Navigating Identity Whiplash: Embracing Change and Self-Growth

Welcome back to 'Swearing is Allowed,' the podcast where we dive into the messy process of personal growth without any sugar-coating. I'm Haley Veronyak, a psychotherapist, and in today's episode, we're discussing 'identity whiplash'—that disorienting phase of standing between who we were and who we're becoming. From changing your career or relationship to minor acts of rebellion against old habits, we'll talk about why these life shifts feel like grief, how to embrace the disorienting feelings, and practical grounding practices to help you navigate this transition with gentleness and curiosity. Plus, we tackle a listener question on feeling empty after leaving a relationship and discuss how to find yourself during this transformative period. Tune in for an honest conversation about identity, growth, and self-acceptance.

00:00 Introduction to Identity Whiplash

01:13 Understanding Identity Grief

03:29 Navigating the Transition Phase

08:08 Grounding Practices for Identity Shifts

11:04 Listener Q&A: Embracing the Space

15:10 Final Thoughts and Journal Prompts

16:25 Podcast Disclaime

What if your structure isn’t the problem — it’s the way you’re using it? In this episode, Haley breaks down the difference between control and containment, why discipline isn't magic, and how to rebuild routines that actually support your nervous system. If you’ve ever tried to force a “perfect” routine and crashed hard when life got messy, this one’s for you. Practical, honest, and a little bit spicy — it’s time to stop self-punishing in the name of productivity.

You’re not unmotivated. You’re dysregulated. In this first episode of Swearing Is Allowed, we unpack why routines feel impossible when your nervous system is fried — and how to start building structure without self-punishment. If you’ve been stuck in freeze, shame spirals, or perfection-mode burnout… this one’s for you.

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The Swearing Is Allowed podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared on this podcast does not constitute psychotherapy, medical advice, or any other regulated health service, and listening does not create a therapist–client relationship with Haley Veronyak or any guests.

While Haley is a registered psychotherapist in Ontario, this podcast is intended to offer general insights, nervous system education, and tools for reflection — not individualized treatment or assessment. The content is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or therapy from a qualified healthcare provider.

If you are experiencing symptoms of mental health distress, please consult with a licensed practitioner in your area. Do not delay seeking care because of something you heard on this show.

All opinions expressed are those of the individual contributors and do not represent clinical guidance or supervision. Use of the information shared on this podcast is done voluntarily and at your own risk.

Launching September 8 | New episodes every Monday

You’re not lazy. You’re dysregulated.
You’re not broken. You’re burnt the fuck out.
And you don’t need a total life overhaul, you just need a soft place to land while you come back to yourself.

Welcome to Swearing Is Allowed, a podcast for the ones with big feelings, who carry too much, and are done pretending they’re fine.

I’m Haley Veronyak, a mental health therapist who’s not here to fix you, but to walk with you. Where ambition meets exhaustion. Where healing is real, not performative. Where we reclaim who we are, layer by layer.

Each week, we’ll talk about nervous system regulation, trauma-informed routines, identity recalibration, and how to build shame-free structure that actually supports you. Expect grounded psychology, no-nonsense strategies, and the kind of honesty that feels like both a hug and a wake-up call.

Because healing doesn’t mean becoming someone new. It means becoming more you. And yes, swearing is allowed.

🔔 Launching September 8, 2025. New episodes every Monday. Follow now so you don’t miss a beat.