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In this episode, Dr. Alisa shares her recommendations for natural products to address moisture and dryness issues, focusing on two of her favorite brands Medicine Mama and Foria. Listen in to learn about common misconceptions about dryness and the importance of lubrication during sex and using lubricants for a positive sexual experience. She shares various products that she has on repeat including arousal oils and intimacy melts. To note: she is not being paid for her promotion, although samples are always welcome 😉

Dr. Alisa shares her passion for promoting products that enhance pleasure and connection, while always encouraging the importance of open conversations about sex!

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In today's podcast, Dr. Alisa discusses the concept of sex positivity and its importance in your personal life, romantic relationships and in society as we move away from a puritanical narrative to a more open-minded approach. Listen in to learn more about open communication, boundaries, and consent in relationships. She also shares her personal journey which lead to her upcoming memoir: "From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess."

Dr. Alisa encourages listeners to embrace and celebrate their sexuality through self-exploration and various resources, while promoting a sex-positive viewpoint that emphasizes self-awareness, acceptance of individual differences, and the importance of pleasure and consent.

Resources in this Podcast

Emily Nagoski, Come as You are

Esther Perel, Where Do We Begin

Wanderlust Mindful Intimacy Cards

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In this episode, Dr. Alisa Kriegel discusses and defines the hormonal changes of perimenopause and menopause, along with their impact on various physical and emotional symptoms. She makes recommendations for maintaining sexual health during this period, and shares a personal experience which influenced how her gynecologist now talks to patients in peri-menopause regarding fertility!

Listen in for insights on hormone replacement therapy, the importance of consulting specialized hormone doctors, and the natural changes in sexuality that both men and women experience with age.

Whether you may be going through this in your life or your partner is, this is an important conversation to understand the impact of these changes and how to minimize their effect on your life!

Resources from this episode:

https://drjengunter.com

https://www.heytabu.com/pages/about

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/01/magazine/menopause-hot-flashes-hormone-therapy.html?unlocked_article_code=1.I08.tRum.VdlDiBKYgnT6&smid=url-share

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/746824/dare-i-say-it-by-naomi-watts/

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This is my first movie/show review about a new show that has been getting a lot of buzz lately. I've been seeing sexy posters all over NYC for this new FX limited series starring Michelle Williams and the cover of NY Magazine touted it as the "kinkiest show on TV." So, is it? Does it live up to the hype. How kinky is it? I had to see for myself. And after a weekend binge I'm here to give you the lowdown.

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Are you curious to know more about open marriages or polyamorous relationships? In this episode of "Let's Talk About Sex Really," Dr. Alisa Kriegel dives into the world of non-monogamy. With her expertise as a therapist and personal research, she explores the realities of open relationships, polyamory, and consensual non-monogamy. Dr. Kriegel dispels the myths, emphasizing that true non-monogamy isn’t about affairs or casual flings—it’s about communication, consent, and honesty. She discusses the challenges (jealousy!), the tools (like "R.A.D.A.R talks"), and the work required to make these relationships thrive. Whether you're curious or committed, this episode offers insights and resources, including recommended reads like The Ethical Slut and Polysecure. Tune in for a no-shame, real talk on what non-monogamy truly means.

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***Explore Dr. Alisa's recommendations from this episode!***

Book & Articles:

"The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
URL: https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664

"Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships" by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá**
URL: https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813

"Multi-Amory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships" (related to the Multiamory podcast/book)
URL: https://www.amazon.com/Multiamory-Essential-Tools-Modern-Relationships/dp/1637740832

"I Opened My Marriage. Maybe I Should Have Tried an Affair" (New York Magazine, The Cut) by Haley Mlotek

https://www.thecut.com/article/open-marriage-divorce.html

Additional Resources:
Multiamory Podcast (Official Website)*
URL: https://www.multiamory.com

RADAR Talk Resource (from Multiamory)
URL: https://www.multiamory.com/radar

"Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy" by Jessica Fern
URL: https://www.amazon.com/Polysecure-Attachment-Consensual-Nonmonogamy/dp/1944934987

"From Sexless Marriage to Sex Goddess: A Memoir" by Alisa Kriegel

URL: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/From-Sexless-Marriage-to-Sex-Goddess/Alisa-Kriegel/9798896360063


Podcast Instagram: Let’s Talk About Sex Really**
URL: https://www.instagram.com/letstalkaboutsex_really

General Non-Monogamy Communities and Courses:
- Dr. Kriegel references online courses, groups, and therapist networks specializing in polyamory and kink. For exploration, consider:
- [Polyamory Weekly Podcast](https://polyweekly.com/)
- [Open Love Communities](https://www.openlove101.com/)


Enjoy exploring these resources, and let curiosity guide your journey! 🤔💕

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In today's episode Dr. Alisa Kriegel discusses the need for a broader definition of sex, moving beyond traditional view of "sex" mainly referring to penetration & "p in v" intercourse. By expanding how we define sex with also expand the many ways we can explore sex and pleasure. As always, she encourages open conversations with your partner for all the ways to experience sensual and sexual touch and pleasure.

References in the podcast:

NY Times article on the Orgasm Gap

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/08/06/well/family/orgasm-gap-women-age.html?smid=url-share

Emily Nagoski, PhD, Come Together

Ian Kerner, PhD, She Comes First

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Valentine's Day is here again—the hearts, flowers, candlelight dinners, and grand gestures plastered all over Instagram. Let's be honest, a lot of this is driven by the hope of romance and sex. But from what I've seen with clients, friends, and even in my own life, it often leads to pressure, obligation, and the feeling that we're failing to live up to some rom-com ideal. So, can we ditch the once-a-year pressure and figure out how to weave romance into our lives every single day?

At the end of the day, we all crave love. We want to feel loved. Deep down, it's about connection and validation—feeling seen and heard, not just for the polished, perfect parts of ourselves, but for the messy, flawed bits we desperately hide, fearing they'll make us unlovable.

In this podcast, Dr. Alisa shares several time-tested and "lab-tested" ways to cultivate real romance and deepen your relationships. These are for EVERY DAY, you absolutely don't need a holiday as an excuse for romance.

Radical Vulnerability:

• 36 Questions to Fall in Love (New York Times): https://36questionsinlove.com

The core idea is that mutual vulnerability creates closeness. As the study's authors put it, "One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.”

The Small Things That Add Up to Lasting Love:

• Gottman Love Lab - Accepting Your Partner's Bids: https://www.gottman.com/blog/turn-toward-instead-of-away/

John and Julie Gottman can predict with 94% accuracy whether a marriage will last, simply by observing couples for 15 minutes. One of the biggest factors? How often a couple "turns toward" their partner instead of "turning away."

"Turning toward" means accepting "bids for connection." We can do this by saying YES, showing interest, having curiosity to learn more.

Examples of bids to accept:

• When your partner calls your name from another room
• When your partner says, "This is an interesting ______ I'm reading"
• When your partner suggests something they'd like to do, "I'd love to see this concert."

Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language:

• Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages:
  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch
  • Acts of Service
  • Gifts

You can take the quiz here (although there's a cost for a full report)

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

The secret is learning their language, not just speaking your own. Can you give a "gift" based on your partner's love language, not what you would want? Be creative! Listen to the podcast for some ideas!

Or, better yet, share this bid for connection with your partner and listen (and learn) together! 💕

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Dr. Alisa talks about the nervous system. While it might sound neuro-science geeky, the Poly Vagal Theory can help you have better sex! She discusses how being stressed in a flight or fight/trauma response (Sympathetic nervous system) can shut down parts of your body's functioning needed for sex. Being in a Parasympathetic State, also known as Safe & Social, helps your juices flow for better, wetter and more connected sex. Listen to learn a simple hack to help get your body or your partner's body feeling safer, sexier and more present! This will help you re-think your whole foreplay game!

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References:
For more on how to map your own nervous system and feel safe:
Deb Dana's, "Anchored"
For a much deeper dive into the science:
Stephen Porges, PhD. "The Poly Vagal Theory: Neuropsychological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication & Self-Regulation