
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert, Revised and Updated
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Eric Michael Summerer
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Written by:
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John M. Gottman PhD
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Nan Silver
About this listen
Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages.
This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
©1999, 2015 John Mordechai Gottman, PhD, and Nan Silver (P)2020 TantorYou may also enjoy...
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- Sharona
- 2022-05-12
Overall very helpful
There are a lot of hetero-normative examples. I could do without all the gender stereotypes, but the principles are what’s important. If you can get past the conservatism, it’s very helpful
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- Sheeram Babajee
- 2020-07-08
Lifetime tool
Worth it. Worth the time. Worth the money. Lifetime tool to be revise consistently by both partners as a team.
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- Eduardo Sosa
- 2023-07-17
Great advice
With very practical examples and exercises to do between couples
Great ideas for resolution of conflict
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- sm
- 2022-03-02
Must read
Great book on how to build the marriage you’ve always wanted. Breaks down the importance and why of of each step and then thoroughly explains how to do - both individual and couple exercises.
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- 2023-06-16
100% worth it !
Great content and easy to listen to. I even got in in paper form to take notes and make post-it all over it !
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- Maria sideris
- 2021-02-03
Marriage and relationships
This is the golden book on making your marriage and relationships work and thrive. Highly recommend!!
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- Matthew Rigby
- 2025-05-31
Sound principles, practical advice
Sound principles, practical advice! Not amazing as an audio book because all the exercises are fully read through by the narrator. It is slow and disruptive to the read.
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- David D.
- 2020-09-28
Great!
Great content. It would be nice to have the physical book now because their are so many questions to work through.
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- Anonymous User
- 2021-03-07
Fantastic book - get the physical one
This book has great information and is really informative. The content is worth getting this book especially to help you marriage. But I recommend getting the paperback.
As an audible book this is difficult to listen to due to the couple dozen quizzes they read out loud. Each quiz typically has 10 questions or more and I wouldn’t be surprised if an hour or more of the book is just reading these quizzes to you. It is fairly annoying.
However, content itself is fantastic and I took quite a bit from this book to apply to my marriage and relationships. Worth reading.
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- Emily Rush
- 2023-02-16
Helpful for any relationship
This book was recommended to me by a couples counsellor. Is applicable even if you’re not married yet. It’s probably worth buying a hard copy for the exercises as they’re hard to manage in the audiobook. But for the written content, the audiobook is great.
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