In this episode of Unhooked, I am joined by Sam Webster Harris, host of the Growth Mindset Psychology Podcast and The New History Show. We dive deep into the concept of a growth mindset, dispelling common myths, and discussing its vital role in recovery and overcoming compulsive behaviors. We explore the evolution and significance of shame, as well as the powerful influence of neuroscience and neuroplasticity. Additionally, we share personal journeys, the impact of modern technology on habits, and practical strategies for self-improvement. Join us for an enlightening conversation that bridges psychology, personal growth, and meaningful change.

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📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/growthmindsetpodcast/
🌍 Website: https://www.growthmindsetpodcast.com/

🔗 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjamzen

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction
01:02 Meet Sam Webster Harris
03:16 Understanding Growth Mindset
08:57 Personal Stories and Insights
15:03 Challenges and Overcoming Addiction
25:35 Personal Struggles with Pornography
26:07 The Influence of Social Media and Algorithms
26:52 The Normalization of Pornography
31:57 The Concept of Shame in Human Evolution
34:19 The Role of Gossip in Society
38:49 Empathy and Understanding Human Behavior
45:29 Lessons from Podcasting
50:34 Conclusion and Future Projects

In this episode of Unhooked, I'm joined by Intimacy Expert Allana Pratt. Allana shares powerful insights into building and maintaining deep emotional and physical intimacy within relationships. The conversation covers strategies for overcoming challenges such as disconnection, rejection, and past trauma. Allana discusses the importance of vulnerability, slowing down, and establishing safe communication practices like the dyad technique. The episode also touches on the psychological benefits of psychedelic somatic integration for reconnecting with one's emotions and partner. Tune in for transformative advice on rekindling passion and building a stronger, more connected relationship.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:20 Personal Stories and Experiences

04:02 The Concept of Intimacy

05:35 Challenges in Relationships

08:59 Understanding and Expressing Emotions

13:50 The Power of Vulnerability

23:41 Practical Exercises for Couples

29:06 Healing Relationships Through Empathy

29:34 From Soulmates to Wholemates

30:04 The Power of Dyad Practices

31:45 Weekly Heart-to-Heart Conversations

33:27 Common Mistakes in Rekindling Intimacy

34:39 Step-by-Step Intimacy Rituals

39:55 Maintaining Desire in Long-Term Relationships

48:13 The Journey from Hopelessness to Hope

54:40 Connecting with Allana Pratt

Connect with Allana Pratt

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allanapratt/
🌍 Website: https://allanapratt.com/

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In this episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I'm joined once again by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Sam Tielemans, who has dedicated over 15 years to helping men break free from porn addiction and rebuild emotional intimacy. We delve into practical strategies for creating emotional safety and rebuilding trust in relationships following betrayal or secrecy. Sam and I discuss the importance of collaborative healing as a couple, effective ways to communicate, and how to validate and support a partner's pain without becoming defensive. Sam offers insights on how tackling relational issues can accelerate personal growth and provides actionable steps for handling relapses and sustaining honest communication. Join us for valuable advice on overcoming challenges and strengthening relationships through mindful practices and empathy.

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📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com

Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

02:38 Deep Dive into Healing Relationships

03:42 The Importance of Couples' Work

05:16 Navigating Relationship Complexities

07:03 Practical Steps for Healing Together

08:08 Validating and Acknowledging Partner's Pain

10:13 Effective Communication Strategies

15:57 Balancing Ownership and Education

24:37 Stabilizing the Relationship

26:05 Understanding Underlying Emotions

28:13 Effective Communication Strategies

33:00 Navigating Honesty and Accountability

38:35 Repairing and Rebuilding Trust

46:51 Hope and Transformation in Relationships

Connect with Sam Tielemans

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samtielemans_mft
🌍 Website: https://healingcouples.org/

🔗 Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/32uM9Y9DxEzyhAYLpPZzbQ?si=6ddd21c6f4a94677

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Join me as I celebrate 150 episodes of the Unhooked Podcast! In this special episode, I share 10 transformative lessons I've learned from over 300,000 downloads and years of experience helping people recover from porn addiction. These lessons cover essential topics like battling shame, the importance of community, the power of mindfulness, and much more. This episode is a must-listen for anyone on a journey to recovery or personal growth. Don't miss out on these invaluable insights!

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:46 Gratitude To You All

03:13 Lesson 1: You Are Not Broken

04:53 Lesson 2: Willpower is Not Enough

06:15 Lesson 3: Shame and Secrecy

07:59 Lesson 4: Recovery is Not Abstinence

09:12 Lesson 5: Progress is Not Linear

11:01 Lesson 6: Environment Shapes Behavior

12:53 Lesson 7: Community Accelerates Growth

14:04 Lesson 8: Mindfulness is a Superpower

15:39 Lesson 9: Take Ownership

16:53 Lesson 10: Freedom is Possible

18:14 Conclusion and Next Steps

In this episode of Unhooked, I'm joined by Tyson Adams, a trauma-informed IFS men's coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator who overcame a 20-year porn addiction. We discuss the profound impact of outgrowing porn, the importance of retaining life force energy, and how it can make life more joyful and abundant. Tyson shares his journey and offers insights into embracing semen retention, the importance of somatic practices, and how to achieve a loving relationship with oneself. We also touch on the role of psychedelics and offer practical advice for men seeking lasting freedom from porn.

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📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com

Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

01:18 Meet Tyson Adams: A Journey of Transformation

04:25 The Impact of Porn on Life and Relationships

08:28 Tyson's Personal Story: From Addiction to Recovery

13:09 My Experience and Reflections

14:24 The Turning Point: Realizing the Need for Change

21:39 Advice for Starting the Recovery Journey

22:01 Understanding the Role of Porn in Coping with Life's Challenges

27:12 Common Mistakes in Recovery

27:40 Somatic Practices for Healing

28:55 Sexual Transmutation and Energy Movement

29:27 Psychedelics and Porn Recovery

30:01 The Importance of Energetic Purging

31:46 Introduction to Semen Retention

33:35 Mindful Masturbation Practices

37:19 Reclaiming Sexual Energy

41:56 Impact of Semen Retention on Relationships

47:40 Final Thoughts and Advice

Connect with Tyson Adams

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tysonadams__
🌍 Website: https://www.thriive.life/lifeforce

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In this episode of Unhooked, we delve into the complex topic of betrayal with Lora Cheadle, a betrayal recovery coach and attorney. After discovering her husband's 15-year affair, Lora rebuilt her life and now empowers others to navigate betrayal, addiction, and relational healing. Learn about the true meaning of betrayal, how it impacts identity, and effective ways to rebuild trust. Lora shares tangible practices for both the betrayed and the betrayer, offering insights into handling shame and improving emotional connections. Tune in for a powerful discussion on healing journeys and the path to a stronger, more fulfilling life.

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📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com

Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction:

03:03 Lora's Story of Betrayal

04:23 The Discovery and Its Impact

08:58 Defining Betrayal

13:22 The Emotional Experience of Betrayal

15:28 Healing and Moving Forward

18:06 Publicly Sharing the Pain

22:10 Understanding Addiction and Coping Mechanisms

24:54 Evaluating Progress in Relationships

26:09 Common Mistakes in Healing After Betrayal

27:06 Self-Trust and Unbroken Promises

29:00 Balancing Responsibility in Betrayal Recovery

32:11 Healing Journey of the Betrayer

35:11 Signs of Genuine Effort in Recovery

38:04 Practical Exercises for Couples

39:44 Cultural Influences on Emotional Expression

43:19 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Lora Cheadle

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loracheadle/
🌍 Website: https://loracheadle.com/

https://loracheadle.com/betrayal-recovery-guide/

🔗 Flaunt Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/flaunt-create-a-life-you-love-after-infidelity-or-betrayal/id1473720482

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In this insightful episode of the Unhooked Podcast, I'm joined by Sam Tielemans, a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of experience. Sam shares his expertise in helping men overcome pornography addiction by addressing the deeper emotional pain driving their behavior. We discuss how to identify and heal the real reasons behind one's urges, the importance of understanding the 'first domino', and the three types of urges. Sam also highlights the significance of effective accountability and the ultimate goal of achieving true freedom from porn addiction. If you're tired of struggling with the same patterns and are ready for a real transformation, this conversation is for you. Learn more about Sam's unique approach, his podcast, and the tools needed to build a life of integrity and fulfillment.

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📩 Email: jeremy@unhookedacademy.com

Jeremy’s Online Course: Unhooked – Step-by-Step Guide to Quitting Porn: https://www.unhookedacademy.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:35 Sam's Journey into Therapy and Pornography Addiction

05:43 The Role of Shame and Perfectionism in Addiction

09:36 The Domino Effect: Identifying the Root Cause

14:48 The Importance of Accountability and Healthy Habits

18:49 Overcoming Limiting Beliefs and Toxic Shame

26:20 Personal Anecdote: Learning About Cars

26:39 Understanding and Identifying Urges

27:54 Framework for Categorizing Urges

31:13 Tools for Habitual Urges

33:47 Addressing Physiological Urges

35:19 The Power of Mindfulness

40:35 Hope and Recovery from Addiction

48:42 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Sam Tielemans

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samtielemans_mft
🌍 Website: https://healingcouples.org/

🔗 Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/32uM9Y9DxEzyhAYLpPZzbQ?si=6ddd21c6f4a94677

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In this episode of Unhooked, we delve deep into the often overlooked topic of porn addiction with Dr. Trish Leigh, a renowned cognitive neuroscientist and brain performance coach. Dr. Leigh shares her compelling journey into the field of porn addiction recovery, sparked by a powerful personal experience. We explore the brain-based mechanisms behind compulsive porn use, the harmful effects on relationships, and the ways social media further exacerbates the issue. Dr. Leigh reveals her five-tier model for healing, discusses the importance of addressing brain dysregulation, and introduces the concept of dopamine stacking during recovery. Whether you're struggling with porn addiction or seek to understand its effects on society, this episode offers invaluable insights and actionable advice. Tune in to learn how to transform your life and relationships by breaking free from the grip of porn addiction.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:20 Dr. Trish Leigh and Her Work

02:55 Dr. Trish Leigh Journey into Porn Addiction Recovery

08:37 The Science Behind Porn Addiction and Brain Dysregulation

10:32 The Five-Tier Model for Healing Porn Addiction

17:40 The Role of Social Media in Hypersexualization and Identity Formation

20:50 Understanding Compulsion and Addiction

26:03 Understanding Self-Regulation and Porn's Impact

27:17 Steps to Begin Healing and Recovery

27:36 The Importance of Brain Mapping and Digital Programs

29:08 The Role of Books and Masterclasses in Recovery

30:58 Challenges in the Unwire, Rewire, and Hardwire Phases

32:14 Dopamine and Pleasure Pathway Reset

33:57 Building a Foundation for a Healthy Lifestyle

34:57 Managing Stress to Prevent Relapse

37:52 Relational Impact of Porn Use

42:35 Hope for Change and Individual Empowerment

46:52 Support for Women and Relationships

49:31 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Trish Leigh

📷 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtrishleigh/
🌍 Website: https://drtrishleigh.com/

🔗 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrTrishLeighBrainRewire

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