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Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

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Written by: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller
Narrated by: Robert Petkoff
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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

  • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
  • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
  • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio
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What the critics say

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

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Have you ever wished your relationships came with a handbook? Have you ever wanted to know how to attract and sustain healthy love? Then, Attached is the audiobook for you.

Typically, how we navigate our most important relationships is simply a reaction to what we have learned by observing those around us. Imagine how much better our relationships would be if we learned how to apply a more scientific approach. In Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment, neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller deliver an insightful look into what makes romantic relationships tick.

Just as individual love languages affect how smoothly (or not) a love connection can run, the authors’ attachment theory explores an individual’s attachment style and how it influences who you attract and how. Avoidant people, anxious people, secure people, and everyone in between have their way of navigating connections. Understanding why we, and the people we love, identify as such is the key to creating enriching bonds.

Chock-full of questionnaires and quizzes, Attached serves as a roadmap to attaining the romantic and loving relationships every individual needs to thrive. More than a self-help book, it draws on ground-breaking scientific research to shed light on the distinct ways human attachment affects everyone and how building long-lasting, intimate relationships is critical to living a fulfilled life.

Exploring the latest advances in relationship science, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment is a fascinating and valuable listen for anyone seeking to understand better and improve how they interact with their soulmate and all those they love.

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Must read (especially for the broken-hearted)

Great read. Very insightful and a great tool for growth after a break-up, especially while you’re still processing. However, there is a bias towards the anxious attachment and against the avoidance. That said, there is still great foundational knowledge to take to a therapist but it won’t cure you. It’s a great start.

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Life Changing

I recently went through a breakup and wanted to better understand what happened. This book had been recommended a year ago but I only just decided to dive into it. I’m sorry I waited so long to read it as I feel like what I learned will actually change the course of my life. I’m feeling really positive about future relationships as I now have a toolkit to better understand potential partners and use effective communication strategies. This book is a must read for those looking for love and even for people in happy relationships. I’ve already recommended it to several friends and will continue to do so.

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listen to it sooner that later

Contains numerous stories and comparisons. well written and if you are honest with yourself and your partner it is very beneficial. If you feel as though your relationship is in the way out, listen to it now. it may be what saves you. either to stay in the relationship or leave, with effective manners of whichever way you so choose.

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very informative

I learned a lot from this book and the studies it references. I also felt the narration was pretty good too

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The concept it LIFE CHANGING

The overall story is not captivating by any means, its a small series of stories as examples. The over all concept was life changing. It helped me better understand my self and why i go for the men that i do and why others act the way they do.
highly recommend it.
if you are struggling with relationships and wondering why nobody will commit to you, they just date you for 5 years with no ability to give you a concrete future then read or listen to this book!
Ive let every one of my friends AND BF borrow it.

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Great book.

Offers insights for understanding why we act the way we do. Offers practical tips for bettering relationships.

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Everyone needs to listen to this book!

If you are in a relationship, have been in a relationship or want to be in a relationship - you must read this!
Also a great read for parents or if you have a strained relationship with a parent - incredibly eye-opening!

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Life changing!

Years of self help books, some counseling and a lifetime of feeling like ‘I’m broken’ or there’s something wrong with me. This book helped me realize it’s not my fault and there is hope. I feel more hopeful about my future and the future of my current relationship which has been in jeopardy because of my behaviour. I am 100% anxious attachment style and at almost 50 years old, it has been a lifetime of suffering in romantic relationships. Now I have hope. I am very fortunate to have found a secure partner and I believe with my new found knowledge from this book, we can repair the damage done and move towards a loving happier future. One that involves me becoming secure. Just the knowledge alone has already stopped me once from acting out in typical anxious style. It has inspired me to use effective communication and let my partner know that I have needs that have to be met for me to be happy and secure in the relationship. Thank you for this, it feels like a life changing moment for me!!

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Everyone should read

Great read with helpful insights in navigating and understanding relationships along with helpful takeaways. Narrator was easy to listen to (even when sped up a little).

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Listened 3 times

It's so helpful that I’m buying the book. I wish they provided the lists they read in the pdf

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