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  • How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
  • Written by: Fumitake Koga, Ichiro Kishimi
  • Narrated by: Adrian Mulraney
  • Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (908 ratings)

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The Courage to Be Disliked 

Written by: Fumitake Koga,Ichiro Kishimi
Narrated by: Adrian Mulraney
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The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness. 

The Courage to Be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self, change your future and find lasting happiness. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future - free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. 

It's a philosophy that's profoundly liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is an audiobook that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to Be Disliked has been published in English, so can you. 

Please note: This is a recording of the 2018 print edition. 

©2017 Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga (P)2018 Bolinda Publishing Pty Ltd

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Life changing

When I first started listening, I thought “oh god this is weird, I don’t like listening to this at all”. But then I forced myself to get past the part where they explain the different philosophies and psychologies...... and I think this is one of the most life changing books there are. It’s a conversation between a professor and a student and it really allows the material to seem real instead of just reading a normal book. You listen to the students arguments against the philosopher and how the philosopher explains his points. So good.

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  • Kia
  • 2019-05-10

Listen to the sample first!

I wasn’t prepared for how the content is presented. It’s a dialogue, but one person portrays both roles AND the narrator. It can be off-putting if you aren’t accustomed to this approach, or expecting something different. Definitely listen to the sample first!
I liked the concepts presented (epidemiology and teleology) but would have preferred a different format.

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A change on your perspective

Whether or not this book will benefit you, depends on your ability to open your mind and change your perspective. I listened to and finished this audiobook within 2 days. Some of the concepts are harder to embrace than others, but if you listen to this audio book and do some of your own research on Philosophy and Psychology. You can change your life and negative viewpoint for the better.

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Profound Book

A profound book which discusses Adlerian Psychology. I learned new concepts such as Life Tasks, Ernest Living and Dancing in the Here and Now.

I agreed and recognized some of the ideas as true - intuitively, while disagreeing with others - vehemently.

At no time did the book leave me in a state of neutral.

Not an easy read. Substantive and weighty, it will appeal to readers with an interest in psychology and philosophy.

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This is an amazing book. Well written, read, and presented.

I was so happy to listen to it.

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Delightful introduction to Adlerian philosophy

It presents the philosophy of Adler very clearly in a manner that works well for audiobooks (i.e., conversationally). The core message is that all problems are interpersonal relationship problems and that the courage to he disliked in interpersonal relationships is the definition of freedom.

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Lifechanging Book

Excellent book! Many times I paused, rewound a bit, and listened again. Sometimes I listened to just a chapter or so, a short, quite bit into a concept, and then pondered it for a time before returning to the book. Surprisingly, there were a few moments when the truth of the thoughts brought forward in this book rung so true in my being that I teared up and felt a lump in my throat, filled witb emotion. I find that while some thoughts and certainly vocabary are new to me, there are many aspects here that simply affirm the way I currently live my life. I find this book 'lifechanging' because it offers thought-provoking wisdom though manageable, relatable dialogue - and even in the reading of it, I have changed.

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The courage to be disappointed

So, the courage to be disliked. I will start with the positives. First, I think the title is fantastic. It describes the book better than most other titles will. I know this because I hate myself for listening to it. So give credit when credit is due.

I think that's all the positives. Let's briefly give something negative.

It is structured so strangely. If I know I'm not going to like a book, I don't bother finishing it because I have others I want to listen to that I can enjoy. So, I don't know if it gets better, but the first hour is a chore.

The book is structured as if you are an outside observer. You are listening to differently people carry on a conversation about all these different topics. And the narration is so mundane it does not give any of these characters any kind of differentiation. It is like a spoken version of a chat log. Person 1: help, person 2:with what? Person 3: I think he needs help, person 2: I know but with what, person 1:.............

And the fact that they are voiced so similarly makes it feel you are listening to triplets you have never met or seen before carrying on a conversation about philosophy. No, I can't recommend this book at all. The content could have been ok because where I gave up he had started making something beyond the most basic of points. But at that point the narrator talking to himself style just hurt my head.

But hey, if you ever needed a reason to dislike yourself, take a dive.

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Insightful

I enjoyed the dialogue through which the author conveys Adler's thought on happiness. I think the author conveys Adler's insights on how to be happy. Sensing and experiencing happiness in life is a choice and that the past and future are a distraction from the precious shimmers of the present moment; that freedom, belonging, and meaning can be attained through the responsibility of one's own tasks, service, and key to positioning oneself in the service of others with an attitude free of any expectations and more. Good read and re-read for any age.

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Fantastic everyone should read this!

This is my first time learning about Adlerian psychology also the first book I have read that was written by a Japanese author. I can tell you that I intend to read a lot more books that fall into either category as this book was simply fantastic!

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  • Blair Elton
  • 2019-08-28

Approachable, applicable.

Hints of Buddhism, Stoicism, antifragility and all the elements of practical psych & philosophy in an easy to listen to, conversational form. Loved it!

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  • 2019-07-31

You Will have some many "aha" moments

Great Book, you will be complete inmerse in the dialogues! If you are looking for something new and fresh, this book is for you

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  • Lolly Gwabavu
  • 2019-06-28

Great concepts, poor execution

Some really great insights and philosophy. The monotonous drone of the same narrator speaking as both Sage & student does not work well. Characters not at all relatable. Would have read better as a straight forward how to or essay on Adlerian psychology.

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  • JD
  • 2018-07-10

this book is life changing

I will not be the same having read this book. thank you to the authors.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2020-01-03

Life changing

This book beautifully puts together the recipe to living freely and happily in an uncomplicated way.

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  • Andrew Crook
  • 2019-07-31

wow

Yea, this is a good one. I found this book insightful and relevant. The book was easy to listen to, as a dialogue the audio book format is ideal.

just as the author concluded, I am researching and learning of Alfred Adler.

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  • Ricardo
  • 2023-05-09

Not recommended

Not for me went round in circles and no real point to the book . Some good points but could summarised on one page

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  • Anonymous User
  • 2022-08-28

Average listener

The general idea or topic of the book is fair. The earlier chapters successfully draw the listener into more listening. However, it is monotonous and as such may be for a seasoned listener with keen interest in philosophical theory.

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  • Patrick
  • 2022-05-26

Not Buying Into It

I get people make excuses for things, but this is almost nihilistic. It promotes disregarding competition altogether, rather than how to deal with things like failure or genuine inferiority. Not really helpful.

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  • Mann
  • 2022-01-26

A bitter and powerful dose of reality

I sincerely struggled with the first hour of the book as I found the dialogue setting a bit annoying. Luckily, I persisted as the conversation started to get richer with some profound concepts like interpersonal relationships, separation of tasks and contribution. It's a heavy listen/read but worth it if you like rigour of a well defined philosophy.

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