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Why we think it's Essential: In a conversational and sincere tone, Gary Chapman practices what he preaches: clear, concise communication. I've heard from AudibleListeners that Chapman's words have inspired them to be better partners in relationships. What's not to love? — Diana Dapito

Publisher's Summary

Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate's love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2005 Gary Chapman (P)2005 Oasis Audio LLC

What the critics say

  • 2005 Audie Award Winner, Personal Development/Motivational

" "Whether your marriage needs a tune-up or a major overhaul, these are powerful prescriptions delivered by a genial, wise man." (AudioFile)

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Very interesting

I found this book to be very interesting and thought provoking. However, there is an underlying Christian focus that is not spoken of in its description. For someone who is not religious or for someone of another faith, they may lose focus at times where the Christian emphasis is highlighted.

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Life changing.

I was SO skeptical about this book. I am not a Christian and didn’t think I could relate it to. I was SO. WRONG. This book changed almost every relationship in my life for the better. Reading/ listening to this book should be a life requirement...like taxes.

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Anyone should be aware of the 5 love languages

This book is universal, not only for married couples, it can be applied anywhere with your human connections. The concept is pretty simple and the power of the book comes from the simplicity of the concepts. Applying those concepts is the great challenge and it is 150% worth trying it. Any human relationship should be understood through this lenses. I loved it.

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Excellent Book

Dr Chapman has an amazing concept here. I just found out my wife had been cheating on me for the last 3 years and this book really helpped me understand myself and why she did this and what I could do to help heal. Saddly we are still divorcing but this is still helpping me understand and become closer with my kids, family and friends and even coworkers.
I will re listen over and over again to help refresh myself and follow Dr Chapman's theories in all my ruture relationships.
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A good book to gain perspective

Listening to this book was an interesting experience, as I am looking to get into counselling and learned a fair bit from it. I was aware of a lot as well, but hearing peoples personal stories always helps me put things into perspective, and so I thoroughly enjoyed those parts.

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Listening again and again.

I'm totally recommending this to all of my network. I'll be listening and or reading this again very soon.

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Great listen

This book opened my eyes a little to my relationship and how I could help get it back on track.
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Simplifying life

Some great advice to simplify the complexity of relationships. It’s likely worth listening to more than once. #Audible1

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Everyone should read this book!

This book is for anyone who wants to be in a more fulfilling relationship a relationship that honours your partner.
It changed the way I see relationships not only with my partner but also people in general!
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Incredibly helpful for my marriage and other relationships...

This book has allowed me to communicate more effectively to my loved ones more effectively. Thank you. #Audible1

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  • Vanessa
  • Hamlyn TerraceAustralia
  • 2007-02-08

Unexpected Brilliance

In one word, amazing! I will make this honest & to the point. As I am Australian we kind of like our info served straight up and no beating around the bush. I get tired of reading reviews that sound over the top of many peoples heads & those that make you wonder if they were paid to write it. Let me tell you this, from start to finish this guy knows his stuff. These Love languages Dr Chapman talks about transcend culture & speech language. They would work for anyone, anywhere in the world that has a desire to seek more from their partnership and is willing to listen. Dont let his funky southern accent put you off, it will actually endear you to him as you grow to admire his insights and find your own penny dropping inside. Everything he said made sense, plain english and would apply to everyone's situation whether married, in a relationship or not. Its real info that can be used to reopen and then keep the channels of communication open between partners. Also info that will make giving & receiving love as well as being lovable so much easier. It doesnt focus so much on the differences between men and women like in the Mars Venus Series of John Gray but more on the WAY we love. It explains why those suggestions you get in magazines dont always work so well. SO refreshing and info that I didnt even know I needed! Our marriage was in a rut & I can honestly say that when trying some suggestions from the book my husband immediately responded. He even wanted to listen to the book with me and we disussed things as we listened. It has brought us so much closer and helped us to connect again while learning more about ourselves and each other. We plan to go further with our "reading" as we have a new hobby, listening to books together. I hope Dr Chapman will keep writing! Thanks Dr!

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  • Jennifer
  • San Francisco, CA, USA
  • 2005-12-05

L-O-V-E this book!

This is a great book. I have the print copy, but found it difficult for my long time fiance and myself to find time to read it together - the audiobook was a great answer. Dr. Chapman's work on the five love languages is insightful and helps us to realize just why some things that are so simple and basic to us, may not be understood by our mate. When miscommunication occurs, you can sometimes be left wondering, "who is this person I am with?" but a look into the five love languages can really help identify these issues and Dr. Chapman gives suggestions on how to work through them together - all the while loving each other BETTER! =) I definitely recommend this book to anyone who has ever felt confused about relationships, whether it be with family, friends, or significant others. Who is NOT in this category? =) So many relationship books seem like so much reading and not enough action ... or just so much work ... or just fluff. But this is NOT work, it is not fluff, and it is not words without action. It is great knowledge that you can begin to apply TODAY. I also think Dr. Chapman's narration of the book was excellent - you can really hear the sincerity of his voice, and the excitement he evokes when telling his stories. I will especially point out a part in the book we loved - when he talks about vacuuming the house, how he hated it as a kid and how he never thought he'd have to do that as a grown-up - but he now HAPPILY does it weekly for his wife, and in his words, "There is only one reason: L-O-V-E!"

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  • Bill C.
  • Charleston, SC
  • 2008-02-20

Highly Recommended

I am a chaplain and speak with a lot of people. I have found myself recommending this book more than any other. The books is not a list of techniques used to manipulate people. It is a discussion about how to truly serve others in the way they want to be served. We often serve others in the way that we would like to be served. Then, we wonder why they don’t respond. Dr. Chapman helps us to overcome this mistake and discover the means by which our spouses and children like to receive love. Throughout the book, he also gives us practical advice on how to fulfill those needs.
The fundamentals are especially helpful in marital and family relationships and can be applied, in a limited manner to casual relationships as well.
One should not be surprised that the book has distinctly Christian worldview. It is published by Oasis. I do not know of a book they publish that is not distinctly Christian.

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  • Jason
  • Springfield, MO, USA
  • 2009-07-20

I wish I knew this stuff years ago!

Though a lot of the information in this book is pretty much common sense, this book shines by explaining what common sense seems to leave out. We all feel love in different ways, and we need to give and receive love in the ways that work best for us. Well read and informative. Could have used a bit more info on how to get around some of the hurdles that will likely crop up when trying to follow-through on this books teachings.

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  • H. Zambrana
  • Fremont, CA USA
  • 2005-07-15

A sure way to inject life into your marriage.

My wife and I discovered this book about eight years ago. It is a practical book that touches on a problem most couples experience - different ways of expressing love. Dr. Chapman is equally funny and brilliant on his exposition of the love languages. I have successfully used and practiced the principles he teach in his book not only in my marriage but with dozens of couples I have mentored. It works! Speaking the love language of your spouse will take your marriage to new heights or revive the relationship you're in. Read it and apply it.

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  • Jana
  • MINNEAPOLIS, MN, United States
  • 2016-06-25

A Silver Bullet?!

Wonderfully simple, practical concepts that provide us truly effective methods of expressing and receiving love. Any and all relationships could benefit from the information contained in this book. While it is written from a Christian perspective and focuses almost exclusively on married couples experiencing some level of dysfunction in their marriages, the material can be interpreted in any way that best serves your needs. I myself am not a Christian nor am I married, but this has offered wonderful clarity and help to me and my significant other as we co-create the relationship of our dreams together. Hoping to put these lessons to use to set us up for success so we won't need the damage control down the road!

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  • Geoffrey
  • 2008-04-28

Enjoyable, helpful

This book flows nicely, is narrated pleasantly, and contains enough good information to justify the time. It is not the definitive work on communications in relationships, but it is one more perspective that should be considered. While the author gives five approaches to better communicate with your partner, the real crux of the biscuit is that it helps you actually look at your partners wants and needs. This is one of a hundred ways to skin a cat, but it is a valid way and a good addition to your repertoire. And, a very pleasant listen.

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  • Linda
  • Illinois
  • 2017-09-08

Everyone Should Read This Book!

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would, because the concepts presented in this book are so important and make every relationship in your life better.

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts?

Finding out what my Love Language is, and what the love languages of the people I care about are, so that I can communicate with the people I care about in a more positive way.

Which character – as performed by Gary Chapman – was your favorite?

He doesn't read very appealingly...sort of stilted and hard to listen to. He doesn't exactly have characters, but I would say you have to get past his reading of his excellent book to learn some of the best, most helpful ideas about the relationships in your life

What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts?

I will think about the way I am talking to each of the people I care about and try to use their love language so they will actually hear what I am trying to say

Any additional comments?

Dr Chapman should have someone else read his book...he is really a smart man, but not an engaging narrator

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  • Jonathan
  • Moss Beach, CA, United States
  • 2012-05-29

A Few Diamonds, a Lot of Rough

Would you try another book from Gary Chapman and/or Gary Chapman?

I might, under the right circumstances.

Would you ever listen to anything by Gary Chapman again?

I might, under the right circumstances.

Which character – as performed by Gary Chapman – was your favorite?

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You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

There's some wisdom in there.

Any additional comments?

This book is about 25% heavy-handed religious rhetoric, 25% folksy nonsense, and 25% outright B.S. But the remaining 25% is genuinely insightful, interesting, and helpful. If you're willing to dig through the muddy presentation, there are some wonderful nuggets of wisdom.

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  • O'Hara
  • Oxnard, CA, United States
  • 2012-05-12

Not That Great After All

The other reviews I read made me think this would be full of great insights. I had to fast forward through the first part, which was a long, self-congratulatory interview with the author. The five languages were no big surprise - kind words, gift-giving, service, touching, and quality time. All five are good things to do for your loved ones. I'd call this a case of Expando Publishing - taking what should be a brochure or flyer and expanding it into a full length book.

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  • Igor
  • 2017-06-26

Useful for every current or to-be couple.

Useful for every current or to-be couple. All results will come with practice, not just reading this book.

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  • Renee
  • 2018-09-27

a good way to know yourself and your spouse.

we understand the pattern that we spouse have to take to be more and a better communicater through the book. and we really understand our self and what we are and what we want. and that amazing. it help us understand that what we want is not that the other needs.