In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re getting real about what healing inside a relationship actually looks like.

For the first time ever, my partner James joins me on the mic (a little unwillingly but we got him there 😉) to share his perspective on how our relationship has evolved - from chaotic, reactive, and insecure… to calm, trusting, and genuinely connected.

We’ll dive into:
✨ The emotional chaos that came with early motherhood, COVID, and unhealed fear
✨ How I used to demand control, chase reassurance, and mistake intensity for love
✨ What changed when I stopped trying to “fix” us and started taking responsibility for myself
✨ The turning points that nearly broke us - and how those moments became the making of us
✨ Why your healing will always ripple through your relationship (for better or worse)

This conversation is honest, raw, and beautifully grounding - a behind-the-scenes look at what it actually takes to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional safety after years of disconnection.

You’ll walk away seeing that true transformation doesn’t come from perfect partners - it comes from brave ones who choose to grow together. ❤️‍🔥

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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into a truth most people don’t talk about - sometimes, love that feels safe… can also feel terrifying.

When you’ve lived in survival mode for so long, chaos feels normal.
So when calm enters the room - your body panics.

We’ll explore:
✨ Why stability and genuine love can feel threatening to a dysregulated nervous system
✨ How trauma and self-protection convince you that peace = danger
✨ The sneaky ways you sabotage when things are finally good
✨ What it actually looks like to stop proving you’re broken and start letting love in
✨ How to build safety within yourself so that love feels like home, not a risk

This episode is raw, emotional, and deeply human - no pretending, no performing.
It’s about understanding that your fear of love isn’t a flaw.
It’s a learned protection.
And once you see it, you can finally choose differently.

You’ll walk away feeling seen, grounded, and ready to soften into the love that’s been trying to reach you all along. 🤍

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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re breaking down one of the sneakiest patterns I see in women - settling.
Settling for “fine” relationships.
Settling for “okay” sex.
Settling for “good enough” lives when deep down… you crave more.

We’ll dive into:
✨ Why so many women subconsciously fear wanting more (and the hidden shame that comes with it)
✨ How fear of rejection, judgement, or “being too much” keeps you small and unfulfilled
✨ The way your desires reveal your next level of self-trust - and why avoiding them just prolongs your pain
✨ How to start asking for more - in love, in life, and especially in the bedroom - without guilt
✨ A simple reflection process to uncover what you truly want (and what scares you about having it)

This conversation is raw, real, and powerfully activating - it’ll make you question where you’ve been settling for crumbs when you were always meant for the whole damn feast. 🍽️

It’s not about being ungrateful for what you have.
It’s about remembering that gratitude and desire can co-exist - one foot in appreciation, one foot in expansion.

You’ll walk away seeing just how much better it gets to be… when you finally let it. 💋

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Mamas, this one’s for you.

We give so much of ourselves to our children, partners, and households that we forget the most important person in the equation: us. But here’s the truth - when you prioritise your mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing, everyone around you benefits. Your energy, patience, and presence ripple through your family in ways you can feel and see.

In this episode, we explore why mothers are the foundation of the household and how leaning into your own self-care isn’t selfish - it’s essential.

✨ How self-nourishment impacts your kids, partner, and household
✨ Why resentment often has less to do with your children and more to do with you
✨ The power of boundaries, follow-through, and consistency in parenting
✨ How small, intentional shifts in self-care can compound into massive change
✨ Why role-modelling self-priority teaches your children to value themselves

If you’ve ever felt burnt out, overwhelmed, or guilty for taking time for yourself, this episode is for you. Learn how leaning into discomfort and putting yourself first can make you a more patient, nurturing, and empowered parent - without sacrificing your family’s wellbeing.

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Most women are settling in their relationships without even realising it. They want connection, intimacy, desire… but often, they’re waiting for their partner to show up first.

But what if the truth is… it starts with YOU?

In this episode, we dive deep into why you might not feel desired by your partner, and why it’s not always about them.

✨ How your inner beliefs about your body, self-worth, and desirability shape what you receive
✨ Why high standards, dependency, and self-sabotage may actually block intimacy
✨ The power of radical self-acceptance and showing up for yourself
✨ Shifting from relying on external validation to creating desire from within

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I just want him to want me more”, this episode is for you. Learn how leaning into your own confidence and breaking old cycles can transform your relationship from surface-level comfort to real, magnetic intimacy.

Come hang out with me:
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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into the hidden ways fear of rejection drives your behaviour in relationships - and how it quietly keeps intimacy at arm’s length.

We’ll cover:
✨ How judgement and criticism can feel safer than vulnerability (and why you do it without realising)
✨ The sneaky ways withdrawal, shutting down, and people-pleasing are really self-protection in disguise
✨ Why control and perfectionism create distance instead of safety
✨ How jealousy, hypervigilance, and even sarcastic comments mask deeper fears of abandonment
✨ The first step to shifting all of this - radical self-awareness and honesty

This conversation is just straight-up truth about how your fear of rejection might be silently running the show. You’ll walk away with new perspective, deeper awareness, and a powerful reminder that you can change these patterns and create more connection, intimacy, and fire in your relationship.

Come hang out with me:
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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re riffing on why so many of us get stuck in fear, self-protection, and perfectionism - and how that shows up in your relationships and your life.

We’ll cover:
✨ Why your brain is wired to notice the negative and how it keeps you playing small
✨ How self-protection can look like victimhood, perfectionism, or sabotaging joy
✨ The hidden ways fear can keep you stuck in comfort instead of fully alive
✨ How to catch yourself before spiraling and choose resilience, self-trust, and hope
✨ Why leaning into discomfort can actually open the door to more love, joy, and fulfillment

This episode is playful, raw, and deeply reflective - a peek into my own blind spots, mindset shifts, and the ways I choose to stay empowered in love and life. It’s about learning to trust yourself, embrace the full spectrum of life, and open up to what’s truly possible.

Come hang out with me:
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In this episode of Fuck the Rules of Love, we’re diving into why feeling the need to control your partner can feel safer than trusting them - and what’s really going on underneath the control.

We’ll cover:
✨ How control is often just a nervous system survival strategy, not nastiness
✨ The sneaky ways controlling behaviors show up, even when you think you’re being chill
✨ Why overthinking, molding yourself, or trying to manage your partner keeps you in a false sense of safety
✨ How awareness and understanding your blind spots can change your relationship for good
✨ Why letting go of control is essential for real intimacy and connection

Honest, unfiltered, and deeply reflective - this episode breaks down control, uncovers its roots, and guides you toward more authentic, connected, and grounded relationships.

Come hang out with me:
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