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Being in a relationship without knowing how to share your feelings and receive your partner’s feelings in useful ways is like jumping into a pool without knowing how to swim. You can flail around all you want, but it’s not going to keep you afloat for very long—you need to be able to move in any direction at will. Like  swimming, knowing how to share your feelings and respond to your partner's feelings will move your relationship in the direction you want: toward more intimacy, closeness, connection, and trust.

What does it mean to be an adult in a relationship? How can you stop unproductive patterns and adopt ways of relating that bring you closer together? If you want to be an accountant, you learn the profession in school. If you want to get better at a sport, you work with a coach. If you want to be in a relationship, you . . . well, you're supposed to just jump in and give it your best shot.

You may be surprised at how simple loving yourself again (or for the first time) can be. If you're sick and tired of the "just think positive thoughts" approach and hungry for something substantial that works long-term, you're in the right place. Self-hatred and self-loathing can destroy careers, relationships, marriages, friendships, dreams, faith and spirituality, passions, and all the other good things in life.

Do you ever sense that you're not using your mind to its fullest potential? Being "stuck" means your brain is repeating the same neurological firing patterns again and again. It happens in business, relationships, personal goals, and mental health, over and over. 

Negative thinking—it seems to have no end. The question is, can anything be done about it? Negative thinking is a self-perpetuating mechanism. Negative thinking fuels more negative thinking, which in turn fuels even more. Around and around it goes, never losing steam or momentum. All the while, you’re utterly fatigued and exhausted. Ten years can go by, and the mind-numbing cycle still will not have stopped. Because it’s self-sustaining, negative thinking only grows stronger with each passing month, year, and decade. Can it be stopped? 

Is the self-talk in your mind harsh? Worn out from constantly beating yourself up? Wish you could get out of your own way and live peacefully? To accomplish this, you'll need to learn to work with your inner critic instead of fighting against it. This book outlines five powerful and effective ways to heal the self-critical voice in your head so you can start living freely and joyfully.

Codependency has kept you stuck. For codependents, happiness is fleeting. It's there one moment, gone the next. Even when you try so hard to do the right thing and treat people well, stable happiness still evades you. Why is this? If you're codependent, you may have difficulty standing up for yourself and speaking your truth. You may believe that you're responsible for ensuring others don't feel emotional pain in their lives. It's possible you want to have your needs met, but what are your needs, anyhow? To kick codependency to the curb, you'll have to shift your mindset.

Much of what we previously thought about trauma is simply wrong. It’s not a psychological problem as we previously thought. This book provides five concepts that will turn your previous understanding of trauma upside down and inside out, leading you to the breakthroughs you’ve been wanting.

While coping mechanisms can get you through the day, at the end of the day, they’re just that: A way to cope, but not a resolution. Far too many people think, “I have mental health issues, and there’s nothing I can do about it.” While this is altogether untrue, it’s for good reason you might think this way. The very professionals who are supposed to be guiding you toward healing and emotional wellness are possessed by this attitude and therefore pass it along to the general public.

Grandpa W. was the only person who'd ever shown Levi loving care and kindness. Now, at 34 years old, Levi is left to face the challenges of life with nobody to lean on. In an attempt to find something, anything, to remember his grandpa by, Levi stumbles upon an old memento. However, this memento brings up nothing but anger and frustration. It reminds him of the awful experiences he had in church involving judgmental people who only cared about how you acted, not whether you were okay on the inside.

The fatigue and the hopelessness - doesn’t it ever stop? Sometimes. But, when it stops, there’s the fear and anticipatory anxiety about its return. And, it does return. With a mental illness that’s so powerful yet so mysterious, is there any hope? Depression ruled my life for nine years. Everything seemed hopeless when I was depressed. It was utter misery. When I wasn’t depressed, I was constantly afraid and worried about its return. What an exhausting, unfulfilling way to live. Could anything be done? I tried medication.