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How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism

Written by: Stephen Guise
Narrated by: Daniel Penz
Length: 5 hrs and 49 mins
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I remember when I aimed for perfect workouts: 30 minutes was the minimum.

I was in lousy shape.

I remember when I aimed for perfect dating: it couldn't be awkward, forced, or uncertain.

I didn't talk to women I was interested in.

I remember when I aimed for perfect writing: I wanted 1,000+ words of quality material per day.

I played video games instead.

I carefully avoided mistakes, endlessly ruminated about what I didn't do, and what I did do wasn't enough.

Then, I became an imperfectionist.

Everything changed. I had fun stories to tell, like the lesbian pizza incident and the most nervous "Hi" ever spoken by a human being. I learned more. I laughed more. I lived more.

I got in great shape, read more books, and improved my social skills. I wrote Mini Habits, which is being translated into a dozen languages.

I found I could mess up and still win.

Perfectionism is a naturally limiting mindset. For example, kids are taught to color inside the lines, and any color outside the lines is considered a mistake that must be corrected. Imperfectionism frees us to live outside the lines, where possibilities are infinite, mistakes are allowed, and self-judgment is minimal.

While the freedom of imperfectionism is impactful, it does not preclude us from having problems. Imperfectionists aren't so ironic as to have perfect lives, they're just happier, healthier, and more productive at doing what matters.

©2015 Stephen Guise (P)2015 Stephen Guise

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The (im)perfect book for perfectionists

Lots of insight and actionable advice for anyone who struggles with perfectionism, procrastination, and habit formation.

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  • Ash
  • 2020-01-09

A little repetitive but drives the point home.

A different take on motivation. This helped me feel not only inspired, but that I can actually maintain the progress I want to make. A little repetitive but sometimes we need a consistent outside prospective to understand what we do to ourselves in our own heads.

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Plusieurs bon trucs à retenir

Très bon livre, agréable à écouter. Contient plusieurs trucs très faciles à retenir et à mettre en pratique. Je le recommande et je vais certainement le réécouter.

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Goodie

I like his ideas. They really help me see all the wins in my life. Good follow up to mini habits and elastic habits. Free yourself from ideas can be very freeing. Enjoy

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great book!

I will never be able to look at Lisa Simpson the same way again after reading this book! It is very helpful if you want to feel better about not having every task go the way you want/expect it to go and how you can work on changing those thought about it having to be just so

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A Book to change your life

suffering from being a perfectionist, getting stuff done was a challenge. ideas and concepts in this books has giving me a structure on how to combat my urges and helps me get things done.

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Super

Lots of actionable advice presented in a straightforward but entertaining and humourous way. I'll be checking out the author's other works!

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An Imperfect Headline

I really enjoyed this book. This book provided a simple answer to something as complicated as the topic of perfectionism is. It provided examples of both a perfectionist and a Imperfectionist which helped in the understanding of the material. I haven’t read his first book but I thought it was still a good read regardless. I would definitely recommended.

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A lesson in changing one's perspective

It wasn't the easiest listen for someone new to self-help. Mostly because I was listening to it in the background at work, but Stephen has a great perspective and there is much content that everyone could benefit from hearing.

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  • Sandra Makuch
  • 2016-10-16

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Where does How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is one of the most life-changing books I have ever read and listened to and read and listened to. I'm guessing it would impact anyone's life in a very positive manner, if taken to heart. Guise takes aim at perfectionism in an honest, engaging way and the wonderful advice is easily applied. Guise has a lot of down-home clarity and he impresses me with his humility and transparency regarding his own struggles with perfectionism. I highly recommend it.

What was one of the most memorable moments of How to Be an Imperfectionist: The New Way to Self-Acceptance, Fearless Living, and Freedom from Perfectionism?

The discussion of analog vs. binary ways of evaluating our efforts was particularly helpful.

What about Daniel Penz’s performance did you like?

I found it hard to believe he is not Stephen Guise! Often when listening to recordings of books, I think the narrator is not understanding what he is reading; Penz reads it like he wrote it! He has a great voice and manner of speaking.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Both - it was funny and made me laugh at the author and my own foolishness, but I also felt sad as I realized that I had created so much suffering for myself and others with my perfectionism, and that I had so little appreciated my own efforts, just because they were imperfect.

Any additional comments?

A must read for a healthy, productive life.

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  • Rafaela Santana
  • 2019-06-03

THANK YOU FOR THIS BOOK.

Honestly, I started listening to this on audible and just could not seem to “put it down” or pause it. During all my trips from and to work and other places I listened to this book in the car and every time it spoke to me SO much I struggled with this idea of perfectionism for such a long time, I couldn’t quite describe it or explain it to people what was going on in my head I just KNEW that I was feeling like a complete failure, I had been inactive and stagnant after losing 40+ lbs and gaining it all back within like 8 months, striving to do everything perfectly exercise at 7am, run 30 min do 2 sets of abs anything short of that was a bad workout, this mindset led me to binge eating, I put extremely unrealistic and high expectations on myself and OTHERS in my life, it was ruining relationships, it was mentally draining, I didn’t know what was going on WHY I couldn’t just get it together and act like a normal person. The weight gain only increased my self hate and guilt, I had stopped doing things I enjoyed doing like hanging out in groups because I thought everyone was judging me in their heads. It was honestly just a dark and ugly place I downloaded this book from audible on my phone and I kid you not the first chapter had me hooked, Stephen explained one step at a time EXACTLY what was going on with me I could finally express myself to people and say I had been trying to be a perfectionist and I forgot my identity and humanity. I apologized to people, I started “rebellions” against my needs for approval and I FELT FREEDOM again after a lonnnng time!!! Thank you for this book. This is my first book by Stephen but I have already downloaded Mini Habits. Can’t wait. Life changing.

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  • Amazon Dummy
  • 2020-06-17

Awful narration makes a decent book worse

I wasn’t sure what was worse: the awful narrator that reminded me of a sleazy salesman who used finger guns to make himself seem more likable or the frequent attempts at lame humor spread throughout the book or just the awful advice that sometimes makes you question how much you should take the rest of what he’s saying seriously. For example, he says that in order to stop anxiety, stop being anxious! Really? He also seems to like to brag about how his book is a best seller and is being translated into many languages. His insecurities really come out throughout the book, and it’s off-putting.

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  • ili pika
  • 2019-04-24

No, no, no...

This may be a wonderful book that will be helpful to many people in overcoming perfectionistic traits. I don't know, because I had to bail on it after only 20 minutes of listening. Within this time, the author suggests that anorexia nervosa is the result of a person's desire to attain the "perfect weight." This is utter nonsense. It is a complex psychological condition, the exact causes of which are unknown, and with a likely predisposing genetic factor. For anyone to make the claim that they have done "research" to support their theories, and then propound this kind of nonsense, strikes me as someone who has taken tolerance for "imperfection" to an unacceptable level. Gah! I wonder if the author supposes that no one with this condition will read his book? Has he considered the possibility that he might actually be doing harm to that person? People with mental illnesses are vulnerable, and their welfare should be taken into consideration by anyone discussing mental illness in any context. There is a difference between being particular about certain things and being "OCD." There is a difference between feeling nervous about entering new situations and having "social anxiety." Not everyone who is nerdy is "on the spectrum." I do wish we, as a society and as individuals, would exhibit more sensitivity in the ways we discuss mental illnesses, and avoid such casual references to things that very real people struggle with in very real ways.

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  • Robert M. Long
  • 2018-07-21

Superb - This book identified my source issue

The narrator is great. The book content spot on in the source of anxiety and depression, forgiveness... Will see. I just read it, but this book might have saved my life.

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  • Bettie Thompson
  • 2020-08-20

An easy to navigate, life changing journey.

it kept me entertained and listening carefully throughout this book. I like the fact that all of the techniques were at the end for easy referencing later. I have to repeat why another reviewer said about how this book reads me. I have denied and fancied being a perfectionist For as long as I can remember. it has simultaneously been the goal in the stumbling block. this book pointed that out to me and how I want to rid myself of this ball and chain. I want to thank the other for billing to me how serious this flaw is and how prevalent it is in our society.

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  • Sarah DeBree
  • 2020-07-22

Good book

I like that this book applies to just about everyone. However, the the readers volume goes up and down as he reads and is very annoying.

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  • Lisa A
  • 2020-05-30

Just Not Right

The narrator or the book make it really hard to follow. Is he reading a subtitle or what? The author kept mentioning avoidance is how perfectionists deal with things and they watch a ton of TV to escape how they are?? I've never heard of such an odd way to look at it and it is not how I am at all. I am a workaholic with my own business and cannot relax because I'm always trying to be perfect! I hate watching TV! I strive to please everyone and I'm fine listening about my flaws so I can change and be my best, but after 2 hours, I couldn't relate or take it anymore, between the author and the narrator, I'm glad this was one of my free starting audiobooks.

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  • Bridget Lorraine
  • 2020-04-24

This book has transformed my life.

One of the best self help books ever. I've read so many, but this has had a stronger impact and the habits in this book have been way more do able. The book is easy to understand and will really take you out of your comfort zone. It truly is a paradigm shift!

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  • Levan
  • 2020-01-28

Life changing!

A great pragmatic guide to overcoming perfectionism. I struggle with it as well and this book has been highly encouraging and illuminating. Thank you for the great work! must listen.

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