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  • The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love
  • Written by: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
  • Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
  • Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (1,073 ratings)

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Attached

Written by: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
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Publisher's Summary

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

  • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
  • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
  • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

What the critics say

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

Editorial Review

Have you ever wished your relationships came with a handbook? Have you ever wanted to know how to attract and sustain healthy love? Then, Attached is the audiobook for you.

Typically, how we navigate our most important relationships is simply a reaction to what we have learned by observing those around us. Imagine how much better our relationships would be if we learned how to apply a more scientific approach. In Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller deliver an insightful look into what makes romantic relationships tick.

Just as individual love languages affect how smoothly (or not) a love connection can run, the authors’ attachment theory explores an individual’s attachment style and how it influences who you attract and how. Avoidant people, anxious people, secure people, and everyone in between have their way of navigating connections. Understanding why we, and the people we love, identify as such is the key to creating enriching bonds.

Chock-full of questionnaires and quizzes, Attached serves as a roadmap to attaining the romantic and loving relationships every individual needs to thrive. More than a self-help book, it draws on ground-breaking scientific research to shed light on the distinct ways human attachment affects everyone and how building long-lasting, intimate relationships is critical to living a fulfilled life.

Exploring the latest advances in relationship science, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment is a fascinating and valuable listen for anyone seeking to understand better and improve how they interact with their soulmate and all those they love.

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A Must Read

I had two different people recommend this before I finally added this to my library and listened to it but once I started, it was hard to stop. I cannot count how many times I had "A-ha!" moments while listening and how much easier it has made dealing with the politics of the relationships I find myself in...friends, family, and with my SO. I loved that this was based on so many people's experiences but that they picked specific illustrative examples to explain things. It made it more concrete for me.
I think that the format lends itself well to an audio book with the exception of the questionnaire but if you download it before listening to the book and then go ahead, you're golden.

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Amazing book

This is one of the most useful and informative books I’ve ever read, narrated impeccably.

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Highly recommended

The most important book that you will ever read. I'm still trying to gather myself from the shock of the truths that were revealed.

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Important read.

I finished it in piecemeal and wish had read it before. Extremely insightful and really appreciate the chapter on effective communication.

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love this book

I wish I could send it for free to everyone I know. Next goal is to find a similar book on parenting.

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Insightful helpful book

I thought it raised great points, but I disagree that avoidant people don’t date each other… they absolutely do. (I know a few of those kinds of couples, personally). It dissects codependency as a myth, as well, which I understand their thinking, but again I disagree with. Still a good read though, and worth the time.

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Excellent!!

The best knowledge and I have learnt a life long understanding. Thank you greatly so much!

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Excellent narration, and very useful information

Excellent narration, seems he was meant for this book. Very useful information, wish everybody read this book, there would be many more healthy relationships out there if so. Kind of depressing at times when you recognize yourself in some of these example relationships lol, but better to be knowledgable than ignorant. Overall, definitely worth my time and learned a lot about myself.

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loved it but

eye opener! but cant download pdf. would love to have it. is it possible to send it?

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Great “read”!

As a therapist, I like to recommend books to my clients and this one is definitely a must for those struggling with relationship, healing and those who do not want to repeat unhealthy patterns. Psycho education is the gateway to change and this book does exactly that! I also loved the narrator’s voice, it is engaging, lively and conveys the message clearly.

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