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Fight Right

How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection

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Fight Right

Written by: Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, John Gottman PhD
Narrated by: Roy Worley, Kiiri Sandy
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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES

Conflict is the top reason couples seek help—but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world’s leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates.


“An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again.”—Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.

Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.

Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.
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Highly recommend if you’re single or not, some incredibly important tools everyone should have, and written in a way that anyone can understand. Boys, study this ;)

The guide of all guides

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I really appreciated this science based approach to communication in relationships. I will definitely be buying the hard copy to use as a workbook to put these principles into better practice :)

Super informative

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Excellent content, but comes off as a bit repetitive in this format -- the Quick Guides are not helpful checklists to return to in an Audible download, maybe. The alternating male and female presenters both have warm, pleasant voices and the sample fights are performed very plausibly. It would be nice if they didn't say the key phrases over and over in the same manner to attempt to make them memorable, but again, this is more an issue with the format, I think, rather than the narration. The data from the lab is fascinating, and converted into very practical (and sometimes counterintuitive) advice that almost any couple could use. Carathatic for anybody trying to understand a past relationship or negotiate fights in a current one!

Great material, maybe not best presented by audio

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I like how John and Julie uses their own fights as examples as well as others. It is helpful to know that they themselves use, and from time to time forget to use the steps in here.

I have used many of the techniques in this during some of my own recent fights and they have helped, with assistance of our marriage counselor, to move the needle to fighting better.

When using the ideas, techniques it is important to remember that it is about getting better not perfection and reflecting on how the conversations could be better next time.

Great advice for anyone looking to improve their relationship with their spouse.

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Everyone should read this book!! This book should be taught in Grade 12 school!! I was blown away by it and bought the hardcover to highlight certain spots that I will be referring to in my future!! This book will be my wedding present from now on!!

Mind Blown!!

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