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Loving What Is

Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
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Out of nowhere, like a breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice, comes Byron Katie and "The Work". In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed and, over a 10-year period, sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then, one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now, in Loving What Is, you can discover the same freedom through The Work.

The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, "It's not the problem that causes our suffering; it's our thinking about the problem." Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point we can truly love what is, just as it is.

Loving What Is will show you step by step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. You'll see people do The Work with Katie on a broad range of human problems, from a wife ready to leave her husband because he wants more sex to a Manhattan worker paralyzed by fear of terrorism to a woman suffering over a death in her family. Many people have discovered The Work's power to solve problems; in addition, they say that through The Work they experience a sense of lasting peace and find the clarity and energy to act, even in situations that had previously seemed impossible.

If you continue to do The Work, you may discover, as many people have, that the questioning flows into every aspect of your life, effortlessly undoing the stressful thoughts that keep you from experiencing peace. Loving What Is offers everything you need to learn and live this remarkable process and to find happiness as what Katie calls "a lover of reality".

©2002 Byron Katie and Stephen Mitchell (P)2016 Random House Audio

What the critics say

"Good Lord! Where did Byron Katie come from? She's the real McCoy. Her Work is amazingly effective - a simple, straightforward antidote to the suffering we unnecessarily create for ourselves. She asks us to believe nothing, but provides a surprisingly effective and simple way to cut through the tangle of delusions we wrap ourselves in. Just reading the exchanges in Loving What Is, I can admit things I didn't want to admit and stop torturing myself in ways I didn't realize I was doing." (David Chadwick, author of Crooked Cucumber: The Life and Zen Teaching of Shunryu Suzuki)
"Suppose you could find a simple way to embrace your life with joy, stop arguing with reality, and achieve serenity in the midst of chaos? That is what Loving What Isoffers. It is no less than a revolutionary way to live your life. The question is: are we brave enough to accept it?" (Erica Jong, author of Fear of Flying)
"Byron Katie's Work is a great blessing for our planet. The root cause of suffering is identification with our thoughts, the 'stories' that are continuously running through our minds. Byron Katie's Work acts like a razor-sharp sword that cuts through that illusion and enables you to know for yourself the timeless essence of your being. Joy, peace, and love emanate from it as your natural state. In Loving What Is, you have the key. Now use it." (Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now)

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Amazing!

This book is amazing and life altering. It is definitely a must read for anyone wanting to positively change their lives.

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Powerful concept

I highly recommend The Work as a life changing tool for growth and peace. if you are not yet familiar with Katie's concept and are considering this book, please look at a few of her videos or podcasts to see how she deconstructs our projections to reveal a kind and loving world. Being familiar with the work, I wasn't sure if the book would be much different than the podcast, but it is beautifully performed, easy to listen to, and flows nicely. Well worth the value and the opportunity to support the Work.

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Amazing Read!

I love The Work by Byron Katie and therefore this book really resonates with me. I have found that each time I listen to it I gain new insights! A great map/tool to help guide anyone seeking to live more fully in the present moment! I also bought the hard copy so I can read and listen at the same time: )

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life changing

Mind expanding brilliance. 'The work' allows serious shifts in what is considered true in life.

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Uplifting

A dear friend recommended this to me when I was stuck in a rut. Loving what is puts things in perspective and had a beautiful message about making the best of the human condition! A great listen. #audible 1

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Tons of examples of how to do the work!

This was a unique approach to dealing with intrusive thoughts that aligns with a lot of other methods. It's simple but profound. The book itself is mostly a collection of examples of different people working through their judgements with Katie's help. Make sure you download the Judge Your Neighborhood worksheet as it's a great resource to have as you listen to the audiobook.

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Life Changing!!!

Listen, print the work sheets then do the work and enjoy your freedom. See for yourself.

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  • Eric
  • 2016-01-06

Go for the abridged version

This new version has Katie and various voice actors reading the dialogues from the book. It comes off as a bit wooden and staged. I would suggest going for the older, abridged version which includes live dialogues of Katie doing The Work with people, and is much more engaging in my experience.

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  • Jae Behrmann
  • 2016-05-12

Recommended by my ex-wife

This book was recommended to me by ex-wife and I was skeptical of the book's ability to impact me. However, after putting the book's principles into practice, I have noticed a shift in my thinking, attitudes, and beliefs that have positively impacted the relationship with my children. Although my ex-wife and I rarely speak, I feel much more peaceful in my outlook towards her. I recommend this book to anyone interested in improving their relationships.

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  • Xiaonan
  • 2018-02-21

I like the original better

I personally prefer the original reading with the recordings from the actual workshops, it was more authentic and more relatable.

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  • Pj Reviews
  • 2016-09-06

The abridged version is a better audiobook

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If you're new to the Byron Katie stuff, I strongly recommend the abridged version for you instead of this one. It contains live recordings of people doing 'the work' and will give you a much greater understanding of what she's getting at. This one is good as a completer...to flesh out a bit if you're interested in learning more, but it doesn't give you the up close understanding what's actually happening emotionally and intellectually for the people in the dialogues.

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  • L. Martinez
  • 2018-01-22

Truly Life Changing

What did you love best about Loving What Is?

Before listening to this book my negative thoughts consume my life. I was depressed, unmotivated, angry, and overall unhappy The bad things that happen to me kept replaying in my head along with all the things people had done to me that hurt me. Katie helped me realized the power my thoughts have over me and that I can change them by answering her four questions. It really is very simple. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

What did you like best about this story?

Hearing people go over the four questions with Katie.

Which character – as performed by the narrators – was your favorite?

Katie the narrator did an excellent job.

What insight do you think you’ll apply from Loving What Is?

The four questions.

Any additional comments?

Highly recommend everyone to read/listen to this book.

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  • Jacopo
  • 2017-12-29

To the point

If you could sum up Loving What Is in three words, what would they be?

Practical, ready to apply, immediately beneficial (a rarity for self help-books)

What was one of the most memorable moments of Loving What Is?

Hearing "the work" being applied to the most extreme cases (rape, incest... oof) and maintaining its simplicity and straightforwardness

Which scene was your favorite?

Hearing someone get clarity is always a joy, many examples of that in this book

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Sort of; I listened to it in big chunks, but having some time to digest (and APPLY) the information step by step is highly suggested

Any additional comments?

I would recommend this book especially to selfhelp-nuts, who maybe are getting bored of high concepts with debatable applicability. The simplicity of this will be refreshing.

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  • RV
  • 2017-09-01

Life changing concepts

I am finding the concepts embedded in inquiry to be very impactful in my personal growth. I have experienced a significant shift in my thinking about some difficult relationships in my life as well as ideas about my self. I am very grateful to God and to Byron Katie for bringing me this resource of self inquiry which I think will lead me to realizing true self love and , therefore, true independence. I look forward to continue working with inquiry to further develop my own self realization and to discover my own truth for myself.

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  • Karen D
  • 2017-01-15

Life changing!!!

Absolutely the BEST book I have ever read (heard)! Issues I have had for 50 years were resolved in following her advice. I have never felt so much peace, forgiveness and happiness. I have gone to years and years of therapy that did nothing compared to the changes made because of this book. I am telling everyone to read it! I loved listening to it in audio form because I loved Byron's calming voice. I can't wait to listen to it over and over again. I love applying The Work and have never felt so confident in my life! Thank you for writing this book!

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  • Rebecca
  • 2016-10-18

Life changing

This book is appropriate for anyone who wants to free themselves from negative or limiting dialogue within themselves. Byron Katie is right on and empowering.

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  • Levi S.
  • 2016-09-26

Incredible and enlightening

What an incredible process for peace, this has been most helpful during a very beautiful season of life!

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 2018-11-29

love the concept of Inquiry. long book though

love the concept and looking forward to apply the work on my life.

unfortunately it's very lengthy, with little focus on helping you to apply the concepts on your life. could have been 1-2 hour book