can say about this book is that it's short enough to be tolerable... and I got it on sale. Don't spend your credit on this one.

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  • rider
  • 2017-01-02

so outdated

Has How to Talk to Anyone turned you off from other books in this genre?

I had to look at the date it was written and couldn't believe it was 2015. I thought it was something from the 30's or 40's. Sorry, but a good one to go to sleep with.

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  • Kenneth A. MacClune
  • 2016-05-30

Trite, base advice

Perhaps one or two items worth considering. We get a collection of "just so" stories or good and bad behaviors and personal dictums on appropriate actions and behaviors that perhaps are actually a little more flexible than the author implies. Lastly - the author offers advice on complimenting people that would be very inappropriate in the modern workplace. Namely, complimenting some physical trait of a person. Though it may be appropriate at a party or bar, this is a modern workplace "never ever go".

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  • Christina Gould
  • 2017-01-04

Some good advise, but...

There was some good advise in this book, but it was seemed mostly tailored to politicians and salesmen. Too manipulative to put to use in sincere relationships. Probably my mistake, the subtitle might have tipped me off!

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  • DA M.
  • 2018-05-01

Clair concis

Ce livre est relativement clair et concis, les 92 points mériteraient juste un petit résumé globale à la fin. La lectrice est bien et claire.

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  • Axel
  • 2018-09-30

Indispensable

Cet ouvrage est un outil indispensable pour les personnes qui n'ont pas acquis de façon instinctive tous les codes qui régissent les relations interpersonnelles. Moins utile pour les personnes disposant déjà d'une très grande intelligence sociale.

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  • Goldf
  • 2018-09-26

Must listen to practically anyone

This book has been a real life enhancer. It offers practical and actionable tips that instantly improved my communication skills.

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  • Blanche Elisabeth Cornuau
  • 2020-07-09

1st book about communication to read

If you are looking for a book which gives tips, exemple, how and why to add them in your daily habits, stop there and listen to the one! GREAT!

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  • Aja
  • 2019-03-31

Good tricks concrete examples for every day

I liked it, it has tens of tips very clear, but sometimes some of them are not that clear, I'd love to have a summary or recap at the end of each one